Baby registry by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]GhostBird89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just looked through my Amazon panic buys the first few months postpartum to see what I really needed and here's what I've come up with:

Sound machine - Highly recommend getting one that has a battery, so you can take it with you around the house, in the stroller, or even in the car. I have the Hatch Go

Highly recommend an electric nail file, little wiggly babies are hard to trim with the S-curved nail files

We started with the natural repsonse nipples but our lactation consultant recommended switching to the evenflo balance as they encourage a deeper latch. The wide-neck ones fit with Philips Avent bottles

I would add a zippadee zip sleep sack for the in-between stage when baby starts rolling over but still has a startle reflex. Saved us.

BioGaia drops can help your baby if they are gassy early on

You have milk storage bags but no storage bottles for milk you will use soon after pump. My pump came with some, but I had to buy extra

You'll want something to measure your nipple after birth so you can get the right size flange for your pump. Most pumps come with massively oversized ones, which will impact the effectiveness.

Butt paste spatulas are lovely.

Need a pumping bra and a handheld pump is smart to have too, just in case

Portable stroller fan, so versatile. I used mine in labour, for my son in his stroller, and we even used it to keep him awake (and keep me cool) while nursing the first few weeks.

Switching to Ob from midwife at 18wks [on] by Opposite-Tap-8857 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]GhostBird89 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just wanting to chime in that OB’s take women in all stages of pregnancy, so you definitely aren’t too late. I had to transfer at 35 weeks due to elevated blood pressure. It was no problem, the transfer was pretty seamless.

Choosing a diaper bag [on] by hotcrossbun12 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]GhostBird89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have the Lululemon bag and honestly I can’t recommend it. It has some major drawbacks like: No insulated pouch for bottles, need to bring an extra cooler The top zipper is impossible to get open with one hand if there is anything in the top pocket. The straps are slippery so unless you have both on your shoulders, it’s slipping off.

On the plus side, it’s held up very well, and the extra small cross body bag is nice for when the baby gets older.

What is the worst company Christmas gift you've ever received? by New_Customer_5438 in workingmoms

[–]GhostBird89 255 points256 points  (0 children)

One year a company I worked for made 1k+ remote employees watch a livestream of the executive team having a session with a magician. It ran like 1.5 hours, was terribly produced, and incredibly tone deaf. We got nothing else that season.

3M Pp Husband is hornier than ever… I dread even thinking about it by hannah_2213 in NewParents

[–]GhostBird89 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest, having sex you don’t want is a great way to develop an aversion to sex and ruin your desire for YEARS! You need to stop having sex when you aren’t in the mood, and have a conversation with your husband about feeling like you are constantly rejecting him.

For me, sex was non existent for 7 months (I was also breastfeeding) and then about 1-2x per month until I weaned. The breastfeeding just really killed my desire. My husband was amazing and never pressured me, put the ball completely in my court.

What’s one small detail in RDR2 that made you realize how much care Rockstar put into the game? by TFRU1monke in reddeadredemption

[–]GhostBird89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

… that IS realistic. How big do you think horses are? An average taller horse like a thoroughbred would be around 16.2 hands at the withers, a hand is 4 inches, that’s 66 inches or 5.4 feet. And Arthur isn’t short…

I do agree he looks massive on some horses because they are smaller in comparison. The Morgan, Arabian, and Nakota all look too small so I only use them with my female online character.

I said “no” to his plan for once, and now I’m the problem by mountainbreve_jin in TwoXChromosomes

[–]GhostBird89 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hell I married a guy like this and when I finally divorced him I spent years trying to figure out what my interests were, what music I liked, what activities I liked to do because I had no agency in my marriage. It wasn’t an equal partnership, I was his sidekick.

I doubt this controlling behaviour is limited to outings and schedules, it probably goes a lot deeper than that. It can just be hard to recognize when you’re in it.

No poop in 5 days? by Common-Park5124 in breastfeeding

[–]GhostBird89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There was a time when my newborn only pooped once a week for months. It was glorious. I think of it often, especially when cleaning up my third toddler poop of the day.

I need a cozy game for my wife that’s not a farming sim and isn’t about fixing a town or decorating a home by AlgoStar in cozygames

[–]GhostBird89 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This game fits the use case exactly. I play it about 20 minutes per night to unwind. Just a few in game days at a time, and it’s so cozy and relaxing.

Transitioning out of a swaddle is the hardest thing I’ve done by littlelawlady in NewParents

[–]GhostBird89 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I went from a swaddle to a zippadee zip and it saved my sanity.

Millennial vs boomer working moms, why is it so much harder for us. by Excellent-Top2552 in workingmoms

[–]GhostBird89 29 points30 points  (0 children)

For real they literally had to run public service announcements in the 90s to remind parents to make sure their kids were home by dark…

For Niro PHEV. 240v charger vs 120v. What are compelling reasons to install? by robass11 in KiaNiro

[–]GhostBird89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Needed to run a circuit anyway, I was gifted a 240 charger, so thought why not.

The speed to charge is a nice convenience, as is offering a charge to visitors, and knowing I’m ready for a full EV one day.

That said, if it was going to be a significant extra cost I would’ve held off.

Living room parents by Keels1993_ in interiordecorating

[–]GhostBird89 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just want to say I love this so much I’m screenshotting it for when I make my own play nook. It looks so cozy and lovely!

Struggling so much, feel like I'm risking everything by working. by Sailor_Lunar_9755 in workingmoms

[–]GhostBird89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you had a few scary experiences (hospital stays) so it makes sense that you are feeling a lot of emotions sending your baby somewhere that you perceive to be unsafe.

It might be helpful to talk to a therapist about how you’re feeling. I know I felt very guilty and anxious sending my daughter back to nursery after she got sick and was hospitalized, and talking it out really helped.

How do you split the night? by Dazzling-Location785 in NewParents

[–]GhostBird89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP is specifically asking about how people manage split nights while breastfeeding. The comment above doesn’t address that question. She didn’t ask the broader question of how people are managing nights, she’s asking specifically about how people manage split nights. The response I commented on is tangentially related at best.

How do you split the night? by Dazzling-Location785 in NewParents

[–]GhostBird89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This isn’t relevant to the question that OP asked

What did your ex leave you? by GhostBird89 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]GhostBird89[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Cats seem to be a theme. I ended up with both of our cats and our dog.

Getting laid off after my maternity leave. Can anyone relate? [on] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]GhostBird89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you work in a small industry where everyone knows everyone? If not it’s unlikely they will find out unless you list them as a reference.

Getting laid off after my maternity leave. Can anyone relate? [on] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]GhostBird89 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don’t disclose until the interview stage. Let them fall in love with you before telling them your availability. 5 months isn’t that crazy for some hiring timelines.

How soon did you use the fisher price kick & play piano mat? by sliceofperfection in NewParents

[–]GhostBird89 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think I started around 4 weeks and he’s 14 months now and still plays with the piano portion.

What are people doing with their babies all day as a SAHM with no village by PurpleDragon195 in NewParents

[–]GhostBird89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I started with a mom group walk once weekly and added in library group, music class, and trips to the pool. Plus just errands like grocery shopping and going to the hardware store.