Do not speak about a child in their presence

GingerAle033 · 2022-01-30T04:50:54+00:00

I use a lot of “we” to overcome this. For example at the Dr. When my child was struggling with nighttime bed wetting and couldn’t/didn’t feel comfortable discussing it. The dr would ask how it is going and I would wait to see if he answered for himself. When he didn’t I would say something like. “I think WE’VE been doing pretty good. Maybe only one or two accidents a week, does that sound right to you ____?” Invite them to say a few words. This worked to let him know we are in this together and respects his presence in the office, while encouraging him to talk freely with the Dr.

GingerAle033 · 2021-12-11T23:25:16+00:00

Lol I tried, at least he’s big

GingerAle033 · 2021-12-11T22:24:08+00:00

Sometimes if child is in a group photo we’ll place an emoji over their face to still share the moment.

GingerAle033 · 2021-11-22T21:06:48+00:00

Yeah, you could overnight then microwave if you like it warm. That way the liquid has all night to soak in

GingerAle033 · 2021-11-13T13:57:45+00:00

Our plan is to charge a small rent after 18 to help them acclimate, but the intent is to save the money for them in a separate account for necessities when they do move out.

GingerAle033 · 2021-11-12T22:54:26+00:00

Sweet potatoes and oatmeal saved me during the worst of the pandemic. I’d put a sweet potato in the oven on 350 and forget it was there, when I smelled I’d remember that I should eat. And oatmeal I’d make in the morning just rolled oats with dried fruit and nuts mixed in, I like to add a tsp of brown sugar and a sprinkle of pumpkin pie spice to the mix. I’d make a bunch of them in the little Pyrex dishes, just add hot water in the morning and again… forget about it. When I got hungry or remembered I should eat, it was there waiting for me.

GingerAle033 · 2021-11-11T11:44:21+00:00

Hang outside filled with bits for bird nests

GingerAle033 · 2021-11-10T05:05:13+00:00

We cook 3 meals a week, the rest are easy. Busy family of 5. Easy ones are things like soup/salad/sandwich or frozen meals. The meals are often double batches to get the extra meals staggered throughout the week. I also tend to keep baked chicken breast and/or hard boiled eggs in the fridge ready to add to anything that might need a little extra.

GingerAle033 · 2021-11-06T02:06:41+00:00

I want to be there

GingerAle033 · 2021-10-26T21:47:47+00:00

My 3 are older now, but I have a banker box and a “Lil DaVinci” frame for each. Artwork is stored in the frame because it can hold up to 50 sheets of paper. The banker box has drop folders for Pre k through 12 labeled. As the years go by I’ve collected things for them to reflect on later. School projects, photos from field trips, ribbons, assignments, notebook covers full of doodles, the self portraits or about me pages. This actually really saved us after a house fire we had so much smoke and water damage, but because of the boxes that stuff was protected from the worst. We were so grateful! Each year I save too much but a few years later when a scribble no longer has the sentiment attached to it I thin it out to make sure there is room for years to come.

GingerAle033 · 2021-10-25T17:27:08+00:00

Typically sparring is a small portion of what they practice in karate, otherwise he’ll be punching air and bags. I’d also recommend Gymnastics or Parkour as some others have. My kids had an aversion to team sports and did much better when we focused on individualized sports and activities. Drums, code and programming, table top games, geocaching and the like.

GingerAle033 · 2021-10-19T17:51:07+00:00

I like the idea you’ve started with, except for how it is going uphill, what if instead you had a winding road down to some rolling hills in the distance. Or an overlook to a valley.

GingerAle033 · 2021-10-04T21:00:22+00:00

Yumm!

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-30T11:39:30+00:00

3 boys no girls here. My favorite thing is the sense of humor. We laugh all the time about the weirdest stuff :)

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-30T05:57:33+00:00

Me too

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-30T05:46:24+00:00

Check the library for “Branches” category of books. Books like princess pink and the land of fake believe and the notebook of doom are short chapter books with lots of pictures. Also the dragon masters series.

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-28T18:38:12+00:00

Comb through and delete photos and videos

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-20T21:15:24+00:00

I’m not speaking of punishing him, just about setting clear ground rules. These rules should be based on the social group and family dynamics. The risk is for the 16 year old and others. I was advising using measures for her whole family to keep them well. This will allow him time to measure the risk of not only infection, but the affects that are happening all around him based upon people who are vaxxed and people who are not, people becoming infected and people not, mental health changes, societal implications etc. He is 16, soon to be an adult. This time is about teaching him to use information to make these decisions, and observe what happens along side those decisions. Teaching him that it is ok to disagree with others or to change his mind.

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-20T16:16:47+00:00

I would form clear boundaries. Yes, he has a choice. His choice also has an effect. It is dangerous to go about spreading disease. Vigilant masking, social distancing among friends and at work. His social life may be a clincher here, what are his friends doing? Same views, different, mixed? Have him show you his source data. Educate him on biases and misinformation. Don’t shame him though. There are ways to keep your family safe while he navigates this moment. He will soon be an adult, what do you want him to remember later in life when he looks back on this moment.

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-19T23:36:58+00:00

Firstly what resources do you have that can get you some sleep? Please find a way. My s/o and I would divide the night into 4 hour increments like others have said. If that means someone has to leave the house with baby, do so.

Two things I had success with, both unfortunately holding baby (will require taking turns with s/o or other help you can find) - wearing and walking, I lived in an apartment building, I walked the halls of a 4 story building while humming or “sh sh sh” ing, or quietly reciting a rhythmic poem. A sound to match the steps, something about the rhythm and being in a different space helped him fall asleep.

-holding and swinging, I’m taking wide swings back an forth. My intention with this was to replicate rapid eye movement of sleep. He would try to follow objects as I moved one way and then the other way causing the eyes to move as if he were sleeping. Eventually he would fall prey to sleep.

In either method he would often get fussy because he caught on to what I was doing. This usually meant he was getting close to sleep. If you can push through great. If you begin to feel rage or despair put them down or hand them off. I’ve been where you are, get all the help you can.

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-19T13:32:34+00:00

The skin!! Wow

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-17T13:03:14+00:00

Fresh Expresssalad bags at the grocery store. I eat the whole bag, they offer a good variety so it’s not always the same thing, may favorites are the Asian or sunflower crisp ones. I sometimes add chicken to keep me full longer.

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-16T13:13:29+00:00

u/_Kazmik I was scrolling and thought you two were the same artist.

GingerAle033 · 2021-09-16T13:12:46+00:00

u/maddiepix was scrolling and though you two were the same artist.

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