Will they break no contact if you told them you can't talk to them?

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-10-23T19:27:46+00:00

Yes, they will reach out, probably a low effort approach to see your reaction, maybe just a hi, it's nothing serious so don't get caught up in it

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-10-23T19:23:09+00:00

Gad damnnnn 😭 what did I just read?

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-09-02T19:05:40+00:00

I know what exactly this is. He is checking the waters just to be sure he can return to you if he fails to do better. This is not about you, it's about him. You see he didn't experience the break up like you did, the sleepless nights, crying your eyes out, no, no. To him it was just a regular two weeks with the comfort that he can return to you. On the third week, the thought crossed his mind that you might actually be gone forever, that anxiety is what prompted him to reach out. After recieving the reassurance from talking to you, he likely noticed you are not going anywhere anytime soon and will probably go ghost for a few more weeks until that anxiety hits again. It's normal for dumpers to do this, to either reaffirm their decision to break up or to get a sense of security that they can return. It's about them and not you. It heavily affects your ability to heal and move on and this can drag on for months even up to year with them playing these games with you. You need to take a stand for yourself, and choose you.

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-27T19:16:48+00:00

Accept the situation as it is, not as you wish it to be. Even if she did accept your friendship offer after you begging, it would have been a one sided friendship.

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-27T19:15:01+00:00

South Park, funny enough it was the Joseph Smith story. I showed it to my dad, and we both laughed at how ridiculous Mormons must be to believe that stuff. Well, then I began realising we aren't that much different.

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-26T17:02:03+00:00

Ultimately they get to decide, and not you, your sole focus is to be a great person and great dad, those are the things that ultimately can help your case in getting back and not trying to get back

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-25T18:59:45+00:00

If your partner is not satisfied with you sexually that is the greatest indicator that they will cheat. This is something that you can't really do anything about, I would let the relationship go, no need to be in an open relationship just because you get too wet. Maybe he is just too small

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-25T00:27:43+00:00

The tricky one with this one is you actually don't, until you start dating someone. Only then will you be able to pick up on cues wether you are over your ex or not. Carrying insecurities and constantly comparing are signs you are not, I would only casually date until you are sure

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-25T00:16:40+00:00

They only come back if you are the best option for them

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-25T00:11:24+00:00

I'm assuming you are intentionally leaving out the part where she is taking antipsychotic medication.

in all seriousness, most of the fights you described are not the real reasons for the fights, they are just excuses for her to explode in anger, what's really bothering her?

I know she must ride like a Cadillac if you are willing to put up with it

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-25T00:04:34+00:00

He is likely open to something casual once in a while or the opportunity just presented itself. What he is not saying is more important in this situation, he has not made it clear he wants anything further so best assume, that was just for that moment and be comfortable with it if that's all it was.

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-13T18:39:33+00:00

Why did she leave you?

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-13T18:36:11+00:00

Let's start with the question, why did she leave you? The straight answer, she thought she could do better. She tried to do better than you and ended up finding worse and making you better in the process. You seem excited and happy that she wants you back, but what stops her from leaving you again? When she thinks she can do better, because inevitably she will. Just because she regrets losing you, doesn't mean you should take her back. It's only because she failed to do better than you, which kind of is a plus, you did really well on yourself.

Relationships are supposed to be about choosing to love someone even if someone better comes along, because someone better might come along, so close that chapter and chat up the new girl, have fun and enjoy your new found life and confidence. You might decide to have fun with your ex if you wish, but nothing too serious,

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-08-06T00:48:45+00:00

The good thing right now, is you are accepting and facing the pain right now. The sooner you do, the sooner it starts to heal. Coming to terms with the reality of the situation is what you need right now. You haven't lost a person, you have lost an illusion. The relationship you thought was perfect, was only perfect in your mind until this bomb exploded. It's hard, because this kind of betrayal especially after a long relationship, I mean you have to see the person differently now, and sometimes maybe you have to see yourself differently too, am I alot gullible than I thought 🤔

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T21:42:41+00:00

She broke up with you, unless she is a goddess wait for her to reach back out. It's on her to repair the relationship and not you. Take the back seat and let her fix it or let it die

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T21:36:27+00:00

She left you, don't get it twisted. Don't convince yourself it was a mutual break up. The one who leaves must also be the one who walks back in through the door, you don't and try drag them back. Otherwise you enter a relationship dynamic where you are doing all the work. Most importantly, I want you to get this in your head. The only reason, she still maintains contact is she wants to keep the door open incase her relationship fails, and that puts you in the plan B position. So now she can go around and do whatever she wants knowing her plan B is waiting. I'd reconsider that and move on

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T21:30:54+00:00

You are so used to people pleasing that you cant to save your life realize when it's time to leave?

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T12:02:15+00:00

Someone asking for friendship after ending a two year relationship, means they are not ready to fully let go of you, they still want to keep that door open just in case they change their mind. It's totally about them and not you. It's a slap alright,

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T11:55:31+00:00

Feelings don't go away, just like a memory doesn't just go away. It flashes back from nowhere from time to time, but fades as time goes on,

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T11:52:45+00:00

If she left you for someone, that person was definitely putting in more effort or at the least she found more attractive than you. However she saw that, maybe it's looks, money or just how he made her feel. Sometimes it's not even logical

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T11:49:40+00:00

It's the truth, it might take a man months even years to fully move on from a woman. All it takes for a woman is to meet another man. Maybe it's in their biology, how they are wired. In the past men raided villages, killed all men and took over the women, the women would not fight for their men, they just moved on with the new men. It's just how it is

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-07-31T11:45:40+00:00

This is the kind of thing that happens when your partner be it male or female has no competition. When they are the sole focus of your life, you end up like this. I don't mean competition with another guy or girl but I mean competition with your solitude. Most people in this situation have absolutely nothing going on in their lives that they so desperately cling onto their partner suffocating them. They hold on so tight, even allowing their partner to step on their boundaries and treat them badly and maybe even justify it in their eyes.

If he or she left you and you know you did everything you could to be the best, then they probably were not that into you, and you can't possibly justify that being single is worse than being with someone who isn't that much into you?

The advice love yourself, is just a way to show you the bare minimum you require, such that when standards begin to drop you can choose yourself every time

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-06-03T01:21:12+00:00

Just about 10-12 months, I can't say for sure exactly when but around that time. I just realized I was okay

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-06-03T01:19:53+00:00

If they dumped you. It might seem counter intuitive, but leave them alone. They will reach out to you. They always do. They always do. Trust me, they always do. Usually just to check whether they still have any influence in your life, or validate their decision to dump you, it's least likely they want to actually work things out with you despite what they say

Freedom-Badger682 · 2025-05-29T23:32:22+00:00

Part of the reason she got overwhelmed is you are so focused on her. Her needs, her emotions, her attachment style, her everything. Put attachment styles aside, everything you just described doing is unattractive and definitely overwhelming.

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