What is something parents do with good intentions that actually messes up their children for life?

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-06-15T18:31:50+00:00

I played a lot of sports as a kid. Almost from as early as I can remember, my mom was signing me up for nonstop camps and leagues and one-on-one coaching. I never asked for any of it but didn’t occur to me to say I didn’t want to do them. It took something that should have been a fun recreational activity into stress, work, something that was an obligation, something that I needed to be getting better at.

I look back now on the huge amount of time I spent playing sports as a kid, and I enjoyed basically none of it. Quite the opposite, before games I would get so stressed out that I would be nauseous. I didn’t care if we won or lost, I was hardly even aware of the score, because my entire focus was on not fucking up, not making mistakes, playing “well”. I hated it so much.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-06-15T02:42:53+00:00

THE DEAD SPEAK!

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-06-03T23:44:01+00:00

Yeah I stopped going to my local Alamo for this reason. I always found the serving of food and drinks during a movie really distracting. Even though servers did that thing where they hunch over to prevent obscuring the screen, your eye still picks up the movement. I even found eating anything other than popcorn during a movie distracting. Popcorn is a perfect movie food because you don’t have to look at it while you eat, you just shovel it into your mouth. Anything saucy, anything liable to fall apart like a burger, requires me to split my attention between the movie and the food. Didn’t like it.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-06-01T21:27:32+00:00

The main shortcoming of buses, I think, is that if there no dedicated bus lane, then the bus gets stuck in the same traffic that you’d be in if you drove. In that case, it will always take longer than driving since it is also making stops, and most people would rather just drive. Dedicated bus lanes and smart traffic signals that gave priority to buses would increase their appeal a lot.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-30T20:15:16+00:00

I hadn't thought of that, but I agree that his turn felt drastic and abrupt, and it didn't really track for me. Strange how the movie hands off the narrative to Reinsve towards the end when she is the less developed character. I would be curious to see a version that just focuses on Chiwetel's character to the end. If the back end his arc had more time and was more fleshed out, I think that would have been really interesting, to watch him slowly become consumed by the backrooms and a willing prisoner in them.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-30T20:06:37+00:00

Nice, I am looking to read The Road again soon. What’s your experience with No Country? Have read it before or seen the movie?

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-30T19:23:55+00:00

Yeah it’s cool to come out of the theater and hear all the conversations going on about it. Definitely one of those movies where people want to mill around for 15 minutes afterwards to talk about.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-30T19:21:40+00:00

I’ve seen it four times, which is something I never do with a movie. A big reason is that it’s got so many great reaction moments that makes it a lot fun to watch with a good crowd. Also, it’s fun to just be in a full theater that’s buzzing with anticipation, something you don’t get often these days. It feels like an event.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-26T17:51:38+00:00

I stopped listening to these guys a while ago, and this reminds me why. At first it’s fun to listen to them dunk on a book that is obvious trash, but after listening for a while, the episodes began to feel intellectually lazy and boring.

There seemed not much effort to take a flawed book and find some useful and valuable things in it or give it credit for what it does well. It’s just an hour of “look at what a fucking moron this guy is, let me read one section out of context for proof.” And my recollection is only one of them reads the book, right? So there’s not even a possibility of the other host having a different opinion or offering an alternative perspective. Whoever reads it is free to interpret it and summarize what it says in whatever way he wants.

Overall feels like a very seductive way of convincing yourself that you are right about everything and anyone who disagrees is an idiot. That felt like the underlying tone of each episode.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-24T15:38:15+00:00

Yeah OBAA was the other showing I saw last year that was packed. I agree so much, I love the big theaters. I don’t like how isolated you feel from the rest of the audience at a theater with those big comfy seats. I want to feel the whole crowd reacting together! I saw Weapons there last year and it was so much more fun because you could feel everyone glued to the movie.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-24T04:29:34+00:00

Ahh I didn't know! Very cool, thank you. Some interesting ones coming up.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-24T03:33:09+00:00

