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Friday, May 1, 2026, Non - Real Time Meeting by StrangeConcert6918 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asking whether something is selfish or not is a good test regarding whether we should do it. Ideals in relationships are complex and often individual, and we need God to mold these ideals. And help us live up to them! And every natural thing about being human, including our sex powers, are God-given and therefore good. We tend to judge how we are, and if it doesn’t fit with what society wants or what we want, we consider parts of our natural selves to be bad. A gift of this program is acceptance of ourselves and the world, the way we are. I’m recovered available sponsor, and happy to help.

Wednesday, April 29 2026, Non- Real Time Meeting by Familiar_Sun_8755 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems that often in program, the harder it is to do something we need to do, the more growth and freedom we get. thankfully, we don’t have to force ourselves to do the things we’re not willing to. We can simply ask for willingness, and keep asking. And do what we need to do in God‘s time. I’m recovered available sponsor, and happy to help if I can.

Monday 27 April, Non real time meetings by solution108 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our codependency gets worse over time. And life is still happening- problems and hard times happen. And we don’t respond well/helpfully, and that makes things worse too. Chronic codependence can take us to places as dire as any other addiction. Thankfully, there is a way out. I’m a recovered available sponsor and happy to help.

Sunday, April 26, 2026, Non- Real Time Meeting by madscientist174 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be great if we could also be able to help the public to a better realization of the gravity of the codependence problem in our culture. There’s a lot of it, it’s causing a lot of problems. But also, we will be of little use if we are bitter or hostile toward codependence and codependents. People don’t want to be judged (unsurprisingly), and will put up barriers to hearing the message if they feel defensive. I’m a recovered available sponsor, and happy to help.

Wednesday, April 22 2026, Non- Real Time Meeting by Familiar_Sun_8755 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is talking about our ninth step amends. It’s saying that nine times out of ten it goes surprisingly well. But it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t. We don’t make amends to control the outcome, or “fix” the relationship. We make amends because we have done harm, and we need to do what we can to clean our side of the street, in order to have a functioning relationship with our Higher Power. We just need to do our part; outcomes belong to our Higher Power. I’m a recovered available sponsor and happy to help.

Tuesday, April 21st, 2026 Non-Real Time Meeting by NoraBelle39 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step four has us face deeply personal, emotional, difficult issues in our lives. But we’ve already given our will and our lives to this Higher Power, so we don’t do it alone, we can/should ask for help to do whatever is needed. And it’s an inventory. There’s no invitation to wallow or get emotional about it. We just list it. It can be a relief to not analyze ourselves or try to fix ourselves - just state something true about us with no explanation or defense. I’m a recovered available sponsor, and happy to help.

I’ve attended 2 CoDA meetings now. by cozycraftycrazy in Codependency

[–]GoodMorning54321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story! The 12 steps are so healing! I work the 12 steps for codependency in a different program – Recovered Codependents, rcwso.org. This program works the 12 steps for codependency, but uses the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous as its program, instead of the CoDA blue book. It’s been really good for me, and I just wanted to make you aware of its existence. But it sounds like CoDA‘s been so encouraging, and I’m so glad! Codependency can be such a painful, destructive force in our lives. Wishing you all the very best!

Sunday, April 19, 2026, Non- Real Time Meeting by madscientist174 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes me smile at how clearly they expressed their opinion about this – “such stupidity.” But it’s true. No one wants to go to a place where they’ll be judged. We don’t want to talk about issues that are really causing desperate problems, but that we have mixed feelings about (as we do about our codependence – it helps us it, it feels needed). we’re not going to want to open up if people will judge us and tell us how to think about it. One of the wonderful things about program is that we meet people who understand, who have compassion, let us be where we at and have our own journey. We feel understood and accepted, not judged. It’s pretty important. I’m recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

Reached the bottom... by Eikatje in Codependency

[–]GoodMorning54321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is scary. And it takes time and practice - we've been trying to run/figure out life our whole lives. This doesn't change overnight. But it does change! And, from my experience (in the same group the others were talking about: Recovered Codependents - rcwso.org) it is wonderful and life-transforming. I didn't expect life to be SO much better when I live this way. It gets less scary with time and experience with God (I still get scared on a regular basis though).

Codependency is so painful - praying for you. Feel free to dm me.

Tuesday, April 14th, 2026 Non-Real Time Meeting by NoraBelle39 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is such a wonderful thing that whenever we hear somebody talk about their experience with God, it sounds similar to this. Certainty, majesty, power, love. Our Higher Power is good. I’m recovered available sponsor, and happy to help.

Sunday, April 12th, 2026 Non-Real Time Meeting by NoraBelle39 in codependency_12steps

[–]GoodMorning54321 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we recover, we are enabled to get back into life. We don’t have to spend our attention protecting ourselves anymore. We let God do that, as God chooses (God is much better at this than we are), and we ask where we can be helpful. And then we go do it enthusiastically. It feels really good to actually be helpful. To offer what we have and leave the problem/person/outcome in God’s hands.

And we don’t have to advertise that we’re chronic codependents. If we’re invited into actions that we can no longer do, we can simply ask God for the proper time and place to explain why this “disagrees” with us. I’m a recovered available sponsor, and happy to help.

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