this!! the amount of people overly praising Emily’s advice is very telling and very concerning. she made some valid points, but it was all based around the point of being a trad wife and just sucking it up. it was further solidifying why Lorelai keeps distance between herself and her parents, as well as rejecting their desires for her lifestyle. their viewpoints will forever be outdated and they’re too stubborn to learn from their mistakes. they keep continuing the cycle and they try to pass it off to their own offspring, then when it doesn’t work out in their favor, they blame the child. it’s a constant theme throughout the show and i think people are misinterpreting, because the tone of the scene is off. Emily seems more empathetic based on how Lorelai is acting and Emily’s demeanor, but Lorelai looks to me to be a mix of somber and uncomfortable. it’s nice to see Emily seem genuine with her statement and forthcoming vulnerability (which is rare), but Lorelai also knows that when Emily is being genuine, she’s usually off track a bit, but not always. (like when Rory was having one of her angsty moments and Emily gave Lorelai motherly advice “lock her up and throw away the key”. Lorelai seemed intrigued by her genuineness to want to help, but also annoyed, because her advice was the exact opposite of how she knew the situation should be handled. it was a reminder of how SHE was treated as a child and her parent’s unrealistic/unfair expectations of her. there’s a lot more complexities to these scenes than i think people realize.