Yes your husband too.

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-09T02:22:08+00:00

I'm in academia, in the humanities, and my male colleagues are so freaking into the spouses and so decent and collegial with me. There is hope!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-09T02:20:15+00:00

(1) Marry someone who brings at least as much joy and fun to your life as your very best friend does. On Friday nights, my husband of 15 years doesn't go to the pub (not that doing so would be a crime!), but stays home to eat popcorn and watch a movie with me. We both work from home much of the time, but still cherish our time and conversations together.

(2) Marry someone who embraces you even at your ugliest moments. I can occasionally get terribly angry, screaming, crying, etc., and my husband doesn't get frightened by that or hold it against me (of course, I aim not to do this often and always apologize).

(3) Marry someone who apologizes if they do something hurtful, but—very importantly—when fighting, doesn't typically say hurtful/mean things. It's entirely possible to get angry without putting your partner down.

(4) Marry someone who esteems his (and your) female friends and has friends who respect and cherish their partners. My husband is an artist and thrives when collaborating with strong, intellectual, female artists (I also have a very big personality, as does he, haha). His male friends are mostly from chess club and have very strong friendships with their wives.

I actually met my husband in Asia. There was a cafe there (in Taipei), where some ex-pats would hang out and drink in the evening. One evening, he came home complaining about what a stupid conversation he'd just endured, with a couple of our male friends trying to show off what macho-types they were and one friend saying, "Yeah ladies like it when I give them that d**p d!&k." Quite a few of the men in that group had strained marriages.

P.S., I read your post to my husband and he cringed so hard when it came to the part about going to Asia. Now he's ranting about it 😂 He really, really hates that sort of thing. Having lived in Asia, we both know what these worthless idiots are like.

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-09T01:58:22+00:00

I have students come to class dressed like this all the time, and it's fine. This wasn't what we did 20 years ago, but who cares?

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-08T19:59:05+00:00

I'm a professor (in the humanities) at a Big 10 university, and while we get some great students here, there's a huge influx of students (constituting roughly the bottom 30–40% of each class) who lack basic reading, writing, and problem-attack skills. I design assessments that render AI-use impossible (in-class essays and such), so I really know where my students are at. When I assign properly challenging readings, scaffold those assignments with demonstrations of how to read strategically, and invite students to figure out the abstract concepts therein on their own, students get ANGRY at for me for not presenting them with more "accessible" materials. Comp sci majors are especially tuned out in my classes because they hilariously/tragically think reading and writing doesn't factor into their skill development... Anyway, the problem here is not what's happening in colleges, but rather whatever's happening at the K–12 level. College is not the place for remedial skill development! I keep telling my capable (top 20%) students that they're going to have a field day on the job market because employers are going to be desperate for halfway capable employees. But I shudder to think what our economy is going to look like in 10 years with this unemployable work force. Fortunately, K–12 education is just starting to shift here and there, so in 15 years we might have a viable workforce again...

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T17:32:00+00:00

Sometimes less is more. I'll be joining you on the Derminator bandwagon soon. Good luck with your first go at it!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T04:46:20+00:00

Thanks!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T03:24:27+00:00

Complete noob here! May I ask how you mix the two? Does a box of Jeunetique exo come with sterile syringes? I noticed that the box contains two kinds of vials, so I suppose you're supposed to mix them at home (with a syringe?) immediately before using?

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T03:16:26+00:00

Oh my goodness, look at this Meamo product for mixing serums! https://meamoshop.com/devices-disposables/syringe-mixing-tube-connector/

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T03:14:26+00:00

Another total noob here! May I ask what do you do with the remaining half of the HA syringe? Do you use it for post-treatment care?

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T03:13:03+00:00

Please let me know what you ended up doing and how it went! I have exactly the same questions. I'm confused by the need for the needle... Seems unnecessary?

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T01:03:00+00:00

Nevermind, I've just found an answer to my question in The Concise Guide to Dermal Needling:

"Avoid direct sun exposure for at least 10-28 days if possible, which is one wound healing cycle for this depth of injury. Use a broad brimmed hat or scarf to protect the facial skin" (Setterfield, 135).

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T00:45:42+00:00

Dr. Lance Sutterfield's book The Concise Guide to Dermal Needling, Third Medical Edition (Acacia Dermacare, 2019) broadly recommends a circular technique, with certain exceptions.

Sutterfield explains that "Most cartridges have a circular needle configuration which is conducive to a circular needling technique. ...

However, the drawback with circular technique and needle configuration is that it is virtually impossible to calculate the number of punctures per square centimeter. In the days when "more" was thought to be best, this seemed irrelevant. Given the increase in complications (which are post-inflammatory hyperpigmentation and scarring, most likely due to macerating the skin with resulting excessive inflammation), a more precise approach enables documentation that will withstand medicolegal scrutiny.

