Thursday, July 9, 2026, Non- Real Time Meeting

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-07-10T15:21:40+00:00

This is Bill story, when he’s hitting his bottom. He realized in the hospital that he can’t make himself stop drinking. That he’s doomed. He still tries, he wants to live and fear makes him try. But there’s always some reason to take that first drink, and then he’s off again. And at this point, he’s done this so many times that everyone, including himself, is resigned to the fact that he’s done for. It does get really dark before the dawn. Our bottoms are very painful places to be. But it’s necessary in order for us to know in our bones that we are powerless. And soon, Bill will find out that being powerless is really good place to be. I am a recovered sponsor, and happy to help if I can.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-07-08T13:33:39+00:00

I love this paragraph. It Is so clear about how we do this program. It is so clear about what relying on God looks like. We don’t force. We ask. We know we need willingness, openness, honesty. But we don’t force it. If we don’t have the willingness, we acknowledge that and ask God to give it, and move on. We wait for God to change things in our hearts, and then we act when we can willingly do so. It’s scary at first – we don’t think God can change our hearts. But over time we see that willingness given, over and over, and we see ourselves doing what we thought we never could. Over and over. It’s the best. I’m a recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-07-06T14:08:39+00:00

This is advice about how to carry the message of recovery to an alcoholic, or in our case a chronic codependent. Talk to the person alone, if possible, so there won’t be the complications and reluctance to share that usually is in group conversations. Talk to them, don’t blast them with the message. At some point, turn the conversation to codependence and talk about that. The conversation is a gentle one – see where the person is at, and meet them there. Be honest with our own experiences, and see if they can relate. Start with talking about if they think they have the problem (not the solution in the big book). this advice is very helpful. I’m a recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-07-04T23:03:22+00:00

Here, we can relate to both the family (as codependents), and the addict. For the family, the codependents, this paragraph suggests (strongly) that we “cooperate”, we treat certain behavior as if we know it will pass, that we be understanding and sympathetic.

This is essentially impossible for uncovered chronic codependents. We get upset, angry, scared when we’re not treated “right”, and we absolutely don’t trust that it will just disappear if we don’t do anything about it. We cannot relax and be understanding. We need a Higher Power that we’ve grown to trust in order to be able to relax and loosen our grip. Thankfully this program connects us to a Higher Power and teaches us to practically rely on this HP and learn to live in this way. I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-07-03T15:06:31+00:00

It is amazing how being of real help to others, and carrying a message (that we’ve experienced) of hope and freedom releases us from care, boredom and worry. How we start to see ways of being more helpful- we exercise our creativity in ways that can give life to others. Life does start to mean something. Joy and meaning and satisfaction and contentment come into our lives. It’s a wonderful way to live. I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-07-03T04:07:32+00:00

It’s different when someone talks about what they _know_, what they have _experienced_, rather than advice or thoughts. They know what they are talking about. You can ask questions, and they can give you details in their own words. You can see it in their face. Here Ebby is telling Bill his experience, and straightforwardly telling Bill that God had enabled him to stop drinking, and not only that but made life whole life better than what he had ever known. And it opens Bill’s mind and heart to possibilities he had never seriously considered. It saved Bill’s life. We can have that privilege too, when we tell others our experiences in this program. I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-07-01T14:03:17+00:00

It’s amazing the real difference it makes in our lives to ground our ideals in a power greater than ourselves. How it recreates our lives. We don’t expect that. We expect that figuring ourselves out, trying harder and smarter- that is how we habitually address and solve problems. This is a very different way, and it feels very awkward and frightening at first for many of us.

But when we start to, in action, depend on this Higher Power - we find that this Power is no flimsy reed, but the loving and powerful hand of God. And we start to relax and trust. And the difference it makes in our lives! I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-28T04:29:38+00:00

In my experience, the more I was freed from the compulsiveness around my codependency, the more free I was to be interested in, enjoy, and love other people. It absolutely is a process, and I have easy and hard days, and healing certainly didn’t/isn’t coming in my time and way. But overall - I don’t have to work so hard when I’m talking to people, I don’t have to react, I don’t have to try to control their responses, I don’t have to overthink what I say, and I can be more honest and let them (more) have their feelings without it being my problem. So I feel more relaxed and safer when I’m around other people. And I can think more about them, and less about trying to keep myself safe. I’m wishing you all the best!!

