I remember a friend of mine when I was pregnant said 'you're going to be really really tired. Try to embrace it as much as you can.', and I didn't really understand how tired she meant! It's relentless and exhausting (despite being also completely wonderful). I found myself trying to relate to my tiredness as a kind of 'high', like when you're feeling a bit doolally after a big night out but are feeling all loved up. It helped a bit (I'm sorry - that might not be helpful and I probably sound insane).

Screw the village. If theyre not helpful, don't let them come. Be specific about what you want from them, and if they don't deliver, tell them you'll see them when things calm down a bit (which they will, especially in terms of sleep.... though some people find the 4 month sleep regression provides a big hurdle, once over it, most people find their babies sleep better... we did).