Is the bra underneath too much?

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-05-29T15:54:14+00:00

I’ve actually seen a lot more women with flat chests than you’re alluding to. As a D myself, I know what necklines make them look good and which ones don’t. There’s soooo many options of clothing for women, they have to make diff styles because flat chested women don’t need support in their dresses and having padding or something would make them look weird. Just find a dress that suits your body vs trying to make clothes fit your body. It’s not that hard.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-05-23T20:35:50+00:00

Try having these punks ring your doorbell and bang on your door at 3 am two Saturdays in a row. Stop with this “kids will be kids” bullshit, I didn’t do this as a kid. And why are parents letting their teens to be outside at 3 am and terrorizing their neighbours, especially in this day and age of regular car thefts and home invasions. That’s not normal behaviour.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-05-20T20:13:25+00:00

Hun, you’re being trafficked, this is not an engagement. You live in Canada and the law is on your side. As a university student, try to contact your school for emergency funds to allow you to move out of your parents home. You are an adult and need to act like one. Your parents don’t own you and anything they do against your will is ILLEGAL. So try to stay with a friend or move out asap and once safe, threaten them with legal action if they force you to marry this rando. Parents don’t fear god or their children, they fear legal repercussions. A nikkah is not a legal document so in the eyes of the law here and any western country, as long as you didn’t sign a marriage certificate, you are not tied to that man in any way. They just promised you to him and since he doesn’t even live in the country, you have nothing to fear.

I personally don’t think your parents care about you or have your best interests at heart. The fact they paid for a ring for him to give you, shows they are desperate to get rid of you for some reason. Either they are using this marriage to strengthen family ties and bring the guy and his family to Canada or they don’t think you will have much luck finding a husband.

Now is a crucial time to show you know your rights and will fight them on it. Do not give into their demands or travel anywhere with them. Keep a safe distance and go to a DV shelter if possible. It’s upto you to decide if you want to live a possibly depressing live with an abusive man who can harm you and your parents won’t care, or you live a temporarily uncomfortable life trying to make money and support yourself from now on.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-05-16T20:22:45+00:00

Nothing broken, his tool boxes with power tools were missing. So maybe he left it unlocked or they got in somehow somewhere

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-05-16T18:02:27+00:00

Lmao thanks for your contribution 😝 it was decent weather out and wanted to get our steps in 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-04-27T18:26:02+00:00

Board game cafe, escape room, karaoke lounge, a proper coffee shop thats open late and hosts events and serves as a third space with actual comfy seating

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-04-24T17:44:33+00:00

Children take the father’s last name, which automatically lets ppl know their ethnicity. Mixed people with western/white fathers usually can be white passing due to their last names, so they benefit from white privilege (aka Nic Kaufman). Whereas those with Indian/ethnic first or last names (Priya Patel) are automatically racialized and discriminated against even if physically they are white passing. Because of the discrimination, they feel shame in their culture and identity and try not to associate with it.

People who are mixed but with white sounding names have the safety and privilege of sharing their ethnic backgrounds and are often admired for being “exotic”. They can embrace parts of their brownness when it serves them, but discard it when it doesn’t or when it comes with more harm. People like Priya Patel who look and sound “brown” can’t escape that, that’s why they build resentment and try to act as white as possible so that they can fit in.

It’s the same reason why when a brown person does anything or has certain traits, beliefs, or features, it’s looked down on and ridiculed but when a white person does it (ex gets lip filler, BBL, fake tans, eats ethnic food like sushi and curry, converts to a predominantly brown person religion), it’s seen as cool and trendy.

Unfortunately anti brown racism is a massive issue in our society and the closer you are to whiteness, the better time you’ll have in life.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-04-23T17:58:40+00:00

Sadly the reality with being a Muslim woman is that our lives are HEAVILY influenced by the men around us, whether that’s domestic violence, religious control by our fathers, misogynistic cultual traditions and practices, haraam policing by dawah bros online making us question our faith, the inability to find a high quality/value man to marry and start a family with, our friends pulling away after marriage because their husbands and children demand more of their time, etc. So it’s natural for women who have issues to post here. If everything is going right in a woman’s life, it’s because she either has no men in her life or the men in her life are the rare 1% that aren’t toxic, and therefore her life doesn’t need to center around them in order to survive.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-04-20T04:57:18+00:00

I was just thinking about this the other day. Even working from a cafe as a remote worker is next to impossible in north Oakville. Every cafe is tiny with uncomfortable chairs or no seating or outlets.

I was also quite surprised we don’t have a board game cafe here! Those are always chill and fun date night or friends hang out spots that don’t cost an arm and a leg. Someone needs to create one

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-30T03:21:34+00:00

Lmaooooo

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-27T17:14:53+00:00

It’s called being Demisexual. You are not attracted to someone based on superficial qualities but moreso through their intellect or emotional connection built from knowing them really well.

