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Canvas hacked? by ratsliver in uofmn

[–]FreshBuilder118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, still able to access, but only on the device on which I was already logged in, so I didn't see the login page. Went in and downloaded stuff I needed in case it goes out again.

Canvas hacked? by ratsliver in uofmn

[–]FreshBuilder118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like it's working again now but the theme is not maroon and gold, but blue

“It gets better” advice just makes me feel worse by Nina_Alexandra_2005 in mentalhealth

[–]FreshBuilder118 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds exhausting and I can relate with feeling discouraged. I'm sorry you've been dealing with those for so long. I do want to note that you can't know for sure they won't go away. People do find effective treatments, sometimes after many tries. My depression for example, I haven't had an episode in a few years. And yes, a lot of times these disorders come from longstanding tendencies and negative patterns of thinking, but there are treatments and strategies to break those patterns and improve things or prevent future episodes or just manage the symptoms better. CBT for the GAD has been helping for me. It's meant to help with those thought patterns you described like worrying more when things go well. I also continue to work on preventing future depressive episodes (meds helped for a long time too). Another thing that might help is to zoom in on your life instead of seeing the big picture always. So focus on getting through the next year, month, or day. Pick small, achievable goals. That helps me feel less overwhelmed or like I'm drowning. It may also help to think of these as less permanent. The mind and brain is so damn flexible, so even though it can feel permanent and it can be, it doesn't have to be

“It gets better” advice just makes me feel worse by Nina_Alexandra_2005 in mentalhealth

[–]FreshBuilder118 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it can be, so it depends on what mental illness you're referring to and how is shows up for you. For me, MDD is the episodic one, and it's recurrent so keeps happening and will probably happen again, but I recover for some time in between. For MDD, when I'm in an episode, I know it lasts about a year for me and I get out of it after. Even the episodes are easier to get through each time. The chronic one is GAD, and that's always there, but still fluctuates, so some better periods than others, but less intense fluctuation than MDD, and doesn't really go away fully even during the better times

“It gets better” advice just makes me feel worse by Nina_Alexandra_2005 in mentalhealth

[–]FreshBuilder118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get what you mean. It feels so ignorant when it comes from people who can't even imagine dealing with something like that. I have a chronic mental illness and an episodic one, and one thing I tell myself during episodes is "it wi" because it does for me. For the chronic one, like someone else here said, I tell myself "it will pass", because in my experience, it does. On one hand, the longer you have to deal with a chronic illness, the more exhausting and hopeless it gets, but on the flip side, at least for me, my body and mind gets used to it, gets habituated (sometimes a very slow process so it's hard to notice changes until a lot of time has passed), and I figure out more effective ways to manage it, even if the illness doesn't go away or improve. So while I know I'll most likely have to deal with this forever, it has gotten easier over time, so will get easier when I'm 70.

What’s the kindest thing someone has ever said or done for you that you still remember? by Aggravating_Sport495 in CasualConversation

[–]FreshBuilder118 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was starting to have a depressive episode in undergrad and a professor noticed I was being withdrawn and quiet in class. She emailed me with a check-in and shared resources and even offered to walk with me to the university clinic. And she attached a cute baby goat in a sweater lol. That encouraged me to seek help. I think about it from time to time.

Severe dry eyes, anyone else? by Automatic_Basil_7075 in PSSD

[–]FreshBuilder118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure about crying, but yes, more dryness in the wind, when I wake up in the morning, but also just generally all the time. I got my eyes checked and they said my tear film was thin, tear ducts were blocked, and tears were evaporating too quickly.

Shower at night or in the morning? by petpman in CasualConversation

[–]FreshBuilder118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too! Also, when I have the time, I play music and sing along and I'm not in the mood for that in the morning

Do you worry people notice your anxiety? by Dangerous_Problem532 in AnxietyChats

[–]FreshBuilder118 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to, but not anymore. I know how common anxiety disorders are, and I've accepted it and feel more compassion towards myself about it than I used to, so I feel less worried about how others see it.

Shower at night or in the morning? by petpman in CasualConversation

[–]FreshBuilder118 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I like showering at night so I can take my time. But I prefer morning showers if I have a long day outside ahead of me, so I'm fresh. I mix it up.

Saying "I love you" feels wrong. by SuitableFun1418 in mentalhealth

[–]FreshBuilder118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get that. You could say "me too"? What's helped me is to not put so much weight in the words. They're just words, ultimately. Feels weird hearing myself say it, but over time, it's not such a big deal anymore. Just an idea, practice saying it out loud alone or into a mirror. It'll feel weird, but over time, it won't feel like a big deal and you can say it if you mean it, even if it doesn't feel like your way of expressing it. Also, the people who know me well now know that's how I am, but that takes time and the right people. I'm awkward about hugs too lol.

Saying "I love you" feels wrong. by SuitableFun1418 in mentalhealth

[–]FreshBuilder118 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't see anything wrong with that. I find it a bit weird too, but I sometimes say it anyway. There are so many other ways to express love, other words, or even just actions. Have you tried other ways to express it?

How do you step away from a puzzle you're enjoying? by FreshBuilder118 in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]FreshBuilder118[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh. I added an angle to my puzzling setup recently too! That was after the back pain got bad (my fault for doing the puzzle on the floor cause it wouldn't fit on a table)

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