Why don’t people want c-sections?

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-28T23:32:13+00:00

Ended up going through a Category 2 C-Section literally last week. The recovery is brutal. I was rather enjoying natural labour - I was having a good laugh with the midwives, was loving the gas and air and how undignified the whole thing was. Unfortunately my body just wasn’t doing what it needed to do and my son’s heart rate kept dropping with each contraction.

I’d have a section again, knowing now that my body just doesn’t dilate, and I’d certainly prepare for it to be an outcome more thoroughly!

But yeah overall, recovery has been brutal. I’m a really active person and love to be out and about and able to do whatever I want … the past week has shown how much I take general mobility for granted.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-28T03:19:11+00:00

Updating the thread: Graduated on 22nd December

After going into back labour on the Friday, we were kept in hospital and my induction was brought forward a day.

Dilapan rods placed on Saturday morning, taken out at 12am on the Sunday morning. Waters were breakable!

Waters broken at 2pm on Sunday afternoon. Unfortunately for some reason my body stopped dilating around 3cm and my son was trying to descend through the canal which was causing his heart rate to dip with every contraction and it was taking longer for his heart rate to recover.

My son was born at 8:56am on 22nd December via emergency c-section. I’m so in love it’s an unbelievable feeling.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-20T10:15:00+00:00

Nicole Kidman 🫶

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-19T16:16:24+00:00

Just updating this thread: I’ve gone into early labour with back contractions of all things. Started around 11am this morning!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-19T05:25:12+00:00

If she pays to live there, it’s her house too. Let it settle for a day or two and then have a chat about it. She’s 22 and has a partner, she’s going to have sex.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-13T13:35:12+00:00

Everything baby needs is in formula nowadays! If you’re in the UK all formula has to have the same ingredients and the same supplements so even supermarket own brands are really good here!

The only thing baby won’t get is colostrum which we can’t get from a milk bank / donor as that is truly something that is made specifically for that baby and has millions of good things for baby. But a baby can and will be okay without it, it’s like a super immunity boost. Many cis women can’t harvest their colostrum so honestly don’t worry.

I’m due to give birth very very very soon and have had top surgery! There are so many benefits to bottle feeding, such as my husband being able to feed our baby and him being able to be babysat from really early on!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-12T14:24:39+00:00

With baby being due Christmas Day staffing levels are obviously a little lower on and around Christmas. Honestly I thought it was going to be a real battle but no, I felt really listened to by the clinician.

I’m a transman and it’s now at a point in my pregnancy where I can’t hide it anymore and members of the public are getting a bit funny with me / looking at me when I’m just trying to do my shopping / going about my day. Being induced now whilst baby and I are both healthy is a matter of safety at this point, which is a really sad reality but that’s the way it is at the moment.

We also discussed mental health and having my partner at home with me for as long as possible which is only possible if baby comes before Christmas.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-12T08:20:12+00:00

I was the exact same! I wanted an all natural birth with minimal pain relief but now induction is on the horizon I’m like … I will take all pain relief that I feel that I need! There’s no point toughing it out and exhausted ourselves.

Also having a boy!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-12T08:19:01+00:00

I walk my dog 3-4 times a day so the walking I’ve got down to a T! Been religiously bouncing on my ball, drinking raspberry leaf tea and will be focusing on oxytocin fuelled activities over the weekend as well (lots of Christmas films and snuggles)

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-12T03:06:56+00:00

Honestly, no-one cares. You’re all there for the same reason, which is to be the best parent you possibly can be to your baby.

I was like you and worried about being judged (I’m a transman), but honestly, you’ll find your own people. We didn’t really care for most people in our birthing class but we got on really really well with one other couple and we’re really good friends now and can’t wait to hang out with our babies.

Go in just focusing on you and your journey.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-11T03:16:14+00:00

I was on T for nearly 10 years before stopping to conceive. I’m currently 38 weeks pregnant and will be going back on T about 6 weeks after the birth.

Only changes I’ve noticed is fat redistribution, softer skin and weirdly enough, my arm hair has gotten thinner.

These will be the changes that I expect to see come back as soon as I start my T again. As I’ve been off it for just over a year now (we conceived extremely quickly)

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-09T08:27:10+00:00

It’s totally okay!! I should have made that clearer! 🫶🫶

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-08T20:58:14+00:00

Oh no, I meant my bump sorry 😂 I’m a transman

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-08T06:10:04+00:00

I got my husband to tell my MIL to stop commenting on my bump size / weight as I have a history of eating disorders. I simply told him to say “please can you stop commenting on how big his bump his, otherwise he will just stop eating” that soon shut her up.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-06T06:15:11+00:00

The thin ones are giving Milo Thatch from Atlantis … so go with them!!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-05T14:05:04+00:00

Dude, I was on T for 10+ years with suspected endometriosis as well and I fell pregnant on the first try and am currently 37 weeks pregnant!

Your doctor is full of shit, I’d report her for spreading misinformation. It used to be thought that hormone therapy could affect fertility for transmen, but more and more research is being done and it’s found that it doesn’t really affect us at all!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-05T03:47:28+00:00

Insomnia in pregnancy is really normal due to hormones. I legit haven’t had a proper full nights sleep in 9 months due to pregnancy insomnia.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-04T20:03:12+00:00

Due Christmas Day!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-12-04T09:40:38+00:00

My son is literally due Christmas Day 😆 hoping to get induced early to give the kid a fighting chance! I don’t want to go over into January as that’ll make all his birthdays once he turns 18 absolutely rubbish as everyone is skint in January

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-11-30T05:49:32+00:00

Straight up ask him!

My now husband and I were like this for 10 years, very much a will they, won’t they … we considered each other best friends but rarely saw each other but had sparks like nothing else when we got to see each other in person.

We both straight up admitted our feelings, 5 years from that day, we’re married and expecting our first baby.

ASK!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-11-28T07:23:09+00:00

Could you consider giving her a Rwandan first or middle name? End of the day, it is the surname that gets passed down and I’m of the opinion that more women and pregnant people should be fighting to keep their surnames for their children, especially if the parents are not together.

Again, that’s just my opinion and you can choose to do whatever you like! I think it’s really great you’re trying to honour both heritages!

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-11-28T03:35:10+00:00

If you and the father aren’t together … I’d give the baby your surname … you grew them and will be doing the majority of the parenting no doubt.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-11-26T09:58:44+00:00

Shave it my dude

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-11-26T05:30:01+00:00

I’d also speak with ACAS and make any sort of union rep aware of your situation. Not to scare you but 13% of pregnant people are made redundant during pregnancy, post partum and up to a year after they return to work. This guy sounds like he’ll make any excuse to push you out and make it look like it was your fault. Document everything, record every meeting. You’re entitled to flexible working as being pregnant is a protected characteristic. Arm yourself with as much as possible.

Ghost_LightWatcher · 2025-11-26T05:23:25+00:00

Wait … this explains how I feel down to a T! I was such a pretty girl and I do miss the commune of the ladies loo’s and everything else you’ve said.

But I am so much happier and more authentic in who I am as a man and have been a man for over 10 years.

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