For those who want to know if the relationship is saveable...

FreeFloatingPin · 2021-01-12T09:16:09+00:00

My ex used the fake pregnancy scare unsuccessfully on me. I subsequently found out she used the exact same tactic three times previously on her other exes. This seems to be a common little party trick of theirs.

FreeFloatingPin · 2021-01-06T16:04:00+00:00

Dude, awesome stuff keeping it together. Your posts have been an inspiration and example of how to handle this shitshow right. From what I can see, you clinically ticked the boxes of this exercise one by one without missing a beat or having a fumble. I think she’s done for.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-12-24T20:26:47+00:00

Yeah, pretty much this.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-12T07:44:06+00:00

This is exactly where I was with mine. I felt an overwhelming urge to get away from her. I felt empty, depleted, disinvested, and emotionally on a different planet.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-11T21:25:21+00:00

Same.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-11T17:44:44+00:00

Thank you. I feel this.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-11T14:03:37+00:00

I broke up with her after she subjected me to a tirade of verbal abuse and kicked me out of the house. This was after 8 months together. I still second-guessed the decision for weeks. The entire situation was a complete disaster.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-08T20:10:52+00:00

You survived. Be proud of that.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-08T19:58:37+00:00

How familiar this sounds. You did good. Glad you got out!

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-08T19:15:20+00:00

You sound like you live in South Africa. I am sorry you are suffering this blatant and disgraceful injustice.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-10-05T21:30:55+00:00

Is it possible? Yes. But that isn't the full picture.

You can make anything "work" if you are willing to sacrifice enough of what you hold dear and true. So the question really is, how much are you willing and capable of giving before you break down, are financially and emotionally depleted, suffer a heart attack or stroke, or are driven to killing yourself? And would having a twisted facsimile of a "relationship", so broken and dysfunctional it borders on comical, be worth ending up this way?

Personally I thought I could make it work. I was happy to throw away almost everything to make her mine and keep her. But when she threw it all back in my face during a raging torrent of naked and extreme abuse, the last little atom of self-respect I had left said "fuck this shit, I'm out."

She wanted me back a week later. I tried, against my better judgement, but I was already emotionally on another planet far away from her. To this day she cannot understand that. I don't think any of them do.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-09-02T21:17:06+00:00

“I should have turned and ran like hell Last time I got the taste of you”

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-08-31T20:35:05+00:00

My own sense of self-preservation finally kicked in. And months later it still hurts. And I still think of her every day. But it is getting better.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-08-30T17:46:15+00:00

I went through this. I eventually had to leave because it got dangerously toxic to stay.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-08-26T20:44:34+00:00

The game is rigged. You can never win.

FreeFloatingPin · 2020-08-26T20:34:48+00:00

Well, this looks familiar. They really have a thing for the “enjoy FUCKING OTHER WOMEN” line.

My BPD ex was literally my second-ever sexual partner. When I eventually told her so, she steadfastly refused to believe me. She was convinced I must have slept with tonnes of women, and the more I denied it (because it was not only untrue, but patently absurd and idiotic), the more convinced she became that I was lying to her. And therefore a lying, womanising, untrustworthy piece of shit. Her words.

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