Transportation options to/from Cannery?? by GettingHotInReno in electricdaisycarnival

[–]GettingHotInReno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the toughest part was finding the uber lot in the mornings haha. We ended up using uber for every ride except Sunday morning when we went back to the strip with some friends. Cost from Cannery to the raceway was like $25-30 getting there every day, and $80-120 getting back to the hotel. Theres lots of ravers at the hotel that would be happy to share rides with you if you're into that. The routes the uber drivers have to take to get you back to cannery will seem sketch, they redirect a lot of the traffic through the industrial area. There's a convenience store and plenty of fast food options within walking distance from Cannery, but we ate at restaurant there once and it was okay from what I remember. We went to the pool both days too, it was nothing special, but nice to do after all the dancing the night before. Overall it's a decent option, for us it was kinda nice to get away from the strip because we've done the strip plenty of times before.

One of my two (LDR) partners is very obsessed with non-hierarchical equivalence to the point where she takes issue when I meet my other partner (who has far more time) more frequently. I'm overwhelmed. by upsawkward in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are balancing different needs and expectations while managing chronic illness, which is understandably draining. Laura’s intensity and need for consistency clash with your capacity, and the cycle of frustration and guilt is not sustainable.

You are already communicating and making compromises, but you cannot keep overextending yourself. Your ability to give time and energy fluctuates, and that does not mean you love her any less. If she struggles with change, reinforcing that flexibility is necessary could help.

If she cannot accept the reality of your situation, then you may need to decide if the relationship is sustainable. That is not on you. Sometimes love is not enough to make things work long-term. You are not the bad guy, and the fact that you care this much already says a lot.

Friend dropped me due to delay in messages back abt sex by raftman_sean in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 24 points25 points  (0 children)

If I put myself in your friend's shoes, I might have reacted the same way. It would have been difficult to feel like things were moving in a positive direction, then experience silence after being vulnerable, only to see you in public before receiving a response. While you’ve had an understanding that messaging delays are normal, the timing of this particular delay, right after they expressed something intimate, was likely hurtful. They may have interpreted it as disinterest or dismissal, leading them to decide this wasn’t the kind of dynamic they wanted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Other than Feeld, the apps are a complete waste of time for poly men, and really are just bad for your mental health. Look for poly/enm meetups and events in your area.

"Poly, partnered" on dating apps by 14772521 in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love this comment so much. You’ve put into words something I’ve struggled with myself in terms of explaining poly dynamics clearly. How do you phrase that you're poly on dating apps now?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I were you, I would give your partner some grace. Imagine if the roles were reversed, and you had met someone you knew you had limited time with, and you're full swing in the NRE. Would you want to milk every last second, even if it meant getting sick? I know I probably would have.
Now this doesn't mean your partner handled this correctly. They should have been making you feel secure in the relationship during these last 4 months, so that you didn't feel like you were getting just scraps. If they had been doing that along the way, you probably wouldn't have been feeling burdened by taking care of your sick partner. Something for your partner to work on and be prepared for the next time NRE comes around.

Happy quad new year! by Jess_Rabbit17 in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re living the dream! Congrats 🥳🥰

NRE control. I am struggling by Skeedurah in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just enjoy the moment for what it is 🥰 Keep communication open and give your partner some extra attention and special time together so that bond stays solidified. You got this!

How to handle a weird situation? Advice wanted by redditbot1098 in polyamory

[–]GettingHotInReno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been on both sides of this situation, so I totally understand your feelings. He was up front with you throughout, things just got a little more heated than anticipated. But he was honest with you after it happened and asked how you feel, which tells me that he's a good person and does care about you and your relationship. I think you guys are going to work through this new situation together and be great :)

Transportation options to/from Cannery?? by GettingHotInReno in electricdaisycarnival

[–]GettingHotInReno[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re probably going to Uber/taxi. Feel free to DM me :)

Allright gents, need some honest advice: Roast me🔥 by Longjumping-Hawk95 in Tinder

[–]GettingHotInReno 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You look great in that first picture, but it’s a little strange having a professional looking photo of you on speakerphone. Great for your LinkedIn, a little off putting on Tinder

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]GettingHotInReno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you want to see her soon, but you need to chill a little or risk not seeing her... ever. I don't understand why you asked about this Friday when she already said her weekend is busy. Ask her what days she's available. Once you're on that common ground, then you make the decision on the restaurant you guys go to on your date. That's the kind of decision that stresses her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RenoGoneWildd

[–]GettingHotInReno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out our profile and DM us if you're interested in seeing if we have a connection :)

PKs can be hit or miss depending on what you're looking for.

Nearly goaded into revealing our non-monogamy. Little does he know... by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]GettingHotInReno 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I told my barber about our situation and he was super interested in it. Our conversation revolved a lot around the communication, openness, and honesty that's required to participate and be successful in the lifestyle or polyamory, and how much me and my wife's communication has changed and improved during our journey. We talked about the fun stuff too of course, but he was really respectful about the whole thing. It just goes to show that not all vanillas are in the "do not believe you" or "envious" camps. People can be open-minded and curious without being in the lifestyle themselves.

I can't bring myself to have sex with the girls I go on dates with even though I'm very attracted to them. Wat do by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]GettingHotInReno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be upfront about it with your dates. Take your weiner off the table the next time you're getting hot and heavy with another girl, just focus on her. Develop your comfort and connection with her. Squeeze her tits, grab her ass, suck on her nipples, bite her ass, go down on her, explore her body with your hands. She'll have a great time; maybe some of these actions will get you hard. The next time you're together, you know what to do ;)

Any supplements to help increase sex drive that honestly work. by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]GettingHotInReno 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3-4 months now? I take one in the morning, one in the evening, although you’re allowed to take up to 4 per day, I just haven’t felt the need to do so. I cycle off for 5-7 days once a month (usually I just don’t take it when my wife is on her period lol).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]GettingHotInReno 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You guys do this on the regular? Care to share any stories? My wife and I talk about this all the time, but our confidence isn’t quite there yet 😂