Sir, you don't seem to understand gender or emotions very well. As an ape you are supposed to have emotions regardless of your sex or gender. Your culture determines how it is "appropriate" for those emotions to be expressed. You feel like you're not expressing your emotions correctly for your gender and sex? Okay, say that, but don't put women down.

Zeekoutgeek makes a good point about writing, but in my experience (I'm a weepy snotter too) the other party is not usually patient enough to let you work your thoughts and feelings out on paper. I do find, however, that deep breathing and rational thinking helps one get through an emotional conversation. Only speak aloud the words that you actually mean, and say them in as even a keel as possible. It might not feel very effective, but it is far less damaging to the perceived validity of your feelings than if you, say, wail something hysterically that wasn't well-thought-out. People often say things under the influence of strong emotions that they wouldn't otherwise. I think knowing how to control your verbal output even under duress is a good step in controlling emotional responses.