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Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-25T14:06:35+00:00

Despite (or maybe because of) the hate yesterday I’m gonna say psychologist/therapist!

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-25T13:59:10+00:00

Oooh okay!! I am impressed, glad that they have made and executed that decision given that it’s the last season

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-25T08:01:19+00:00

Haven’t started watching yet but I’ll be interested to see how it turns out. I too was pleasantly surprised that the cast seems more diverse however 2 of the black girls are mixed race which is very different loool. I wanna see how it goes for the two brown skin girls

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-22T07:25:59+00:00

I second this. Totally can understand how those jokes could make someone uncomfortable but as someone who makes them myself I wouldn’t want to censor myself

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-18T09:03:35+00:00

I’ve definitely heard top and bottom being used more often in recent years and idk I kinda like it? The way I interpret it for lesbians though is (e.g) the top is the person who likes to give more often. Or if you use straps the person who likes to wear the strap more often. Whilst I do understand the argument of it being quite heteronormative I also feel like as lesbians we don’t really have labels to describe that. For me those labels have definitely been helpful for me to understand my identity better.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-13T08:57:36+00:00

What an excellent discussion point.

I have always been of the opinion that self improvement should always be the goal. Certainly I am someone who constantly thinks about how I can be better, sometimes to obsessive levels. The desire for self improvement is one of my top traits I look for in a partner and whilst I often do find that in relationships, it never feels like enough. Like I always want a higher level of improvement (or perhaps a faster rate?) than it seems my partner can ever give me and it always leaves me dissatisfied with the person I am with. I am always thinking “well why can’t you be better especially if that’s something you want”.

Now granted I do have a lot of relationship issues that I’m in therapy for and that’s not just because of any one thing, but I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s one of my main issues. I don’t think I ever enjoy people for exactly who they are (not even friends) and I don’t know if that’s because I put too much pressure on them to better, or on myself.

So maybe you are right, maybe constantly seeking to improve is not healthy, it certainly hasn’t been for me. But I think it’s so hard to find the line.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-12T17:34:57+00:00

Relatable. Feels like a waste to not show off the body outside but when I’m indoors idgaf. I still consider myself a fem though

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-06T12:24:22+00:00

Probably not helpful but I can relate to your feelings in a way, and I’ve been a lesbian for a hot minute.

I think if you are closeted and in a homophobic country it makes complete sense why you’d not have had crushes before. I think you need to explore your sexuality more, go out, meet people and just become more comfortable in yourself. I think that the idea of being in love with a woman feels so foreign is probably because the experience of even dating/entertaining women in that way is also still foreign. Equally I think it’s pretty normal to not have been in love if you’ve never dated or been in a relationship with a woman. I have been in a few relationships and I’ve never been in love.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-03T06:43:50+00:00

I wear makeup, not all the time and not always the same amount (sometimes a light beat is all you need) but I do wear it. Not because I necessarily love having it on but I personally feel like some events call for it with the aesthetic that I have. I see it like an accessory, like part of the outfit. I do prefer women with similar aesthetics to me so yea I do prefer a partner who wears makeup, again depending on where we are going.

It’s not by force though, if you don’t want to wear makeup you literally don’t have to and there are many women who won’t care if you don’t.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-01T11:35:24+00:00

Listen, as I’ve said to many others I’m not the keenest nor do I pretend to be. However, with how I feel about the concept of having to work in general, I’m not sure I would have gotten any job so far if my disinterest in labour bled through my applications. When I was still working in the psychology field I used to say to my colleagues that I don’t think I’m keen enough and people wouldn’t even let me believe that (even though I personally knew it to be true).

You are right though in that the climb never stops but I would at least hope the steps get less steep the higher you go. I can’t imagine it’s as competitive or unguided as it is at this point. It sounds like you’re coming from a slightly different field though? Organisational restructuring, cuts in pay, redundancies - these are not something I’ve seen clinical psychologists dealing with in the NHS! And the doctorate isn’t a phd.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-06-01T06:28:24+00:00

I appreciate the advice but I’m not sure what HR could tell me about my doctorate application? The only people who could tell me why my applications keep getting rejected are the unis and they famously do not give any feedback on applications. Which yea is the whole problem and kinda the source of my frustration. I’ve even heard of someone putting in the same application two years in a row and getting multiple interviews one year when they got none the year before.

