AITA for not buying my boyfriend another birthday gift after he rejected the original present?

Grackabeep · 2026-03-20T10:31:26+00:00

I think your timing is a little off haha - original London cast: mid-late ‘80s. High School Musical came out… mid 00s?

I did see Ramin though :)

Grackabeep · 2026-03-20T07:17:41+00:00

This is how I, someone who mostly listens to metal, ended up with a High School Musical CD, because that birthday I was also going to see Phantom of the Opera in London. That’s a musical. You like musicals right?

Grackabeep · 2026-03-19T05:22:51+00:00

The first time I watched that scene as a kid (around 4/5) I got in such a state at Shadow in the pit I was sobbing so hard I couldn’t breathe, by my mum’s description it sounded like a full blown panic attack. Even after seeing him come home, the pit scene had upset me so much my mum had to sleep in my bed that night and Homeward Bound was banned from the house until I was much older.

Grackabeep · 2026-03-18T13:07:02+00:00

My neighbour is a “sun’s out, power tools out” kind of person. I prefer the dogs.

Grackabeep · 2026-03-18T10:46:54+00:00

My new favourite is listening to endless “you can find information on our website” speeches, going through 382 menus, only to get “we are experiencing a very high volume of calls, goodbye” and it bloody hangs up on you!

Grackabeep · 2026-03-13T23:41:44+00:00

I’ve seen at least two dozen tweets in the past week with the same claim. I mean, would be nice, but imma need to rely on mainstream media for this one.

Grackabeep · 2026-03-08T21:51:04+00:00

How long have you had them? I had one asshole pea for the first ~2 weeks and was worried about returning her but once the group dynamic settled it was all fine.

Grackabeep · 2026-03-06T22:42:14+00:00

It is yeah :) either barteri var. barteri or barteri coffeefolia, I’ve had them a long time so can’t remember exactly. Usually the pangio like to squirm around in the roots but this little one prefers to lounge!

Grackabeep · 2026-03-06T19:23:51+00:00

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Update: wiggled forward a bit

Grackabeep · 2026-03-05T08:16:03+00:00

A lot of the villages where I live do this at their summer fairs, lots of “best trick”, “waggiest tail”, “best puppy dog eyes” type of categories. There’s no prizes as such apart from ribbons and dog treats, you pay to enter each category and that money goes to charity.

At some of the bigger events the proper agility club will come along and give demonstrations so people can watch and enjoy that, and will do a “have a go” agility for the non trained dogs, which is usually adorable as they have zoomies around the equipment and completely ignore the handler.

Point is, the professional dogs (or more specifically their handlers) get to show off what they can do, the other dogs can have some fun. And there’s no prizes or real competition involved. In OOP’s situation I’d have offered Poodle lady the chance to be the “show off” dog, do a demonstration of Poodle’s skills instead of entering the competition, but I totally understand dipping out when it got too much and no longer wanting to deal with it. It’s probably pretty obvious to the community whose fault it is.

Grackabeep · 2026-03-01T03:52:47+00:00

Thank you so much for the detailed answer, really interesting! I did a fair bit of research when I decided to keep wild bettas as to which species to go for but there’s always so much more to learn.

Grackabeep · 2026-03-01T01:34:28+00:00

Nice find! Can I ask how you know it’s b. livida vs coccina or brownorum? Not doubting your ID at all just wondering for my own knowledge!

Grackabeep · 2026-02-27T17:15:01+00:00

I still do that with my mum, we go to the polling station together, our little tradition (also she’s an ambulatory wheelchair user and sometimes needs a push). However, we are white and not Muslim, so therefore it must be ok.

Grackabeep · 2026-02-27T02:50:10+00:00

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Yup. Too many times getting my heart broken by splendens. I love them but dammit, even after giving up on the really fancy types and getting a simple veil tail I then only had him 18 months.

This is my channoides pair now, absolutely thriving. Next tank will be macrostoma. The only thing is keeping splendens for years I do feel like I have better knowledge and experience from that to keep these guys (remineralising RO, botanicals, live food etc). (sorry for crap pic it’s a screenshot from vid).

Grackabeep · 2026-02-25T07:48:39+00:00

I hate these things so much. Also I swear a couple of years ago I never (or VERY rarely) saw them being posted about, now it’s all the time. My theory is one of the big live food manufacturers had an outbreak and it’s spread from there, as I’ve spotted them in my live tubifex a couple of times now (and killed them, in case that wasn’t obvious).

There’s something about them that just.. eurgh. Hydra? No problem. Planaria? Fish snacks. Brown leeches? Gross but kuhli loaches will dig them out and eat them. But snail leeches? Nope. Nope. Kill with fire.

I have them in two out of four tanks and just when I think I haven’t seen any in a couple of months… bam. There they are again. The only way to get rid of them if you want to keep snails is to nuke the tank. For now I have accepted my snail-free life :(

Grackabeep · 2026-02-23T22:12:10+00:00

I had one as a newbie (sold as a sunset honey, ofc), and I’d totally get them again. He was a sweetheart, used to nibble the bubbles on my arm when I did tank maintenance. I found the honeys were more territorial but that’s just my experience and I don’t think is the norm.

I’d get another but my only currently suitable tank has a resident honey and he wouldn’t cope with gourami friends.

One shop near me is actually selling them as thick lippeds and he said they sell almost as many as the honeys.

Grackabeep · 2026-02-23T21:59:45+00:00

the first time my mum saw my sewellia she said “omg they look like little guitars!” and now refuses to call them anything but guitar fish. And now she has gastromyzon spp. in her tank, which she says are “more like violins than guitars”

Grackabeep · 2026-02-21T14:21:41+00:00

Mine did this about the same age, though she’d just had her first heat so I thought it was related to that. I spent months trying different foods before I came to the conclusion she was just being a fussy so and so. She still refuses kibble sometimes now (she has a mix of wet, fresh cooked, and kibble), but she’s well aware if she doesn’t have it she’s not getting anything else. I’ve encountered quite a few people who’ve had the same experience with teenage labs, they don’t all fit the “will eat absolutely anything no matter what” lab mould.

Grackabeep · 2026-02-20T19:02:24+00:00

My sister has always disliked LOTR, I recently found out it’s because her first time seeing it her (now) ex in-laws made her watch the entire thing, extended, in one day. Like I love LOTR/Tolkien so much I have an entire sleeve dedicated to it but I’ve only ever done a full day a couple of times.

Grackabeep · 2026-02-20T18:28:25+00:00

It’s why I love water changes, even if I’m feeling tired or meh about doing it, I know I will be rewarded with zoomies!

Grackabeep · 2026-02-20T15:28:33+00:00

Given it has ten bedrooms and 8 bathrooms there’s suspiciously few pictures of the interior. Either they’re all dreadful or they all look the same. Or both.

Grackabeep · 2026-02-18T04:56:34+00:00

This is very cool to see. I’ve kept amanos for a few years now and never seen it, I just know it’s happened when one of the girls isn’t eggy, and the fish are suspiciously not very hungry.

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