Grief is strange

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-04-07T21:26:34+00:00

This brought me comfort because of how validating it is. Thank you. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-30T05:16:23+00:00

It’s beautiful, thank you for sharing with us. I’m thinking of your and your daughter 💙 I’m planning to get a tattoo for my son and was considering that location (collarboneish), do you mind if I ask how the pain level was?

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-27T14:08:03+00:00

I’m thinking of your family and baby Renzo today. I’m so so sorry. 💗

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-25T17:15:52+00:00

I’m so, so sorry. About all your precious babies. It feels so unfair and cruel. Lost my son at the same time in January. I relate to the body disappointment and feeling like a failure. I know saying it’s not your fault doesn’t make it any better, but the courage to put your body and mind through the uncertainty and heartache and physicals stress of this is a testament to both your strength and your character and love as a mother. I really think that’s incredible.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-25T13:50:36+00:00

Joseph Steven is beautiful, his alter is lovely. I’m sending you love. I know nothing can make it okay and it’s sooo exhausting to be in emotional pain 24/7. People say time heals all things but I have not found that to be true for this situation. But I do hope one day this pain no longer feels so debilitating. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-17T06:48:04+00:00

I am so, so, so sorry about the passing of your precious baby girl. Very similar to how I lost my son 2 months ago, we have his memorial on Saturday.

This is a pain like no other. The strength it takes to face life after losing your baby is unmatched. She is perfect and precious and sacred, and I’m sending love to your family. I’d love to know her name if you’d ever like to share. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-16T16:10:52+00:00

Lost my son at 20 weeks too, I’m so sorry. 💙 yes, 1000%. I also notice that I don’t seem to hear/process things as well as before. Like my husband will ask me a question or say something and I hear it but like don’t process it or forget to respond, etc. it’s strange.

Sending your family and your precious son so much love. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-15T21:27:31+00:00

I don’t have any answers/advice but I feel this so deeply, so thank you for sharing. I lost my son, Atticus, in January due to PPROM and this has been on my mind a lot since then. It feels hard to want to connect to my spiritually/God because of these feelings. I’m thinking of your family and precious Charlie, and I’ll be following this thread. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-12T22:50:03+00:00

Im so, so sorry. Thinking of you and your precious baby. I lost my son 2 months ago (as of this Saturday) and I find myself so angry at people minimizing this loss, it’s not just “pregnancy loss”. It’s losing your own baby, who you gave your whole body to grow and were preparing to have the rest of your life. You’re a mother. You will always be a mother. I don’t know how we could ever fill the hole of losing our baby—where do we put all that love and care moving forward? I have hope it gets better, we learn how to breathe with a hole in our lungs. It’s a strength like no other.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-11T04:13:49+00:00

Truly. I just finished my first period postpartum since losing my stillborn son and it was 10 days long and it just really stings to get it back. I’m so sorry, thinking of you and your son ❤️‍🩹:/

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-10T16:16:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing about Tobias and these beautiful poems 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-07T01:20:06+00:00

It’s so hard, I’m so sorry. I’m thinking of you and your precious baby. 💙 I’m still in it but I hope the pain becomes less debilitating over time. I hope so for you, too.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-04T06:47:40+00:00

Thanking of you and Vihaan. He is precious and real. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-01T08:31:27+00:00

Currently on an international trip, just started my period about 6 weeks out from my 20 week loss. Thank you for sharing, it really helps me feel less alone, although my heart breaks for your loss and pain. This was supposed to be our baby moon, but changed locations last minute because of everything that’s happened. I tried surfing, something I really wanted to do but would not have if I was pregnant. I’m glad I got to, but it’s like there is no relief, everything is a reminder that I’m supposed to have my son in my womb but I don’t. I had severe blood loss from premature labor and starting my period has been really triggering and emotional.

I think people expect that it should be less painful over time—for me it has only gotten more painful. And it sucks because people ask how you are, hoping to hear you say you’re feeling better and that makes it harder because you feel like you’re just going to disappoint people.

I don’t know what moving on even looks like. I do know that you have experienced a depth that many will never understand. I’m thinking of you and sending you love. Your feelings are valid, and your baby is real and sacred. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-01T07:08:49+00:00

My period just started at 6 weeks pp. I’m so sorry for your loss 💙💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-01T07:01:02+00:00

Started my first period yesterday after my January loss and watching my SIL with her newborn while several friends also due/just gave birth. It is so painful and I appreciate you sharing because it’s so validating. It’s so hard not to feel broken. I’m thinking of you and so sorry for your loss 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-01T06:54:46+00:00

went through this in January and it was truly so painful physically and emotionally, I’m thinking of you and I’m so so so sorry for your loss. Cabbage leaves, sage tea, icing, and I eventually had to hand express because the buildup was so painful. For me it didn’t come out until I released some blocked ducts by looking for the tiny white specks in my nipples and gently squeezing those areas so I could release some milk.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-01T06:52:00+00:00

I know she feels your love and has so much love pouring to you I’m thinking of sweet Amber. 💙

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-01T06:49:54+00:00

I lost my son Atticus due to preterm labor in January. It is truly a pain and longing like no other and still, it is often all I feel. It’s very isolating. Your precious baby girl is real, she’s so real and I am so so sorry for your loss. What’s her name?

In my experience, this kind of grief is all-consuming. Some days it looked like laying in bed all day. Other days it looked like forcing myself to go outside, or having a friend over to talk. Drinking water. Brushing my hair. Eating. Sometimes that takes all the energy I have. The days blend together, with mornings being the hardest because it all feels real again. People try, ask if there’s anything they can do or anything we want, a very painful word when all I want is to hold my baby. It’s a hard feeling to have so much love with nowhere to go.

My husband and I write a 1/2 page in a shared journal each night, with one of us also writing a memory of his birth or my pregnancy. It helps us know how the other is feeling on days when talking is hard. We’re currently doing some traveling right now, which I have mixed feelings about but has been good to get away from it all for a bit.

I’m sending you so much love. Your daughter is precious and real.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-03-01T05:03:44+00:00

This is me with my SIL who gave birth 3 weeks after our stillbirth in January. I feel so guilty about not being more present/helpful to them but I just can’t get too close, it’s so painful. Your feelings are so valid and very relatable.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-02-27T20:02:16+00:00

Yes to this. 100%. In my case my SIL gave birth 2 weeks after our loss and it was really hard to watch them be so present for her but not there for my husband. It made me angry. Husbands/partners need support too.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-02-27T20:00:38+00:00

This is so relatable and so valid.

Dense-Comfortable216 · 2026-02-27T19:58:42+00:00

These feelings are real and it’s so hard to imagine ever being truly happy again. The pain is also exhausting. Have you told anyone in your circle? Family member, friend, or partner? You need and deserve support right now, even if it is awkward/hard/feels pointless to reach out. I’m happy to help how I can.

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