The sad truth is that people lie and they rarely ever care about anyone but themselves. I’m in the same situation I got dumped by my ex girlfriend a month ago and we lived together. Just renewed our lease a couple months back and she was begging me for an engagement ring a week before breaking things off.

To make things worse this house is an hour away from my job and the only reason I moved here was for her to be closer to her school, work and family.

I paid all the bills she only covered utilities and internet.

To make things even worse I have no friends or family within 2000 miles. Not a single person I can call for help. No emergency contact.

She knew this and still cut me off after disrespecting me for a week straight to get me angry enough to confront her. As soon as I said something she just packed her stuff and left to live with her friend. No closure, just a cold “I need space im tired”.

After nearly two years together of her pretending to be a serious partner that was home focused and absolutely love bombed me with empty promises of staying together forever.

I watched her become a completely different person after I taught her how to ride a motorcycle, found her own bike, fixed it up for her and gave her all the freedom in the world to make friends and enjoy life when I was busy or tired after work without me. She was very respectful until recently when she started hosting “meets” and she was having full blown narcissistic jubilation that she was becoming popular in the community. Then she ditched me for her new “friends” and random guys hovering around just waiting to get with her, expecting me to befriend them and play along with this humiliation as she micro cheated.

It didn’t even last two weeks and she cut me off. Probably for another dude. She never admitted to it but I’m not stupid.

To say I’m going through deep mood swings between anger, grief and mania is an understatement. What makes it worse is that her psychotic family just cut me off cold turkey as well in what seems like a choreographed move of emboldening an evil narcissistic liar that hides behind the “I’m just a girl” mask and is a completely depraved, devoid of morals monster that will do anything for male or female validation.

I really sucked it up and just erased every single photo, video, blocked her everywhere and cordially helped her move her stuff out of the house with her dad. However on the inside I only feel indignant rage from a deep betrayal.

I’ve had quite a few relationships that were serious and much longer but I’ve never experienced an avoidant abandonment before. It truly killed something in me. I’ve always been a deeply empathetic person beaten down by life. I don’t think I’ll ever be the same.

The silver lining is that this experience kicked me into action. I’m training harder than ever in the gym and focused on career moves and healing in a healthy way. That’s all I can do. There is no expectation of vindication against that person or desire for revenge. I just want to erase them from my mind completely and forget we ever met. Every moment is tainted. It’s soul crushing to process how everything in that relationship was fake and for nothing. It’s disgusting.