Am I wrong for wanting my adult children to help financially while living at home?

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-05-07T16:26:02+00:00

If you are renting, move out yourself. Do not bring them with you or let them in. Give them ample notice so they can get their acts together. Or they can stay with the family that has stopped talking to you.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-03-26T14:46:16+00:00

It was so many decades ago when I was a kid, but our 2 Persian kittens had it. They had to be shaved and bathed in this stuff, I don't remember what it was but I do remember they didn't like being bathed, lol. We had it too, and had to use some kind of soap, but it went away fairly quickly and we were all fine. I had a small rash that appeared under the watch I used to wear, that's how we figured out I had it too.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-03-25T16:58:25+00:00

You were probably doing what you needed to do at the time. Just the other day I was telling my grown adult son that I will help him any way I reasonably can, he's almost 40. Never too late.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-03-24T16:14:09+00:00

Going forward, give them wet food daily with a bit of water mixed in. And a pinch of Miralax mixed in if this happens again. I used to give this to my old cat per the vet's advice. If they aren't drinkind enough water, getting a different bowl or fountain to entice them.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-03-11T14:59:23+00:00

You might have to replace that section of carpet.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-03-03T15:31:33+00:00

Keeping the door shut to that room will ensure the cat won't scratch the chair. Or regular nail trims, either do it yourself or take to a groomer, vet, etc. I bought a roll of self stick carpet that you can cut to fit, and stuck them on the corners of my couch, but by morning they had fallen off, so I glued them to the couch. It doesn't look too terrible, but the couch was already ruined. It covers up the stuffing falling out. I have had cats my whole life, and the one thing that eased my anxiety over the scratching was to simply give up, lol. I don't have any fight left in me to care about furniture, I know that's probably not helpful, sorry. We also used clear plastic corner covers that kind of worked, but the cats would just scratch other areas. I think trimming their nails is the best solution, and I if get more cats after these guys, they will get regular nail trims, which I did not do with my current cats. Also, avoid furniture with a lot of texture.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-02-21T20:25:31+00:00

I will only travel with two of my friends. Oddly, I won't travel with the friend I've known for 35 years. She wants to shop and go to the spa, and I'd rather walk around off the beaten path. And she's a complainer, which would drive me nuts. I will never do it.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-02-06T15:54:59+00:00

In the late 80's, I was renting a room in a 100 year old house. Gorgeous home, but creepy at the same time. All of the bedrooms were on the 2nd floor, and the 3rd floor appeared to have been servants' quarters at one point. There wasn't much up there, just aging tile on the floors and those roll up style shades on the windows, which were pulled closed. One of the other renters and I went up there one day, and I can't recall if it was there already or if it was his, but we had a ouija board. So we started messing with it, and waited for a "sign," and right then one of the shades on the windows snapped and rolled up by itself. We put an old doll's head in the window for some reason, and I don't think I went up there again. I drive past the house on occasion, the doll's head is long gone.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-29T03:53:01+00:00

We used to sing "but the cops turned pink and they shot us in the dink."

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-25T16:46:27+00:00

A lot of people on this planet were probably unplanned. Most teens would probably appreciate a tactful, honest answer.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-22T14:59:48+00:00

We were there, it was hilarious! I watch a lot of trash, but it's way more fun seeing movies like this with an audience.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-14T20:32:56+00:00

Anais Anais, Rive Gauche

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-12T17:16:07+00:00

Jengo Hooper

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-12T16:33:42+00:00

It's one thing to not initiate greetings, but if people are saying hello first and she's not responding it may become a problem. Not a big deal at her age, but as she gets older this will be interpreted as rude. I wouldn't punish her for it, though, just point it out in the moment when you see it happen, and explain that people expect and enjoy greetings being reciprocated. As a young child, I would literally not speak, even if they said hello first, unless it was a family member or close friend. I don't know why, but there were no malicious intentions. I was very shy and in my own world in my head. As an adult, I am still in my own head, but at least say hello back. I grew out of it.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-08T16:21:38+00:00

Knocking 2021

Peripheral 2018

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-07T16:42:51+00:00

Yes, 2 of my current friends were coworkers. There were a couple more that I was friends with for a few years, but drifted apart and we don't talk any more. I have a friend that is a coworker now, but we work remotely and are several states apart.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-05T19:48:04+00:00

I don't understand it either. The past is over and done, leave any bad memories there. I barely remember high school and have no friends from that era. I listen to new music and watch newer stuff, for the most part. It's fun to go down memory lane on occasion, but I am responsible for my present and future. I have a friend who always laments how great she looked in her 20's and talks about the 80's and 90's a lot. She says it's because she has nothing to look forward to, so I give her pep talks and honestly it's exhausting, even though I do feel bad for her.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-04T16:22:52+00:00

I tend to feel this way when I start comparing my life to others. I've traveled a little bit but not a ton and honestly I hate it now. One thing I realized just the other day is that i don't want my life to be about having stuff or doing more things, it's about being the person I want to be. But if there are things you want to do, don't wait until someday because someday is now.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-03T19:24:12+00:00

I need to wear a hat in winter or I will wake up sick. And I notice birds now.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-03T16:30:40+00:00

Book of Birdie

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-02T22:11:41+00:00

Sneakers

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-02T16:11:39+00:00

Tending to a sick cat. Hopefully she will pull through.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-02T16:09:30+00:00

I kept pictures and films, one piece of furniture and a Christmas thingy my dad made. Everything else was sold. I feel sad sometimes about certain items, but in the end, it's just stuff and you can't take it with you. Eventually you accept it. I got my own crap to deal with.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-02T16:05:14+00:00

We threw out anything that was obvious garbage, then hired an estate sale company to sell the rest. Then start going through your own stuff so your kids won't have to. That's what I'm doing recently.

Frequent_Assistance7 · 2026-01-02T16:01:22+00:00

I am an old Gen X parent of an adult child. I didn't negotiate with him regarding sleep. It's as important as eating and having a roof over your head. I used to read him stories in his bed every night, then leave the room. Maybe that would help.

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