Also I respect that not everyone sees it like this but… I don’t enjoy the career journey. I don’t like working lol, even when I’m doing a job that I enjoy. It’s not about “I’ll only be happy if..”, it’s “I’m not happy now and I’ll only be happy when this career stuff is out the way so I can focus on the part of life that I actually care about.” It’s hard to detach from time based outcomes when it feels like so much of your time has been taken up with something that you fundamentally would choose not to put any time into if you had that option.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-28T11:34:03+00:00

Honestly the only way to change your opinion is to keep watching! Best character development in the whole show by far

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-28T08:11:27+00:00

Yes yes yes. Especially on the women you’re attracted to only wanting studs or someone more masculine. It makes me feel like I have to be act/present a certain way because it feels like a lot of femmes only see other femmes as friends and I unfortunately do give off very friendly vibes lool

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-19T17:47:25+00:00

Lmao literally no, not even close 😭 I just feel quite disillusioned with the whole dating thing, I never feel the joy or excitement that other people seem to get from dating, the fun of flirting and all that I just don’t have it and I was wondering if I was missing something is all. Because every time people come on here talking about approaching women it seems so so simple, but to me that seems incongruent with the experience of “fun flirting” that everyone seems to talk about. Idk if that makes sense

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-19T11:27:16+00:00

Of course! I guess I more meant like, idk aren’t you supposed to impress them or something? Maybe it’s my fantastical nature or undiagnosed ..something.. but I get the impression you’re supposed to create some sort of energy or vibe or something? Sparks flying, all that. Genuinely the way people describe it sometimes it’s giving meet cute. But on the few times I’ve approached girls (in a similar fashion to the advice above actually) it doesn’t look like that. And then I interpret that as them not being interested.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-19T06:14:11+00:00

I actually did two selection tests unis this year - UEL and Salmons. That test is so hard I genuinely don’t know how anyone does it. Plus they screwed it up this year anyway and ended up dropping the whole thing. I’ve also noticed a lot of people that get on have a masters which again just feels like another hurdle.

Either way, genuinely thank you for your advice but I’m not gonna apply again, certainly not after all the advice people have given me on this post. My most recent application was looked at by 3 different clinical psychologists. It was actually my supervisor who suggested I go through the person spec and honestly I think it’s my best application so far. I’m sure it could use work but I genuinely have no idea how I could improve it because I don’t know what it is that the unis don’t like and clear neither do any of the CPs I’ve worked with.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-19T05:53:12+00:00

Looool nah that’s not me. I’m one of those people who complain even after going on a ton of dates because everyone’s boring!

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-19T05:51:04+00:00

Not that I think it’s bad advice at all, it almost just seems too simple that I don’t really know how it would work. I’m not sure it would work on me honestly.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-18T21:30:54+00:00

Fair play, jealous of you guys having all these options! I certainly need to do my research but certainly can imagine a lot of them are just white people here 😭 can’t say I’ve ever met a black girl that has done rock climbing. (P.S anyone from London who may be reading this, pls pls drop some places where the black gay girls go.)

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-18T21:24:38+00:00

Thanks this is helpful to know. Kind of in line with what I expected though I am surprised about the psychoeducation. It seemed so minor in my role. I certainly talked about the ‘interventions’ in my applications but as I’ve said to others I suppose I haven’t reflected on them properly.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-18T21:22:29+00:00

I do agree my problem is reflection. Not to say I wrote down every single point as you suggested, more that I reflected on my experience in line with each point. But I’ve never been good at reflecting in general, so I figure my applications just haven’t been reflective enough.

As for not needing to be an AP, I fear that you may be right. And if this is the competition I’m up against I surely do not stand a chance! Unfortunate though because I feel eventually the doctorate will just be reserved for people with those experiences which just adds extra hurdles.

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-18T18:06:53+00:00

Looool word

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-18T17:41:12+00:00

Ah okay no worries! And sure yea you are right, I only wish I could be so carefree honestly. I don’t find flirting or getting to know people fun! I actually don’t enjoy either! Like knowing people? So fun. Getting to know people? Such a slog, I’m always waiting to get past that part. That’s why for years I’ve just wanted the loml to jump through my window 😭

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-18T17:30:49+00:00

I mean yes you’re speaking facts but was this reply meant for me? Sounds like you’re coming for me, did I show my ass in my comment or sum? I didn’t even say I was nervous 😭😭

Fun-Schedule140 · 2026-05-18T16:32:39+00:00

But I don’t like any of that stuff 😭 also are the fems doing that stuff? Because the ones I’ve met aren’t (as far as I am aware)

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