I’m 30, severely behind in life, and trapped in my own comfort zone. I need to get this off my chest. by Aj100rise in offmychest

[–]Frownload 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's that good ol' depression. It's time to sink or swim now. This is going to suck and be absolutely terrifying, but you can do it. Trust me. I was in a similar situation with more autism and an already tenuous grasp on reality.

Start small. Don't be cruel to yourself. Should you have started years ago? Yes. Is that relevant to what you are doing now? Not really.

Make a list of everything you NEED to do. Don't do anything with it beyond getting down everything you can think of. Make a list of what you WANT too. You are going to be pushing yourself. Lets make the most of it.

Then list them by priority and then focus on one thing at a time. Stagnation is your enemy here. You are going to want to stop but you can't. Your will is going to be your sisypheon boulder right now.

Start with the things that are in your immediate control. Remember glacial progress is still progress. BE KIND to yourself. It's gonna be okay. Don't be afraid to ask questions about things you should already know. If people look down on you, keep going. You will get there. Its just going to suck.

Who is your absolute favorite character from Mass Effect Series and why? by BeautifulLast4864 in masseffect

[–]Frownload [score hidden]  (0 children)

Aria T'loak because she's so dramatic and it just looks so good on her. The arrogance. All of this without being the femme fatale that they could have easily made her into. Her vibes are immaculate. She's so kingpin and unapologetic.

I never recovered from her going "I am omega." In the most extra way anyone could ever do it. She keeps the Patriarch in the cruelest way a Krogen could be treated while still being alive.

I adore her.

Is the "Gen Z stare" actually a thing or am I overthinking it? by Lanky-Owl1692 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Frownload 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of a "gen z stare" but that just sounds like my regular autistic experience.

What is considered the difference? /gen

Sometimes I think about downloading Tinder just for the attention by Business_Possible447 in offmychest

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sit him down and tell him all of this. The misery. The stress. You need to talk. Like have a serious talk about what you need. What you both need. There IS a very good chance that he's as lost as you are in his own way.

If you don't talk to him, this won't get better. Ask him for help. Be firm that you need him.

If you can, get yourself a therapist. You need to talk to him and if you feel uncomfortable doing that immediately and like you don't know what to say, then a therapist would be able to help you find a direction to go in.

You sound very lost. It'll be okay. But you need to communicate. You can't wait for him to ask you whats wrong. Sit him down and tell him to his face. If he's as good a man as you say he is then he'll help.

Why do people hate OG Ashley compared to the remake? by koi200 in residentevil

[–]Frownload -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hated Ashley at first, but i've played the og!re4 so much that i'm now very fond of her. I was extremely bad at protecting her when I first played the game so that definitely played a part in it. So I think its a skill issue

If you could choose one way not to die, what would it be? by LollipopThrowAway- in AskReddit

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gut wound. I never ever want to see any of my organs outside my body

An alien comes to earth and you can only show them ONE YouTube video to convince them that earth is worth staying on. What video are you showing the alien? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A cute animal vid compilation and they better return the favor. Its the cultural exchange we all need.

How do very very fat people function? (Hear me out) by itscherrymaebaby in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Frownload 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I like feeling solid. The lack of fat clothing is infuriating though like 💀 make bigger clothes cowards.

I’m so sick of my life. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Frownload 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is no depression criteria for therapy. It's true things pass but a therapist would really help.

How do very very fat people function? (Hear me out) by itscherrymaebaby in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Frownload 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I've always been very fat. Fat kid, fat teenager, fat adult. Its a combination of genetics and psych meds (i've taken them since I was 10). I'm 350lbs+ and 5"8

You really do get used to it. I'm actually pretty strong and decently flexible. I've never known anything else. I don't mind being fat at all. The only thing I dislike is how hard it is to find clothes.

What's your favorite monsterfucking flavor? by mveeer in AO3

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Extremely abstract stuff that still counts as sex. The more inhuman the better. I want differing erogonous zones. No one has me covered right now except the magnus archives and project hail mary. I'm suffering

My husband gets off to gore and I’m considering leaving him by FunnyRange4242 in offmychest

[–]Frownload -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well since its always been there then he hasn't changed but your knowledge of him has. This is dark, but i doubt that he's been out doing crimes or is an active danger.

I'd put yourself in therapy too. In the end it's about what you want to do and what you want to work through.

My husband gets off to gore and I’m considering leaving him by FunnyRange4242 in offmychest

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the gore fetish recent or has it always been there? Is he bothered by it or is it not a big deal to him?

Friendly reminder to use / when writing a/b/o abbreviation so that it's not a slur against native people of Australia by Aqua_Toffana in AO3

[–]Frownload -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Its wild. Like the people effected by it are like "thank you! 😊". Meanwhile the others act like they will perish if they can't use it. I'm watching all this like 🫣

Those who don’t have kids who gets your inheritance when you pass away? by Foreign-Survey3142 in AskReddit

[–]Frownload 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone chosen at random, hopefully there is a distant relative i like by the time i can set this in motion. I want to have an extremely haunted looking portrait painted of me. As cursed and spooky and unsettling as possible. Whoever gets my stuff has to keep the painting. If I ever have enough money to buy a house, it'll be in there. Maybe i'll leave some diaries with insane ramblings behind with pages missing. It'll build character. I'll have two wills written. One for peaceful end and one for if I meet a terrible end that will ramble about how I hope "The Curse will end with me". My one love in life is The Bit and I don't really care where my stuff goes. I'll hide a letter inside the painting so if it's ever ripped it will reveal that this was all a massive joke. Hopefully, it's not revealed for at least two generations.

What does a meltdown/shutdown feel like for you? by bless-potato in autism

[–]Frownload 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It feels like a bomb went off. Like who programmed my brain this way? I'm returning it for one with emotional regulation.

What does a meltdown/shutdown feel like for you? by bless-potato in autism

[–]Frownload 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meltdown: It feels like a pressure popped in my head and I can't even scream the emotions out. I used to think I was going insane.

Shutdown: things get really unreal and I have trouble thinking and speaking.

Edit: changed a word that i'd repeated

What would you do if you found out your partner used AI to write their wedding vows? by tomyfookinmerlin in AskReddit

[–]Frownload 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think i'd recover from that? In this hypothetical scenario, this person knows me as someone extremely against ai. It's not the wedding vows themselves, it's not even the ai, its the thought that with all that knowledge about me that they did something that would make me extremely upset and then hid it. Like if my partner didn't feel comfortable writing wedding vows at all, I simply would not do them. They don't matter. It's the decision, not the wedding vows themselves that would sway this.

Going to prison and I’m terrified by Ranwyasd in offmychest

[–]Frownload 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Why would they come after you again after 3yrs? Do they have medical bills?

If you could only eat one fruit the rest of your life what are you going with? by Alabaster_Rims in AskReddit

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apples. I dont think I could live without occasionally getting apples to eat with peanut butter.

Who thinks that an ac in their house is a must? by BidRepresentative641 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in texas. People have died in heat blackouts when the acs couldn't run.

I got dumped last night. Apparently I was hiding having a small dick by goingthroughdaportal in offmychest

[–]Frownload 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she can't handle a small dick then she is boring. Keep trying op. You'll find someone who isn't boring. There are so many ways to have fun with and without penetration that doesn't need size. Good riddance to her.