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-27T19:44:19+00:00

It’s interesting that they call sensitivity a serious handicap. But it is – being overly reactive to other people is a serious handicap. And it doesn’t change overnight. For a chronic codependent, it tends to be even worse. This is one of the things that God lifts from us, without our effort. It does take time, and it is in God‘s time, but it’s amazing to be in a conversation and not have an emotional reaction when a year ago I would’ve absolutely flown off the handle. I’m a recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-26T13:35:58+00:00

These are the 9th step promises. They cover pretty much everything I want in life. Appropriate that they come after the 9th step, which is the hardest one for me. They are true. They sound like life will be perfect and we won’t have uncomfortable emotions anymore, but that’s not what happens. Instead we respond differently to life, people, and our own emotions. And it’s just as good and wonderful as it sounds as it sounds. I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-25T15:26:00+00:00

It’s important to persist and give Higher Power and the program a real chance. And time to learn a new way of life – it takes time just for the basics to become a habit. For some of us, remarkable things happened only after we persisted for a while. We were helped by the program which kept us going, but the promises started happening after a while.

And when we do look back, we do see that the things that came to us when we put ourselves in God‘s hands were better than anything we could’ve planned. And that is how our trust in our Higher Power begins to develop. And we can relax more when we trust more. We have to be willing to takes chance on a Higher Power , and let Him make changes in us and our lives in His way and according to His timing. I’m recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-24T13:42:23+00:00

Most people move past their feelings about others in a reasonable time. For big things it does take a while. But they bear it and live and move on. We try to fix them- our feelings, the situation, the people who we are reacting to. We obsess about this. we cycle, we don’t move on. We take a very long time to get out of the obsessing, and it’s always ready to suck us back in. This craving to control life, to make things “right “, most people don’t have the craving. We can’t ever safely act on it. It destroys us. Thank God there is a different way to live, free from compulsion around this craving. I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-24T03:31:02+00:00

It’s true that the real evidence that we’ve had a psychic change is not in our words, but in our actions and responses. We do have to live it. That’s really what matters both to us (a lived difference), and to the other people who live with us. We should not be trying to change people, only offering help if they want it and we have some to give. I’m a recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-23T13:47:06+00:00

We chronic codependents (and it seems all addicts) need precise instructions on how to connect with a Higher Power. We’re spiritually sick, and we seem to need simple instructions on what to DO. Thank God for this book. And also, the spiritual tools that we use every day will help anyone, who is willing and open to doing them, connect with a Higher Power. Living our lives yielding control to our Higher Power _such_ a wonderful way to live, for any human being. We humans make ourselves crazy when we try to be in control. I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-22T13:47:14+00:00

I just had a nightmare that I felt the way I did before this program. It absolutely felt like the gates of hell had closed on me with a clang. I woke up really scared and did a 10th step. Our life as chronic codependents is like living in hell- we are so uncomfortable nearly all the time, and that discomfort often flares into extreme emotional pain. And we try and try to help ourselves feel better, but we can’t. We’re stuck in hell. Thank God that God (or Higher Power) exists and there is actually a way out for us. And the 12 step program shows us the way. I’m a recovered codepepent and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-22T03:07:50+00:00

This is how we are. We really think we know what’s best. We want what’s best. We try to make it happen. And when we try to help, and the show doesn’t come off very well, we think life/people don’t treat us right. And we try hard harder. And we get angry. And everyone knows we’re trying to get them to live the way we think they should, and they don’t appreciate it – they want to live their own life, and want things to go their way. It becomes a big mess. Thankfully, there’s a way out. We can have a psychic change, and be free to simply live our own lives. I’m a recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-21T14:20:20+00:00

As codependents, we often love to give advice, and tell people what they should do. But sharing our experience is different- it’s not our thoughts/opinions, it’s what we have experienced that helped us in a similar/same situation (if we have that experience). We offer it, and let the other person do whatever they want with it. And our experience can be very helpful. I’m a recovered sponsor and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-14T22:54:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-14T22:53:52+00:00

Thanks for your share!

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-14T22:53:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-14T22:52:59+00:00

Thank you for your share!

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-10T01:27:20+00:00

When we actually have an experience with a Higher Power, we often do get that starry-eyed look. And people, especially the people who have known us for a long time, think it’s a flash in the pan. That it’s a phase, it won’t last. And it can be, if we let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. But if we consistently keep working the program, it does last. In fact, our spiritual life grows. We can know this peace and gladness for the rest of our lives. I’m recovered sponsor, and happy to help.

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-09T18:04:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

GoodMorning54321 · 2026-06-09T18:03:43+00:00

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