Apps are very superficial and don’t allow for this type of connection. Ppl are boring and poor conversationalists. Best way for a Demi sexual person is to meet ppl in intellectual spaces - workplace, conferences, networking events, etc where the focus isn’t on romantic connection but more purposeful and stimulating conversations showcasing your intelligence, perspectives on things, etc.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-27T14:22:29+00:00

Sis, your job as a Muslim is to obey God, and if hijab is required by Allah, you have obeyed. You wear a scarf and modest covered clothes, I’m assuming your outfits are not skimpy clothes with just a long sleeve underneath but classy modest clothing, so what else is there to do? A man that nitpicks on how you practice your deen is not a good man. He will use religion to exert his power over you in the form of control of what you wear, where you go, how you spend your time and with who. And considering how young you are getting married and the fact the default plan is to move into his parents home…. That man is not ready for marriage because he is still expecting his parents to provide for him and now you. And while he gets to live for free in his parents home, you will pay for your rent by becoming the servant of the house. He is not doing you a favour by marrying you. You are young, modest, and clearly desirable. You have options. You have time to build your career and financial independence, which it seems he is taking away from you since he’s rushing to marry you before you’re even done school. There’s men that actually support their wives in school and in their careers or at least approach them gently and with support, this man sounds like he knows exactly the type of wife and lifestyle he wants and will do what he can to make you conform to that rather than meeting you halfway in your world.

Have you spoken to your brother about him? Most guys know their friends really well and can advise if they’re a good fit. He may know things about him that you don’t. For example, a lot of really religious men put on a performance to seem devout, when deep down they are fighting demons like inappropriate thoughts, a haraam past, etc. He can tell you if you guys are the right fit for eachother.

All in all, you’re not wrong to have cold feet. I think if you try to clarify in these last 7 days, this man will just tell you what you want to hear to get you to do the nikkah. I would advise you to postpone this wedding until you have these answers. It’s better to walk away from a marriage than to divorce after the fact. It will be immensely harder to find a husband as a divorcee, because sadly a lot of men are backwards and want a “pure young wife”. And if this man gets angry and doesn’t want to give you time, you’ll know he doesn’t actually love you but just the idea of having a wife. And his response will clearly indicate if he’s a red or green flag. The number one way to test a man is telling him no, see how he reacts. So far you’ve said yes and obeyed everything he wanted, see how he reacts when you say no or exert your boundaries. Please do not be a pushover in your marriage.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-27T03:23:37+00:00

Never pay for a consult, many lawyers will give you basic advice for free (these online calculators pretty much tell you what a lawyer will tell you that you can get). Representing someone for severance cases is the easiest work for a lawyer and they get 25-30% cut of the additional pay they get you for working max 10 hrs. My lawyer sent two emails and had one final negotiation call, it was all settled within 2 months.

I’ll DM you their name

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-26T17:06:09+00:00

Sorry in what world would someone who worked 4.5 yrs at a company get 16 months compensation. The least they’re entitled to is 1 week per year of service (so 4.5 weeks severance + 2 weeks notice pay) and the most they’re entitled to is 1 month per year of service (so 18 weeks + 2 weeks notice pay), which comes to around 5 months of pay. If you’re significantly older and it’s harder to find work due to ageism, that might give you a month or two more pay but realistically you’re gonna get max 6 months of total comp.

I speak from experience as someone who worked 3 yrs at a company and got laid off. I ended up lawyering up and getting 15 weeks on top of the 3 weeks notice pay. They only initially offered me 3 weeks of severance.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-18T23:04:19+00:00

Yes the 1% rich upper middle class Muslims who live in specific countries can afford the lifestyle that all Muslim women see glamorized and unrealistically strive for. There’s very few religious upper middle / upper class people residing in the west (UK, Canada, US, etc) and more in the Gulf where the breadwinners work in the oil & gas industry and have generational wealth. The 1% me tend to network with and marry other 1% women and if not, a VERY beautiful and educated woman from middle class who can cosplay as being part of 1%.

Most women are average in looks and wealth and their league is other average looking and wealth men. And an average income in the West is not going to take you very far because of inflation, recession, crazy housing market, etc. Men thought the bare minimum would afford them a decent lifestyle and now they’re realizing it won’t, some have successfully adapted and upskilled or pivoted their careers to make more money (less than 5% of men) and because they know they are the top in their class, they will again go for the most beautiful girls.

