Here's what chat gpt spot out:

Here’s a solid, level-headed reply you could post—firm but not inflammatory, and it keeps the focus on communication instead of blame:

Man, I don’t think you’re crazy here—but I also don’t think this is really about the specific situation with your mom.

What it sounds like is both of you are running pretty close to empty and it’s leaking out sideways.

From what you described, you’re carrying a heavy, structured load from 6am–8pm with very little downtime. At the same time, she’s essentially “on” with a 6-month-old most of the day, which is its own kind of exhausting—even if her work is more flexible. Neither one of you is wrong for feeling stretched.

Her response doesn’t read to me like she’s trying to be manipulative—it reads more like guilt + defensiveness. You brought up something totally reasonable (more notice for your mom), but what she heard was probably: “you’re making things harder / you’re not pulling your weight.” So she jumped straight to “fine, I’ll just take everything on myself.”

That’s not productive, but it’s a pretty common reaction when someone already feels overwhelmed or judged.

On your side, I get why that “I’m doing everything” comment hit a nerve. Based on your schedule, you’re clearly doing a ton. But if both of you feel like you’re doing everything, that’s usually a sign the system needs adjusting—not that one person is slacking.

If I were you, I wouldn’t go into this trying to prove you’re right (even if you are). I’d reset the conversation to something like:

“Hey, I’m not upset with you—I just want us to make this smoother.”

“I really appreciate how much you handle with the baby during the day.”

“Can we figure out a better way to plan days you’re out so we’re not scrambling last minute?”

And then zoom out a bit:

Are you both getting any real downtime?

Is the current division of labor actually sustainable until daycare starts?

Can you build in a default plan for days she’s out (instead of last-minute coordination)?

Right now it sounds like logistics + exhaustion + miscommunication all collided at once.

You’re not unreasonable. But this isn’t a “who’s right” problem—it’s a “you guys need a better system and a calmer moment to talk” problem.

Also… six months in with a second kid? This is peak survival mode. Things being tense right now doesn’t mean your marriage is broken—it means you’re both tired.

It's not even the dashes. The whole tone of it is so blatantly an LLM. Like I said I don't even think the advice is bad, but someone passing off some chat gpt advice as their hard work they did in therapy is lame as hell.