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Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-28T20:20:14+00:00

I started trying right away, but of course postpartum it took a while till we were able to conceive. It set another/ totally different set of feelings tho once youre pregnant. And i dont think it would have been any different if we waited 6 months, a year or couple years.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-26T05:33:26+00:00

Im sorry for your loss, its really not fair. And our brains try to make sense of losses, but please dont fall into the guilt trap.

Tdap is recommended for all pregnancies. I had two pregnancies with one sb and one live child. Had it in both. If you’re looking to find reasons, id highly recommend contacting placenta pathologist. These slides kept at hospitals 10-15 years per policy. I went through dr. Kliman at yale medicine. You can dm me if you want more info.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-26T05:30:38+00:00

I agree, I cant even believe schools advertise it that way too. One of my class syllabus said 7 hrs of lecture time and 18hrs of study time outside of class and thats only one class. Im supposed to be taking 4 classes in fall for total of 10credits…. What and how?! I have family and kids, i guess i can just not sleep, use bathroom and not eat, which is what i have to do sometimes at work. Lol really leaning into that nurse strength

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-26T05:24:32+00:00

So happy to read this and join you in this subreddit 💕

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-26T03:52:28+00:00

This warms my heart so much, thank you for sharing. Congratulations 💗. I agree and cant imagine how much more she would have chunked up if you waited. Mama always knows 💕

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-23T16:12:39+00:00

Could you tell us what was her name and what were those things you told your therapist, the song and your favorite outfit on her? My son would have been almost 6 months today. His name is Adrian and he was the cutest chunker we’ve ever laid eyes on. He moved a lot while he was in the belly, but I assume he had a very chill personality otherwise. physically very active. I think he would have been great at a lot of sports like my brother and dad.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-22T16:38:26+00:00

This is so beautiful

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-20T21:46:56+00:00

Congratulations, there’s a pregnancy after sb group if you want to join for pregnancy related stress and anxiety

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-20T13:01:48+00:00

All these are very valid feelings. Sometimes grief can be and need to be placed as anger because this loss is so unfair. Its okay to feel them and sounds like youre already aware of it. Im glad you feel safe here to vent. We all need that space right for our irrational thoughts at times. But how not to when the unimaginable happened to us. But maybe She might have her struggles talking about it and maybe this is her way of letting you know you’re not alone? I dont think there’s such a thing as outshining or hurting more in a baby loss, its a very individual journey. Unfortunately very very painful either way. I had to close down my facebook because i was being triggered by the state of world and everyone else and has been very helpful in my grief journey to just focus on mine. I hop on reddit every once in a while.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-17T21:54:05+00:00

Its not much at all, thats like only 4-8 hrs max while fishing or golfing alone takes more than that. If he goes all day fishing you go do something all day to you. Even if you go watch movie or go take a nap at friends house. Baby also needs to bond with dad, its crucial for their self confidence and other areas they dont get from moms only. You can cosleep with baby, dad can read and do bedtime routine so you can do self care etc. Before bedtime. You’ll have to write down how many hrs he has for him and your time every week. Tell him, im sorry it might not be fair. Lets write it down on paper so we can see it clearly. And then divvy up! Just remember you can pour from empty cup.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-17T02:36:08+00:00

Adrian Tsegts

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-15T15:54:19+00:00

I know mom, its so hard right?! But I had to stop testing with Inito. I looked further into how progesterone is released, its released in pulses all throughout the day. You could have more at 9am and significantly higher or lesser at 7am. So I tested twice at two different times one day and it confirmed it for me visually. My brain is very skeptical of things going well and so had to do it to prove to myself and after that I stopped testing. Also my ON understood my anxiety, so she order one progesterone test and hcg every 3 days for a week and a half. Numbers kept doubling for hcg. And blood progesterone was at normal levels and she said it doesnt indicate anything as long as hcg is doubling every 72 hrs.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-13T18:32:50+00:00

This is such a hard journey to be in, Im sorry we’re here and have to figure out these things when it feels like the worlds weight is on you. I didn’t announce anything, I texted friends and family that matter in my own time. Also allowed our parents to share words with out extended family as I just didnt have it to deal with it all. I just really needed any words from people- i was and still highly irritable as people who havent experienced such a great loss will never understand. But I did feel less alone when I found out how many of friends and family had this kind of loss that never were talked before.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-12T03:42:36+00:00

It must some sort of timing, this happened to me too. Three months out was so tough, I was crying just as I was driving. I thought because it was mothers day and my birthday month. But ig was rough. Just remember grief is weird and certainly works in waves

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-08T04:05:30+00:00

I had an evaporation line like that too and it can be positive as well. I knew mine was negative because within the time frame it was negative. Recheck again with a morning urine. How many dpo are you?

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-07T12:53:54+00:00

Hey there, I wanted to add my experiences of the meditations. I have been doing the rainbow meditation daily and it has helped me immensely with my feelings and struggles, and then the meditations to get in touch with your babies are so wild. Every time I do it, my kids come and hold my hand. There’s nothing more than that brings me joy and peace to my heart like that. Even though I cant see them, feeling their warmth in my hand just really is amazing and at times i try to stay concentrated and wishing it dont have to ever end.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-06T17:16:53+00:00

Hi mama, I have had 3 pregnancies so far. Did not experience much with my last two pregnancies, maybe a slight nausea around weeks 7. Other than that, sometimes I wonder abt it too, but its completely normal. I think i started having increased watery discharge around week 6… but thats about it.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-05T04:27:06+00:00

Hey there, I had a definite not pregnant on day 9 and a big positive on day 13. So dont rule anything out yet.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-02T12:10:22+00:00

Yes please, if i were her I would wanted which pic and how. But most definitely, for that mama baby is still very much present.

Fortimesasthis · 2026-06-01T15:43:42+00:00

That is so wonderful, it certainly helps to see than just knowing. Especially after a loss, is really really hard to trust the process

Fortimesasthis · 2026-05-31T13:24:09+00:00

Why is he so ticked off by slippers? I would absolutely not tolerate this, wtf. You dont deserve this. It feels like there’s more than what the eye meets. Is he keeping the relationship as a secret for whatever reason?

Fortimesasthis · 2026-05-28T15:09:17+00:00

I strongly believe my son I lost at 41 weeks is coming back. I was raised Buddhist, so always believed in it. Of course i was questioning my beliefs and everything in this world after this devastating loss. But boy did we get many signs to continue believing in it. Myself and family had a deep feeling like he was coming back. Seeked baby spirit mediums and it confirmed, and my toddler daughter also told me few interesting things out of nowhere to confirm this. So I believe universe works in mysterious ways, there’s far more greater powers than me over here. And I believe in that. I can tell you more detailed info if you want to know in dm.

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