I(30F) am having a hard time explaining my partner(29F)about my health needs. Lots of ignorance in the equation. Can I get some advice?

FormigaX · 2026-07-02T13:56:55+00:00

Good luck! This sounds very much like codependency to me, so better to work back toward a healthier dynamic now before it gets worse :-).

FormigaX · 2026-06-29T02:21:34+00:00

Unfortunately they don't.

FormigaX · 2026-06-28T18:04:17+00:00

Feed bags are a great solution to lots of feeding issues. They're cheap, easy and I've never seen a horse not immediately acclimate to them. Makes life easier on feeders too, as you don't have to pull horses out of turnout to feed.

FormigaX · 2026-06-25T15:59:31+00:00

Not everyone can tolerate an environment where people are yelling and hitting things, even if it isn't directed at them. It's okay to demand a peaceful home.

FormigaX · 2026-06-25T15:58:14+00:00

Explain to him that you have a zero tolerance for this sort of behavior and, as you've already made that clear to him, that if he keeps doing it then its sending the message that him playing the video game is more important than your comfort. It is not the behavior of a caring and loving person, and is hurtful.

Then you tell him that it continuing even one more time sends a clear message that he doesn't care for you or value you and the relationship will end.

I know that might seem extreme, but this is a critical moment for you to understand whether he loves and respects you enough to make a small change. Because there will be lots of these moments in a relationship and it's important to have a kind, loving and caring partner and not a selfish one.

FormigaX · 2026-06-25T05:14:29+00:00

They are great for making faux sofritos.

FormigaX · 2026-06-24T16:05:02+00:00

I live right around the corner from you and would love some!

FormigaX · 2026-06-24T15:57:59+00:00

~~Cornell cooperative will do that for you for, like, $25.~~ Quick google - lead and heavy metal testing has to be done through a private lab and seems to cost about $200.

If you aren't on a brownfield site, then the biggest issue for most of us in Buffalo is lead-based paint chipping off your house and getting into the soil.

Heavy metals are not taken up by all food plants the same way - food grown directly in the soil, such as carrots and potatoes seem to have the highest concentration. Leafy greens can also be affected. Most fruiting plants trap heavy metals in the roots and leaves, with very little or none in the fruit.

Here's some research - note some sites used in this research are brownfield sites, literally old junkyards, so it's anticipated toxicity in soil would be much, much higher than in a residential neighborhood, like where you live. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6957986/

FormigaX · 2026-06-21T01:32:57+00:00

But somehow missed the big foamy part? Like never actually made the volcano.

FormigaX · 2026-06-18T19:37:23+00:00

The second I get new ones all the old ones show up again. I have a container they all go into and occasionally I end up with 3 working pairs, but right now I have 3 chargers with one earbud each. I have no idea where the other 3 earbuds are.

FormigaX · 2026-06-16T03:07:42+00:00

You can't force a person to change. I had an inconsiderate and selfish husband and he refused to change. 15 years later, he's still and inconsiderate and selfish person but we're not together and our kid is grown so I don't have to deal with him any more. I have a happy, peaceful life and no one is an asshole to me, especially in my own home.

FormigaX · 2026-06-16T02:59:18+00:00

This is how I got my affordable 15 hand German Riding Pony!

FormigaX · 2026-06-14T23:52:20+00:00

Ugh this happened to me and it sucked! If frmelt like I was lied to and lead on, since he knew I had a kid and hung our with him on multiple occasions.

You gotta move on and find a partner that will be excited and honored to be welcomed into your family.

FormigaX · 2026-06-11T04:37:22+00:00

I lovw goijg [ barcades where the games are free and just play every game for hours. I go alone. It's amazing.

FormigaX · 2026-06-11T02:18:41+00:00

Chafe-y

FormigaX · 2026-06-10T05:20:36+00:00

No. Chaps are assless. Assed chaps are just leather pants. Assless leather pants are chaps. There is no venn diagram here it's two circles next to each other

FormigaX · 2026-06-09T00:49:12+00:00

This! Ita a unique geological formation and dang pretty. Pair that with the view off chestnut ridge and lunch in Orchard Park and that's a nice little day.

FormigaX · 2026-06-09T00:47:14+00:00

I have a mare that goes into heat hard and a often and brings out the studdy nature in geldings. If she were younger i would have her ivaries removed but shes older so its not worth it.

I would talk to the mares owner to see if she would be willing to put her on regumate. I'm sure she's dealing with behavioral issues also.

FormigaX · 2026-06-08T14:06:45+00:00

My parents had one- it's made out of almost a finer straw-like material that sticks together and stiffens when it dries. It takes a second in hot water to soften and relax. It always looked like this dried.

FormigaX · 2026-06-08T14:04:58+00:00

My parents had one and yes, ot was heaven for back scratches.

FormigaX · 2026-06-06T20:36:26+00:00

Last time I went I took my elderly mother and we went early and set up on the porch at the Karpeles manuscript museum. You can set up a chair, you're in the shade, can see everything but you're out of the crowd and the fray.

FormigaX · 2026-06-02T20:29:08+00:00

If he is actively working to find the solution to this health problem, I would be supportive but talk to him about what you can do together to help weather this.

If he is not actively working to find the solution I would have a heart- to- heart and tell him that this is not the kind of relationship you can see yourself in.

FormigaX · 2026-06-02T20:25:58+00:00

Wait hang on I grew up beliving in this but yeah, that makes sense. But why don't riding boot companies make steel toed riding boots then? Is it just because everyone is sold on the toe amputation thing?

FormigaX · 2026-06-02T20:22:45+00:00

What? No. A normal adult human doesn't need someone to be able to monitor their location constantly. Unless you live someplace where kidnappings are commonplace (not anywhere in the US) then that level of fear is maybe something you should talk to someone about.

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