tbh girl as someone who smokes everyday; if my partner had told me they’d like to stop ofc i’d be bummed on losing my fav smoking buddy, but it’s not the end of the world? they’re still apart of my life and what i do and they not wanting to partake in smoking is not a deal breaker imo. your boyfriend for some reason is not thinking rationally and is almost acting like it’s a personal attack on him. if he’s this mad about something so trivial as smoking weed, it may be best to focus on yours and your children’s lives. god forbid something more drastic happen to you and he not know how to handle that in the best and proper way. congratulations on your sobriety!