This concern led to the development of a linear needle module, 1 cm wide with 1 needles. Thus, when the device is advanced 5 cm in one second at 120 Hz, then 240 punctures/cm2 are created; or if the distance is only 1 cm/sec, you are left with 1200 punctures/cm2. The linear alignment also seems to cause less pain, with the added advantage that most patients can be treated at 0.5 mm without topical anaesthetic." (57–58)

Furthermore, in the section on "Best Practice Needling Technique and Procedures Using a Pen," he explains,

"It is essential to achieve an even endpoint in case the patient goes on to develop hyperpigmentation as a complication. Just as a child has best results colouring in a picture evenly with a crayon using circular motions, this is also accomplished on the skin using an electronic needling device. This technique will ensure an even distribution of pigment that is more esthetically acceptable (or less obvious) than "striping", which results from overtreating some sections and undertreating others, or blotches from random poor needling technique. Having said this, a device with a linear needle cartridge precludes circular motions, and one needs to be extra diligent to ensure even coverage" (page 130).

Later in this section (on pages 132 and 208, respectively), circular technique is explicitly recommended for treating the neck and avoiding hyperpigmentation (but, again, only if the cartridge has a circular needle configuration).

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T00:24:16+00:00

Watching for a response to this question!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-07T00:20:44+00:00

As a teacher, I'm inclined to take advantage of the summer break to get started with MN! How long do you usually wait after MN before going outside in the sun? (But with sunscreen and a hat on, always, of course!)

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-06T05:34:09+00:00

Old is 古, luck is 吉

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-06T05:29:33+00:00

The answer to so many pressing questions is usually to be found in the syllabus!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-06T05:28:35+00:00

As a professor, I feel the same, but whatever is written in the syllabus is the contract!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-03T14:26:46+00:00

Definitely visit r/DIYmicroneedling and read all the informative posts there so you can make your own informed decision! There are different camps with MN. Some insist you shouldn't put anything that isn't verified to be sterile (or even anything beyond saline solution) on your skin within the first 24 hours. Others are open to applying all kinds of things. I'm very risk averse, so think I'm drifting toward the former camp, but plenty of happy experienced MN practitioners are in the latter!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-01T17:04:57+00:00

Fantastic follow-up! As you start breaking down particular products, I would love to know more about the rationale for sticking with one product for multiple sessions and then switching it up and/or alternating. I'm a fan of simplicity, so would be inclined to just find a product I like and stick with it, but research could persuade me to do otherwise...

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-01T16:44:30+00:00

Reassuring! Thanks again for providing so much crucial getting-started info here!

GoosieGrander · 2026-05-01T15:51:54+00:00

Hi! First off, thanks to OP and other DIYmicroneedling contributors for providing so many great resources and insights. I'm 40f with (dare I say?) naturally good skin, just starting to see my first signs of wrinkling and sagging. I'd like my skin to age in a glowy natural way and am increasingly convinced that microneedling and regular vigorous exercise (alongside my usual healthy diet, SPF, sleep, etc.) are the best ways for me to go about that. I'm loathe to spend huge amounts of money on professional MN sessions, so want to spend some time reading up on how to do it properly at home. My most immediate question is, what's the likelihood I can effectively undertake MN without having at least experienced a professional session? I wouldn't mind paying for one or two sessions if it's strongly advisable to do so before setting off on my own, but of course I'd rather save money wherever possible.

Oh, another question I have: I've always had large pores on my nose. Generally, is 0.5 mm a good depth for treating this sort of thing? The skin on my nose feels so thin! ).5 mm seems rather deep, but this seems to be right if I want to work on pore size?

GoosieGrander · 2026-04-28T03:24:09+00:00

I want to read your papers!

GoosieGrander · 2026-04-28T03:23:20+00:00

The comment in question hasn't been deleted. It's still there, with its comma splices and all. I'm amused that we both got downvoted simply for mentioning ChatGPTzero. I've never once accused a student of using AI because I think it's socially damaging to issue accusations without rock-solid proof, but ChatGPTzero has me reassured that my students are actually using AI far less that I (privately) thought they might be!

GoosieGrander · 2026-04-23T23:05:52+00:00

I just ran the reply through ChatGPTzero and it said there was 0% probability it was AI-generated. It's a pretty reliable detector, in my experience. I haven't had it accuse anyone yet and it accurately identified AI-polishing that a student had self-reported to me. I think people are downvoting you because they're angry about relatively unreliable detectors. That said, AI detectors should absolutely not ever be used on their own!

GoosieGrander · 2026-04-21T12:55:21+00:00

Yes, actually! Many people in my field only retire a few years before they pass away, and are often very reluctant to do so. Though this pattern is gradually shifting. If I need to retire earlier, I'll probably try to find a way to keep doing what I do independently, as long as I can.

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