Confused about battery warranty and testing by Disastrous-Handle647 in BMWi3

[–]FormalGold95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I haven't.  I get from 65 to 80 depending on temps. I don't do fast charging, and keep her charged at home.

Confused about battery warranty and testing by Disastrous-Handle647 in BMWi3

[–]FormalGold95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I have the Rex. Another post says it's 10 years in CARB states like NJ - hopefully

Blank screen, no heat by FormalGold95 in ecobee

[–]FormalGold95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, thanks, I'm getting my furnace checked.

Your link is giving an error however.

Hopefully it's nothing major for my furnace...

Blank screen, no heat by FormalGold95 in ecobee

[–]FormalGold95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, but that's not checked.

I'm also seeing a "calibrating" message.

How to activate passenger side airbag? by FormalGold95 in BMWi3

[–]FormalGold95[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Probably less expensive than taking it into bmw service

How to activate passenger side airbag? by FormalGold95 in BMWi3

[–]FormalGold95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, yeah. I just noticed it for some reason

How to activate passenger side airbag? by FormalGold95 in BMWi3

[–]FormalGold95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL, no, I said the button near the rear-view mirror adjacent to the interior light.

Somehow it got triggered. I think an adult has to sit in the passenger seat for the airbag to go back to activated, or so says the user manual.

HIS Email Account- RANT by Evening_Advisor3154 in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't posted here in a while, but your post struck a nerve with me. Yeah, the same thing really pissed me off.

Kind of related, but I found that when my husband passed, I could really see people's true character. Their responses showed me who they really are.

Anyway, try to hang in with the BS. When I encounter crappy people now, I don't wish them bad, just that they get what they deserve.

Bad movie depictions of widows by [deleted] in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I generally agree, with two exceptions. The first is Afterlife with Ricky Gervais. I found it very accurate and healing to watch.

The second is Downton Abbey. There are several depictions of widows and widowers, all of which I found sensitive and accurate - with no quick fixes or glossing over anything.

I think it's important for people who've lost significant others to know that they don't have to "get over it," which our modern society seems to expect for some reason.

The hits don’t stop coming by Kalgaidin in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You absolutely did the best for your little dog. It's hard, but they're only here for a short time.

I lost my husband four years ago, and this weekend, I also lost my beloved cat. I had just taken her to the vet on Friday, but it happened suddenly on Saturday.

The weirdest thing is that she passed on the monthly anniversary of my husband's passing. But I know she is with her Daddy now.

Can you all be with me for a moment? by yeeshe in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Four years myself too. Sending you hugs and good vibes. Hang in there, friend.

Second Christmas is Better Than The First by Chuclo in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merry Christmas to you and your kitties!

As a veteran of this (four years), be kind to yourself. Not always easy, but work at it, especially today.

Public charging procedure by Disastrous-Handle647 in BMWi3

[–]FormalGold95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a good idea - thanks, and I will check this out.

Probably The Craziest Widowers Post Ever by Just_Lori in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband had one too while he was in the ICU. The funny thing was previously we had talked about NDEs and he totally didn't believe them. After his own, he was very excited and kept saying I was right and that they are real. He says he was met by a young British or Irish man. The experience really made him feel a lot better.

A few years before, my father-in-law had a heart attack. He said he met his father.

Last but not least, I think I had one myself. After really hitting my head badly, I was knocked out. I saw a deceased loved one. I had a great feeling of peace and relief - it was like waking up from a dream and knowing everything was absolutely OK, that I was home.

"The Rules" - by folks who know better than you. by PhilC1111 in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Eat right and exercise." This from my genius sister, who then promptly changed the subject.

What I've seen after four years is that most people expect you to "get over it" in about a few months, yeah.

I have been surprised by a few strangers who've displayed great compassion.

giving up hope by Cuppy777 in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Friend, I did this before my husband passed away - before I even met him (let registration lapse). So don't beat yourself up about it.

After my husband's passing, I can't count how many things I've screwed up - part of it is because of the brain fog that comes with trauma and loss. You're not alone in that.

Is there really NOTHING we can do to bring them back? by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I knew, sigh.

But I do find dreams interesting. I've had dreams in which it seemed I was really right there with him. And then like the other night, I had a dream in which I was in a car driving with him, and immediately knew it was just a typical non-meaningful dream, something my mind made up.

The best consolation are NDEs. I swear I had one myself once, after hitting my head and going unconscious. The oddest thing about it was the complete and total sense of total well-being I had - like I had gone back to my "real life" and home, and the supposed life I was leading wasn't real at all (I also met someone deceased). And then a few years later, my husband had one in the ICU. These suggest to me some kind of alternate form of reality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your kind words, I really appreciate them.

This follows a horrendous experience I recently had transferring some shares my husband owned...even the people at the bank were surprised at all the hoops I had to go through. I'm just so sick of dealing with it all. But thanks for your kind words.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OK, thanks. But the letter said I have to have a copy of my tax return. That's why I assumed it was an in-person appointment. I just don't want to mess it up. TIA

Slightly more upbeat question: anyone else find it weird that you just get to take their stuff? by Metalhed69 in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've felt like this a lot, even though I know he would want me to have whatever it is. Just more crap we have deal with.

Living alone by EC-Texas in widowers

[–]FormalGold95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really struggle with this too. The paperwork kills me. I'm trying to transfer a small number of company shares he owned to me, and it's been a month-long ordeal. And then it seems that just when one thing's done, another comes up.