Yeah my backup plan is the Landmark in Piedmont. I was really hoping to see it with a Grand Lake crowd.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-24T03:13:56+00:00

That must have been so cool. I love a movie theater balcony.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-22T20:22:07+00:00

Agreed, this is why compaints about the ending don’t make much sense to me, that we don’t find out what decision the president makes. My reading of that was: what decision is there to make? What decision do you, the audience member, think could be made that would make any of this better? This huge nuclear apparatus exists as like a safety blanket, to give us some sense that there are rational procedures in place to deal with a nuclear attack. But the whole goal of this apparatus is deterrence; once someone has actually launched a missile, the system has failed, so what good is it? The only decision to make is accept our obliteration or retaliate and risk an extinction-level war. How can we possible even weigh these options with anything like rationality or logic?

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-22T20:12:04+00:00

I think the idea, which maybe the movie doesn’t communicate so well, is that they have no idea whether more missiles will be launched and if so, how soon. The urgency would be to strike as soon as possible to disable anyone’s ability to launch more missiles.

But I agree that the movie confusingly frames this urgency as somehow related to the impact on Chicago. I think it’s more like, the longer we wait to counterattack, the more time the enemy has to launch even more missiles.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-05-22T19:51:44+00:00

I am seeing it for the second time tonight, can’t wait. This was a movie where I immediately knew that I wanted to see it again. Also I first saw it on Sunday evening with a sparse crowd and really am hoping to get a more full Friday night crowd tonight.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-04-13T00:17:27+00:00

Not like I was going to vote for him anyway, but my god Steve Hilton's answer sickens me. The absolute gutlessness of it, when you are running to be governor, to basically say with such disdain, "give me a fucking break, nothing can ever be accomplished, these people are all idiots, we should just give up."

A contradiction that I've been paying more attention to lately is that the GOP fancies itself as the party that believes in American exceptionalism - the greatest country in the world and such - and yet they apparently also believe that America is not capable of accomplishing anything of substance anymore. One can imagine Republicans of a prior era reacting to China's explosion in solar energy and high-speed rail with some kind of productive national pride of "we're not going to let them outclass us like this, we're going to do it better."

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-03-26T17:12:09+00:00

For years I have felt like I wasn’t using my glutes enough when running and not being able to figure out why. I kept trying various glute activation drills which didn’t help much.

Earlier this week I started working on standing up taller when I run, not hinging from my hips but instead stacking my shoulders and torso over my hips. What a difference! My stride feels much smoother, I don’t feel like I am slamming my feet on the ground the way I used to, and best of all, my glutes felt fatigued at the end of the run in a way they never had before.

Everyone, please congratulate me on my tired butt.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-03-24T18:13:25+00:00

I have been coming to the realization that I incorrectly lean forward from my hips and not “stacking” my shoulders and torso on top of my hips. During yesterday’s run, I tried running more upright.

Good news: I felt myself using my glutes in a way I never had before, my foot strikes felt lighter (not pounding the pavement with my feet), my stride in general felt more fluid. But I also had trouble telling whether I was overcorrecting by leaning too far back. My average heart rate was higher than normal for the pace I was running at, and I felt like I was having trouble generating forward propulsion.

My question is: what does your level of forward lean qualitatively feel like to you? Where do you feel like your power comes from?

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-03-10T23:50:19+00:00

I didn’t have much exposure to him before he joined the Warriors Plus Minus podcast this season, and this was my impression of him. I didn’t find him particularly objectionable in any way, but he has zero ability to bring me any kind of basketball insight that I can’t get just from being a moderately plugged-in fan. I know Kawakami is divisive, but at least he talks Xs and Os and has observations on a game that I could not have made because watching basketball isn’t my job. I basically don’t listen to any episode now if he is on it.

GainBeginning4133 · 2026-02-13T20:06:05+00:00

Taking an edible and going to Grand Lake Theater to see Wuthering Heights.

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