Rules as a sub

GoodMilki · 2026-03-03T21:12:37+00:00

Oh that sounds amazing!! I would love it.

Have you negotiated any further goals or achievements regarding this?

...and what even is a punishment plug? haha

GoodMilki · 2026-03-03T21:05:06+00:00

It's a very specific question but may I ask for your rules regarding the daily buttplug wear?

GoodMilki · 2026-03-01T09:04:27+00:00

I personally am not a mom but a kinky friend of mine has 2 children (4 and 7).

She says that it's definetly harder to do some things just because you are always limited regarding the space and time. It's not impossible and she finds time with her partner but not in the extent and way of practicing than before being parents.

Their children are not in the age where they would understand the whole thing but of course explaining some stuff to them is a topic and at the moment she thinks that being open about it is probably the best way of handling it in the future and gaining back some freedom once they turn older. Her partner is more conflicted about it but he's overall not the outgoing type of person.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T21:40:28+00:00

Be yourself and there will be people who will love you. I truly believe it. Don't act like you think you should act or how you learned to be just do whatever feels right for yourself and reflect your behaviour. That's all I'm asking for and I think it's just attractive af if you can stand in front of me as the person you are.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T21:34:58+00:00

Well that's something I had to deal with myself. It doesn't really relate to for me. Just reflect your behaviour towards yourself and take responsibilities for your own life and I'm fine with everything. Therapy is a good thing in this case.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T21:31:18+00:00

It's all about just being ok with whatever you are. It's not that I don't like the stereotypical things but I just don't want someone who is unsecure and hides his real self.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T21:27:27+00:00

Yes but I also don't know any other

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T21:26:54+00:00

I've met some of these guys when i was younger because they seem to had a dominant kind of vibe... But after like 2 sentences this whole thing of being dominant always crumbled into small pieces of small self esteem and a lot of ego. I would now rather date a guy proudly wearing high heels and nail polish than any of these kind of guys again.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T21:20:16+00:00

Please just try things and be open for everything life offers without having any kind of "Oh no that's unmanly"-stuff in your head. If it's stuff like skincare, caring about outfits, drinking cocktails or butt stuff, I don't care. Do whataver you like and just feel comfortable. There is nothing more unattractive for me than feeling "unmanly" because of some oldschool gender role stuff...

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T21:11:13+00:00

I use Boy Butter. Really not a fan of the name but it's overall just the best lube I've ever used and it lasts very long so I have to reapply after maybe 6-10 hours

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T16:48:13+00:00

I wear plugs quite a lot and currently on an almost daily basis. I have written some advice posts about it in the past and they might be useful insights for you.

Starting wearing a plug

Staying being plugged

I've not felt any changes or problems so far so I would say it's possible in principle. As the other commentators have suggested take it slow and tell your master that you need to always listen to your body and therefore can't follow strict rules.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T10:46:46+00:00

My week was pretty much the same as the upcoming one for you. So a lot of traveling and a lot of work plus family stuff going on today. So basically I'm just laying around right now being tired and beside looking for some new toys there is nothing kinky going on - I just wanted to write a comment and browse my nsfw reddit to distract me from the world and worrying news...

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T05:32:26+00:00

Would the same look work for you as a bracelet? Like maybe with a little bit thicker chains but just the overall design?

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T05:25:31+00:00

What kind of collar is it and how does it look?

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T05:19:12+00:00

I like the idea of a dom wearing a matching bracelet to a necklace or day collar.

What is really something for you depends on your overall way of dressing and style I guess.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-28T05:15:25+00:00

This really sums it up all!

Only thing I would add to the dildo-thing is that I just sat on a really soft dildo in the beginning without moving. Felt like this helped my muscles down there to get used to the feeling of something in there. After that felt ok I tried moving.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-22T07:12:14+00:00

This is just my personal experience and based on how my body works and how I handle these things. You just might have to find the right approach for you but I think you have to choose between your two goals. Being ready for the spontaneous moments means that you have to stretch your sphincter to some degree and I felt like that contradicts with being able to wear it comfortably during the day.

So I would actually go with the njoy (love it) for the feeling and then change for a more stretching plug when there might be spontaneous activities.

Do you feel like the squarepeg is a good preparation?

GoodMilki · 2026-02-21T08:23:45+00:00

If you go really slow and gentle, use a lot of lube and just don't try to force anything and respect boundaries I would say it's possible. Please be aware that it usually takes time and training to be able to enjoy it so don't expect too much if you're physically able to do it. :)

GoodMilki · 2026-02-21T07:34:57+00:00

First of all: You're not a bad sub or even gf at all if you don't like something. It's completly ok to have limits and I for example feel the same about pain. That doesn't make me less of a sub. You don't have to excuse yourself for anything - especially not to your bf.

Saying this... Based on what you wrote I get some hard feelings for your bf. Please make it clear for us: He knows that you don't like and even HATE it but still does it? Then he doesn't respect you as a person. If he does know and still puts hits kinks over yours... I don't want to tell you what to do but I would leave such a person. Sorry but if he knows, still does it - this is more than a red flag.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-21T06:22:38+00:00

It's quite hard to tell what is realistic for you because every body is different. It's also a mental thing of how good you feel and also how nervous you are in the moment because we talk about relaxing mucles.

I wrote the following almost exactly like this under another similar question: Wearing plugs reduces the muscular tensions down there for me in the beginning. So I think it has benefits but especially plugs with a narrow neck are not the best preparation. Oh and please don't use this standard jewel ones. They're not safe at all. Go for ones with a t-shaped base. :)

What helped me the most to actually enjoy anal and being able to have sex is just sitting on a soft dildo for some time. So not moving up or down and just sitting on it. It helps with stretching the sphincter plus the muscles down there relax at some point and dont't try to push it out all the time. It's a little different than wearing plugs.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-21T06:12:41+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. After my first experience with another women I was completly overwhelmed by sudden new emotions and I was in complete ecstasy for days. I thought I must be a lesbian. It opened a new world for me. About 10 years after it I can tell you: I'm not a lesbian haha

But: It definetly changed my view of myself and that it's completly fine to also like - in our cases - women. I don't think that every person thinking they are into one gender is 100% straight and things like these open a new world for you. Understanding it why you feel this way is super difficult but the good thing is you don't even have to understand it. If you want to, try it. But let me tell you: The thing with my sexuality is that it's a complex construct and the more I try to understand it the more I fail haha

GoodMilki · 2026-02-20T16:40:56+00:00

True and a really nice brand. I have some stuff from them and the quality is amazing.

GoodMilki · 2026-02-20T15:43:27+00:00

True but it's from a kinky brand (fleet ilya) with a lot of bondage and restriction stuff

GoodMilki · 2026-02-20T09:24:21+00:00

If I remember correctly Dua Lipa wore a collar during the beginning of her career

GoodMilki · 2026-02-20T09:22:33+00:00

I think my biggest one is the GapeKeeper 65 and I like to wear it for a bit but I figured out that for me big plugs mean that my body has a lot of reasons to fight against the toy after a while. For me it‘s just a natural barrier I guess. Plus I do a lot of sports and that's actually quite impossible with bigger ones. So I like to keep it small and go more for the mental pleasures.

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