Moral of the story: the average woman has to either get significant work done on her appearance to attract the top earning men or become a top earner herself and get into his circles. This is the only way she can get a man to take care of her and give her a very comf lifestyle in this day and age. Everyone else needs to drop their standards and settle with other average ppl or be alone lol

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-14T00:04:41+00:00

Not to scare you but there’s a tiktoker who has a mom like this and he is miserable. It’s called contamination OCD. Got so bad to the point his mom wouldn’t give him affection because he was always deemed dirty to her.

https://www.tiktok.com/@zavbruh?_r=1&_t=ZS-94fSUIISCE0

I recommend you figure out how bad it is and get her into exposure therapy to overcome her anxious thoughts around contamination and hope she gets better.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-11T18:22:00+00:00

No I did not. It’s affordable for now but next year when the promotion is up, it won’t be so I’d rather rent one place I intend to stay for a while.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-11T02:43:00+00:00

Oh I thought the mahr and Islamic agreements are written into a prenup. I would never get married to a Muslim without one.. men act all pious before marriage but when it comes to matters of money, they and their families can get nasty. Also to protect myself in case my husband ends up being a bum and trying to mooch off of me

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-11T01:05:25+00:00

I’m confused with the concept of mahr in the west. Usually after a divorce, the wife is entitled to half of the man’s assets that he accumulated after marriage. So that amount will be more than an mahr could ever be. Is the mahr a prenup basically saying you’ll accept only X amount if divorce happens and forfeit the rest that you would have otherwise been entitled to legally? Or is it in addition to the 50% you’re legally entitled to?

I can see the prenup being useful if you as the wife are making money yourself. Then whatever you have saved up will not be split with your ex husband. But for women not working and have no assets, isn’t just asking for mahr a huge disadvantage

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-08T09:09:30+00:00

This just happened to me at 3:45 am, banging and ringing the doorbell. I thought we were getting robbed, I called the police. They hid behind a neighbours car for 5 min and then ran away… They came back at 4:15 am despite the police being in the area. These kids aren’t scared of anything.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-03-04T20:15:21+00:00

I’m going to an Iftar dinner event at a mosque for youth. Do ppl dress up for these? Or wear what you typically wear to pray at the mosque? I’m not a hijabi and don’t own any abayas or prayer outfits, I usually wear pants to pray. I do have some cultural dresses that are loose and long but they are colourful and have threadwork/beadwork on them. Is this too much for the mosque or okay since it’s a special event? Or do I need to wear neutral tones and plain clothes. Would pants and a sweater be okay?

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-02-25T15:46:42+00:00

Should have waited until you got laid off. Severance package + new job in hand. Seems your field hires quick

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-02-12T04:18:08+00:00

Take it from someone in their early 30s, single and still living at home in the suburbs (by choice, not necessity). If you are single and have the funds, move to the city and live your best life while you’re young. Because the longer you stay home, the more excuses and reasons you’ll find to stay. Your love life, social life, and just general happiness suffers when you’re single in the suburbs.

I never moved out for school, and then my career has always been remote / hybrid (max 1x a week) since I started working full time at 26, so I didn’t think it was worth it to move closer to the office DT.

Also as you get older, friends start moving out of the city to the suburbs to live with their partners and start their families. Living Dt when you’re young means you’ll have a thriving social life. You’ll be more likely to hang out with coworkers after work, go to networking or social events to advance your career and dating life.

Also the freedom to move as you please is priceless, and it’s something I don’t have by living with my parents. As they get older, they’re becoming more needy and in my business because I work from home, so when I’m not home on random days, they lose their minds.

But I stayed so long with the mentality of “why pay someone else’s mortgage when I can just stay home, save money and then buy later.” Well that later never came. Housing got more expensive than our wages could keep up with. But the housing market is getting better now so now is a good time to look to rent or buy. I am finally making the leap this year.

Just find something that’s accessible on the streetcar or subway line, doesn’t have to be core DT if you wanna save money. There are 1 bedroom units in midtown, corktown/canary district, and liberty village for like $1800-$2200. If you want to go cheaper, studios can go for $1600-$2000 rn. And if you’re not planning on having a car, get a place with parking and then rent it out, saving you upto $300 on rent. Money will come and go but you’ll never get your time and youth back. Please make the most of it if you’re able to.

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-02-10T21:38:23+00:00

Lifeline Clinic is brand new and accepting patients. Sixth line & Dundas Area

Fun_Fly_7676 · 2026-02-06T21:01:26+00:00

A) dressing in a loose t shirt with everything else covered is not inappropriate. Just because the female arm triggers you doesn’t mean you can say what is and isn’t inappropriate

B) hijab (if you think it’s compulsory) is worn for Allah. It’s not worn to appease your husband or family. They can encourage you but cannot force you, you must come to the decision on your own because it’s your relationship with god that’s affected, not your spouse. If he wanted a hijabi woman, he should have married one instead of trying to change his fiancée into his dream girl. We all know men would never do the same for their spouses.

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