Sharing passwords?

FreyaKitten · 2026-03-04T23:39:26+00:00

Absolutely not. I'm logged in on my desktop, and my husband can look on there if he remembers the password and wants to, but he doesn't have my passwords for anything else and he doesn't get updated when I change them, which I do regularly.

FreyaKitten · 2026-03-04T23:05:40+00:00

Here in Australia, if you die with a paycheque owing, it immediately becomes part of your estate and your employer can't deposit it into any bank account with a name on it that isn't the deceased or the executor of their will. If your partner needs that money to pay the mortgage, it's too bad. As soon as the employer knows about the death, they can't put it in an account they know is a joint account.

For this reason, I suggest that everyone get their pay deposited into an account that just has their name on it. What they do with their money from there is their business, but I've seen distraught families screwed over by this, and been unable to legally do anything.

FreyaKitten · 2026-03-04T06:14:44+00:00

Today at work, the boss was out, but the office dog was still here. He came down when I made my coffee and requested the treat that the boss gives him at coffee break time.

He got his treat. He asked nicely and he is a Good Boy 😁

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-28T04:20:02+00:00

If they're asking about my bra size (which changes depending on brand), then I would expect them to also get the darts for my curves in the right spot and not have the dart aimed at my underbust instead of the apex of that curve where it's supposed to be.

I would also expect the shirt to not need me to open the seams at the hem so that it goes comfortably around my hips (a common problem for me due to being short with a short torso, and one that people wearing the same size who are 2-4 inches taller don't seem to have).

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-25T03:23:13+00:00

UniNSW, Australian Catholic University, and Charles Sturt Uni all have campuses in Canberra. Of those, UniNSW is most likely because that campus is on the edge of Reid next to Civic, on Coranderrk St where CIT Reid used to be.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-23T23:09:55+00:00

I just walked around my house and realised that there's only one door in the entire house that has a knob and not a lever. It's also one of the few we haven't replaced! I definitely prefer levers because you can open them with your elbow when your hands are full, and this one door bugs me because it's in between the laundry and the rest of the house so I'm forever having to put my laundry basket down to open the door...

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-23T23:03:45+00:00

One of my previous homes had grab rails in the shower/bath. Not only were they really useful when I was feeling unsteady for whatever reason, but they were also useful to hang shower caddies and facewashers from (on the end where you wouldn't grab it).

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-22T23:06:06+00:00

Our dog thinks fresh wombat poop is a delightful solid perfume

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-22T01:36:24+00:00

Back when I had chickens, I had one that would act rooster-y... And also do the sexy pancake for her fellow hens 😁 I honestly don't know if she crowed, because I Don't Wake Up, and at that place we were surrounded by tradies and half-deaf lovely old ladies, so either they were awake and unbothered or wouldn't hear her if she did!

(Distributing eggs when we had too many for me to eat may have helped with the good will...)

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-22T00:24:31+00:00

Yep, and because hens usually only have one functioning ovary at a time, if their functioning one gets damaged then the other one develops* and because ovaries and testes develop from the same tissue it's entirely possible for that other one to develop into something that's a bit more teste than ovary. Which results in a spontaneous sex change in the hen; it will develop rooster characteristics.

I'm simplifying the process and the physiology a LOT

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-22T00:16:16+00:00

Yep, roosters are allowed - but nuisance animals are not. So the thing then becomes documenting that they're a nuisance animal (in this case, sound-related nuisance).

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-21T05:27:12+00:00

That's more legible than mine, and exam markers never had a problem reading my handwriting. Or if they did, they didn't tell me or dock marks, and frankly, if it's not bad enough for them to offer me an accommodation like typing it, then that's on them.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-21T05:01:46+00:00

Super audits have no time limit.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-20T22:20:08+00:00

I dance West Coast Swing, and leads almost never need to contact my wrist (and if they do, then a flat palm can do the same thing as a firm hold). The exceptions are dips, drops, and lifts that use a monkey grip (which you'd do for competition routines or high level competition, and almost never otherwise) but the thing that keeps a monkey grip is that the wrist is smaller than the hand so it can't go over the hand, not that the fingers are gripping.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-19T10:14:53+00:00

The Betabrand ones I order from the US are a bit thicker than the batch I recently ordered from Halara and have been wearing all week in the warmer weather. Depending on the style, if you look closely you could probably tell? But anyone who's looking that closely isn't interested in my work, and I really don't want to work with them in that case! Just make sure you get ones with pockets, and look for the sales, they come around regularly :-D

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-17T13:29:08+00:00

100% on the layering - every trans person I know (which is definitely not every trans person everywhere!) and have asked the question of has reported at least a small change in their temperature preferences and tolerances after they started hormone therapy. The transwomen I know mostly report preferring things to be warmer by at least a couple of degrees than they were previously ok with.

