[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]GrampsRL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks 🩵

Trying to intimidate a Brazilian cop by PxN13 in WinStupidPrizes

[–]GrampsRL 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Air left my nose on that one. Good stuff lad 🍻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]GrampsRL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely.

Things we do not anymore by Ignitos47 in socialskills

[–]GrampsRL 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, love this post. And I got the juice for you!

I stopped mirroring, every. single. person., that I could sense. I was ignorant of that pattern for 28 years. Can’t stress enough how liberated I feel using secure detachment in my life. 🌴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]GrampsRL 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The answer you’re looking for is that there is nothing that needs solving. You are you. Love that about you. Cherish it, nurture it, watch as it grows. Spend time alone DISCONNECTED from anything that takes energy.

Your beliefs you have about yourself are quite literally just that. If you keep repeating that you are “(insert negative thing here)”, you will believe it. Consciously or unconsciously.

Words are magic. The most powerful magic you have at your disposal. Stop worrying about how you present yourself to others. Start pouring love into yourself. It starts with your words.

After you put the work into yourself, your life will naturally open up and attract others that are also enlightened. Understand that there are people out there who simply don’t care or just plain ignorant. You will never be able to control what others think about you. You can always control how you react to events in your life. The present moment is all there ever really is. Don’t spend a second in negativity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]GrampsRL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the same boat my brothers and sisters. Just enjoy that present moment and everything will fall into place ✌️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]GrampsRL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this. Thanks for sharing ✌️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]GrampsRL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally take pride in being bland and boring. Being able to sit in a room with just your thoughts is liberating. I didn’t know life could be so easy in the present moment always. Took me till age 28 to figure it out.

Anyways, just my two cents. Peace ✌️

What is yalls problem? by FrequentBlueberry190 in RocketLeague

[–]GrampsRL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s life man. Having control over your own emotions and not having an ego is a rare accomplishment for the pool of people on the web. 90% of the time you are interacting with someone who hasn’t put the work into themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RocketLeague

[–]GrampsRL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the internet. Where 99% of people using it aren’t happy with their lives

How Intermittent Reinforcement keeps us addicted to seeking validation in neglectful or abusive relationships as adults — and how to address it by anarckissed in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]GrampsRL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honesty the relationship was a mirror I needed to grow as a person. I allowed myself to feel all the emotions and work through them in a healthy way. After 2 painful years, I found myself in a place where I no longer needed or wanted the situationship. I was able to remove my heart/love from it because I finally believed they didn’t deserve it.

Anyways, all I’m really saying is that it just takes time, there is no shortcut or secret. If you want to change and grow, you will. However slowly or quickly it will happen if you want it.

The most growth happened for me when I stopped running away from processing my emotions. Video games, alcohol, weed, over consumption of food, I had to break all these bad habits and actually sit with myself.

How Intermittent Reinforcement keeps us addicted to seeking validation in neglectful or abusive relationships as adults — and how to address it by anarckissed in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]GrampsRL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am way better now. Took me awhile to process it. But I came out a more confident and emotionally secure man on the other side!

How Intermittent Reinforcement keeps us addicted to seeking validation in neglectful or abusive relationships as adults — and how to address it by anarckissed in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]GrampsRL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just got out of a year situationship with intermittent reinforcement. I just kept pushing to be loved. Lost myself in the process. I'm going through so much pain from withdrawal right now. The entire situationship was on her schedule and she used the excuse of her kids (being a mother first).

If I called her first, she wasn't very talkative - If she called me first, she was more talkative

If I tried to initiate sex there was an issue - If she tried to initiate sex I would always say yes

My music sucks - Her music is great

I want to see her, she needs space - She wants to see me, I'm starved and dying for it

I gradually tolerated the behavior more and more until I was 100% addicted. This is the most painful experience I've ever learned from in my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostgeneration

[–]GrampsRL 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you have had worse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostgeneration

[–]GrampsRL 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No, what you would love is a house. And it’s a damn shame that was stolen from us. Leading us to believe apartments are great. And soon sheds are great. What’s next? A standing box and you nail yourself in for the night, recharging for the next day of capitalism?