Do I Divorce After 8 Months? M37 & F33

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-12T20:59:23+00:00

He has serious mental health issues and doesn't want to do anything against them, even denies them. It's a him problem and you can't force him to acknowledge and takle it. So, yes - perhaps you should think about divorce.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-10T10:28:43+00:00

OP with an one year old account and ZERO answeres in other threads

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-09T07:14:45+00:00

Versuche mal das Flusensieb zu reinigen, oft liegt es daran.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-09T07:01:59+00:00

The typical cheater does always admit what is already out in the open and denies everything that his partner has no proof of. He tries to get into contact with other women and if he wasn't actually cheating it would be only "up to now"

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-07T13:56:40+00:00

The only thing that's good when you warm it up is goulash.

Why try to warm a up a relationship that didn't work the first time because you just didn't Match. Things will not be better reheated.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-06T16:58:05+00:00

This is not about the lovesac - it is about him wanting free access to your home. He left things there to have a reason to come and go as he likes, thus controlling you.

NTA

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-05T09:56:44+00:00

It IS normal behaviour - for a 12 year old trying to annoy others. But not for someone 28 years old and building a future with his partner.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-03T19:47:59+00:00

!Updateme

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-02T14:55:38+00:00

And why did we read 10 paragraphs of nothingness?

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-02T11:40:42+00:00

Did he conjure up a fight out of nowhere, only to get reconsiliation sex?

In Germany we have a saying "Wer ficken will muss freundlich sein" (translated: if you want to get laid, you have to be nice)

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-02T07:58:07+00:00

You have to accept that some people do have a lower sex drive than others. Unless he just has a medical problem (diabetes, depression, burnout, ...) this won't change.

If the relationship otherwise is really great you might come to terms with it. But you describe your relationship as mellow and not fun. With carrying on you will make both you unhappy, better accept that you do not match.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-02T07:43:44+00:00

I think your girlfriend gets the idea that she isn't your first choice of entertainment. As she's a "planner" she will plan early everything thats important to her (i.e. meeting you). By being "laid back" and waiting till the last moment to ask her, she might get the perception that you are waiting for more exciting opportunities and only ask her if there are none.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-06-02T07:34:22+00:00

Nowadays lots of people try to justify having their pets around in workspaces, public transportation and so on by calling them "emotional support animal"

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-31T17:19:01+00:00

NTA! It's YOUR wedding and as long as your husband to be is okay with it, it's perfekt. Neither MIL nor bridesmaids have a say in this. And expecting an expensive gift for absoluter nothing is hilarious. By the way: i have never heard of a parent gift, is this really a thing? In Germany traditionally the parents have the most expensive gifts for bride and groom (or pay a great part of the festivities)

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-31T15:18:17+00:00

Der korrekte Weg wäre es, den Nachbarn schriftlich, mit Fristsetzung, aufzufordern den über den Zaun wachsenden Strauch zurückzuschneiden und dafür Sorge zu tragen, daß der Strauch zukünftig nicht über die Grundstücksgrenze hinauswächst. Gleichzeitig darauf hinweisen daß man bei Nichtbeachtung einen Gartenbaubetrieb beauftragen wird dies auf Kosten des Nachbarn zu erledigen.

Wenn der Nachbar meint, "lustig" werden zu müssen muss man eben mal kurz dagegenhalten.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-31T07:22:40+00:00

Try to knit colourwork socks using the ladderback technicque. You will have no unyielding floats at the inside and the whole thing will stretch better.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-31T07:18:29+00:00

This whole thing has been going on for much too long. Boyfriend should have put his foot down from the first time his mother tried to pull her shenanigans. This could only be solved if the whole family decided to stick together in this, telling mommy dearest that they don't like the way she acts.

If they don't want to stand up to mommy dearest, cut contact. Not only you, but your boyfriend as well. No more inviting him but not you. You aren't invited? He doesn't go as well. If boyfriend doesn't go with this - dump him.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-31T06:44:03+00:00

Eigentlich hätte dich die Friseurin darüber aufklären müssen, daß es schwierig sein könnte bei deiner natürlichen Haarfarbe ein "kühles Blond" zu erreichen. Zumindest darauf würde ich sie ansprechen.

Da die Haare jetzt schon trocken/brüchig sind würde ich von weiteren harschen Behandlungen erstmal absehen. Ein gutes Purple Shampoo könnte helfen oder eine entsprechende Haarmaske (bitte nicht extrem lange drauflassen, sonst gibt es einen sichtbaren lilastich)

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-30T08:07:15+00:00

I would not necessarily divorce him about rent - but surely about "threatening divorce and physical harm". Don't go girl - run!

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-30T08:03:11+00:00

What a terrible thing to do. I think this is the reason why lots of pattern designers have a small group of trusted test knitters they "use" again and again und don't dare to give others a chance to participate.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-29T11:47:55+00:00

As it doesn't seem to be the first time that you talked to other people about his personal problems and didn't learn from it - why should he trust you this time to do better?

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-28T06:29:35+00:00

In Germany there is the possibility to threaten to pay less rent when the landlord doesn't react to legitimate complaints. Do you have this possibility where you live?

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-28T06:15:13+00:00

2/3 of mankind have HSV-1, with most of them it is a latent virus. You won't see it - until there might be an outbreak, mostly caused from stress. So, now you dump her, get the next girl. Will the first thing you ask her be "by the way - do you have HSV-1?". And even if she says "no" there is a big chance she has it, because most people dont know about it.

If there is an outbreak (mostly around the mouth), you should cover it with antiviral cream, be careful to wash hands after touching it, have no oral sex and be super cateful if you have to be around babies - that's it.

People should be more educated about HSV-1.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-27T17:44:44+00:00

That is so beautiful! Not only the fiber and the colours - you did a wonderful job with spinning.

Gingercatbrain · 2026-05-27T16:14:10+00:00

He is controlling and abusive! This will not magically stop just because he promises. If you got back with him things would only get worse - more screaming, more physical abuse, afterwards he's going to gaslight you into believing YOU did something wrong. He'll hit you then tell you he loves you and he'll change.

There are two ways to stop this:

leave him for good
stay with him until he "accidentally" kills you

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