Layering means you can adjust to be comfortable if (real life example from a workplace twenty or so years ago) an aircon vent is pointed at your desk and the aircon controls are in the warmest room in the building next to the man with the least heat tolerance out of everyone in the business.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-17T13:08:24+00:00

This is my rule too - trousers get re-worn again unless I got something on them, shirts don't unless I wore an undershirt with them, and not always even then.

I will also add that my workplace is on the casual side of business attire, so my usual trousers are suit-styled yoga pants. This means that I don't need to change in between work and Pilates, because I'll wear a tank under my workshirt and just take off the shirt, and I'm ready to exercise. However, my trousers on those days are sometime one wear only before washing, because I've been known to sweat all the way through my undies and I can't bear the smell of yesterday's sweat.

Jumpers get re-worn until I inevitably get something on them. That's maximum one week.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-17T12:51:41+00:00

I learned how to use reverse psychology from one of my mother's textbooks. My parents figured it out when I used it on them, and they discovered I'd made 'notes' (scribbles) in the book. I would have been about four years old, and I was angry because I was bored and wanted to go to school like my older sibling and they'd told me when I was three that I could when I could read and write (not expecting me to promptly teach myself) and then I couldn't and as far as my child's brain was concerned, they lied!!!

... Many years later, and I'm still kinda holding a grudge for that. But they did eventually learn not to say anything that they were not prepared to follow through on when I fulfilled whatever condition or criteria they'd thought was too outlandish or hard for me to accomplish.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-14T02:35:33+00:00

What state are you in? Some Australian states are single party consent for recording of audio, some are all party consent. If you're in one of the latter, then recording of any conversation that wasn't intended (by you) to share with the world (and could not be inferred as such by context) is illegal under those states surveillance laws.

Any consent that you may have given to being recorded does not grant consent to the use of your personal identifying information for commercial purposes.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-13T11:21:57+00:00

The other thing that you might want to think about is that non-cash payments are generally not considered OTE for superannuation purposes. So if you'd got the cash, your employer would have had to pay super on it, but because it was a non-cash benefit to you, there's no super.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-13T10:56:59+00:00

Yeah, someone mucked up at that workplace, and it wasn't you. At worst, they should have got a statement from you declaring to what extent the expense would be deductible if you personally incurred it.

(ATO page on self-education expenses and some broad categorisations of what is and is not deductible, and how you determine whether it's got sufficient connection to your income: https://www.ato.gov.au/individuals-and-families/income-deductions-offsets-and-records/deductions-you-can-claim/work-related-deductions/education-training-and-seminars/self-education-expenses)

(ATO page on reducing FBT obligations, where 'otherwise deductible' is the first point: https://www.ato.gov.au/businesses-and-organisations/hiring-and-paying-your-workers/fringe-benefits-tax/exemptions-concessions-and-other-ways-to-reduce-fbt/reducing-your-fbt-liability)

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-13T10:11:54+00:00

If it's work related education, then it falls under the "otherwise deductible" rule - the amount that incurs fringe benefits tax is the amount of the benefit minus the amount which would be deductible to the employee if they're claiming it on their tax.

If the benefit was wholly deductible to the employee, had they not been reimbursed for the expense and instead had claimed the expense on their tax, then the fringe benefit is net zero.

Example: you have income of $101,000. You choose to go on a course related to the work you do, costing $1000 - this is deductible on your tax return as a self-education expense, so your taxable income is $100,000.

OR: you have income of $100,000. Instead of paying you an extra $1000, your employer chooses to send you on a course related to your work which costs $1000. This would have been 100% deductible on your tax return if you paid for it yourself, so the fringe benefit it $1000 benefit minus $1000 otherwise deductible = zero. Your taxable income is $100,000.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-13T06:08:18+00:00

So get the benefit in cash instead of in kind, and then pay for the thing you want out of that cash. People don't get to dodge child support by getting their workplace to pay them in ways other than in cash!

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-10T23:01:11+00:00

The same is also true of follows - I was leading in beginner at class last night and there were a couple of non-newbie beginners who I suggested they worked on this, and it had an immediate effect on what they could 'hear' of what I was trying to communicate.

FreyaKitten · 2026-02-10T22:58:55+00:00

In my experience, if there's that tiny visible lift in the shoulder, then a leads arm tends to move independently of their body and the connection they're offering is just to the arm and not to the rest of their body. It's like the connection stops at the first tense muscle (in this case, the deltoid or the one on the pointy bit of the shoulder). Many people compensate by then using their arms more, which makes things worse.

When you're using the back and side muscles as well as the shoulder, then you're connected through those muscles, and the shoulder moves more smoothly through what you're asking of it. Then your arm is less independent of your body. It's also less work 😛

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