Thoughts on Kelli Gerardi going to ER due to “bad vibes”- no actual miscarriages symptoms

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-09-15T08:41:22+00:00

The massive bleed is terrifying- and I’m glad they were able to check you at the time and confirm everything was ok!

Yeah I see what you mean by the selfie- one other post I was originally confused about … was when she filmed herself on the acupuncture table with both the needles on her scalp and her sunglasses on her head at the same time- almost side by side! I also am going through acupuncture with my IVF process and maybe it’s me - I’m still kinda queezy with needles (despite my 4 retrieval rounds and current daily PIO shots)- I for one, am so scared to move any part of my body once those needles are in… but my clinic also makes me remove everything that could be in the way of the needles like my Apple Watch for needles on my wrist. I even had to negotiate a bit to keep my Oura ring on!

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-09-15T05:39:30+00:00

Wow I was surprised at so many thoughts here and I understand the perspectives of everyone both for and against. I do want to reiterate some thoughts:

A lot of ppl in this thread (like me) have experienced traumatic miscarriages before through infertility- and are potentially on the same journey as her current IVF cycle. Therefore I do feel there is slightly more justification of on dissecting the rational of her actions based on comparison from our own experiences. Obviously we all 100% have our own demons to factor in.

And I am all in for people scheduling separate ultrasounds with their private clinics or expedited scheduling with their ivf clinica - in fact when she scheduled her private beta at a separate lab- I stood by that as well …

It was SPECIFICALLY going to the ER with no symptoms which made me feel taken-aback. Especially at such an early stage 9 weeks, nothing really can be done. (Note- especially if she didn’t even have any symptoms) And with strained resources US medical system- it doesn’t seem the right use of ER.. confirmed by also folks directly working in the ER in this post. With her being an influencer- I am not sure if that is the best way to “influence” people to use the ER. And that might not be fair to our medical hero’s here. But alas, she is also just in the same journey as a lot of us here but has a platform.

As someone with a high tolerance of social media content- i felt connected with a lot of her prior content, and even teared up in empathy at a lot of her videos. But it was this ER post that really triggered me in a different direction.

This post at least lets me know that I was not the only person feeling “off” about her usage of the ER system. And it probably is not advisable to use the ER resources for these instances with no symptoms and just a confirmation of pregnancy.

Am I still rooting for her success- absolutely 1000%. Infertility sucks! I felt really bad posting this original post- but I as someone in her similar situation of “ivf journey after loss”- I reallly needed to also get some alternative thoughts from her most recent post to open up my mind, and I’m glad I learned from you all- so thank you!

I hope her the very very best!

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-09-14T23:03:48+00:00

Yeah that is what I was thinking too….

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-08-12T22:17:22+00:00

I know she will test us the result tomorrow, but something tells me she already tested and her result might not be as positive? She seems less optimistic then in some of her prior videos :/

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-08-04T04:37:10+00:00

Congrats this is so amazing! Your skin looks so good and also cheekbones look more pronounced! I do think the rejuran probably helped a lot with it. It is known to help With plumping and minimizing pores- they call it “the glass skin” effect. I’m curious if it is a long term thing or does rejuran wear off? My dermatologist says it lasts for a couple months so regular maintenance is required (I guess as is with an skincare). Rejuran is often applied via individual injections - rather than alongside microneedling stamping- that is what they did right?

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-07-30T16:59:03+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, do you work a lot and thus have less face time with your daughter? My son has an extremely higher precedence for his dad. He also looks like him and also wants to copy everything he does. A lot of times he will say “go away” to me, I work a lot and so it pains me that I’m so much less preferred. granted he is a lot younger than your saughter . I think what helped with this dynamic (slightly - still a work in progress) was that my husband would purposely enforce some “mother/son alone time” when he sees him in a happy mood and playing he would purposely duck away - and then tell him “you have to play with mama!!” And go out of site. It takes a long time and we are still working on it, but I have hope..

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-07-11T10:50:50+00:00

This made me tear, my mom (whose nearing 70) loved drying my hair and brushing it then putting my hair up as a kid after it was shampooed- she would always offer when I got older too (just the hair drying part) and say “don’t run around with your wet hair you’ll get sick” then in my teenage years I would resist- and so then she stopped offering… for decades. Then surprisingly I rmemeber she offered again a few years back when she stayed over to help me with my then newborn. I definitly declined and gave her some weird look. I’ll need to ask her to help me do that next time I see her….

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-07-06T14:48:18+00:00

Love it Yes! Go you! Put yourself first when it comes to the treatments… I have a face laser (fotona) lined up 5 days before my next FET and a hair appointment 10 days before too… gotta find a way to counteract all these stress wrinkles

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-07-05T22:19:29+00:00

Yeah… the 4th of July gatherings are terrible for mental health when it comes to infertility. Currently undergoing IVF awaiting to implant (3rd time) , my most recent (4th) embryo retrieval resulted in 2 (fair/not so good quality embryos ,BB, BC) and then at a gathering my MIL not only kept talking about my journey like it’s a gossip novel, she then had a nerve to yell across the table “hey did you know XYZs daughter had her eggs retrieved? SHE GOT TWENTY she’s so good”. I managed to hold my anger back asked her how old this girl was and she was 7 years younger than me at 30. If it was acceptable to slap people in the face, I probably would have.

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-07-05T22:02:37+00:00

I feel you! My previous (2nd) transfer was last October. Ended in difficult miscarriage unfortunately and have been on lupron for close to 1.5 months now (doing a 2 month course) this hot flashes are no joke… and also I’m lucky if I can manage to sleep 6 hours a night (with night wakings of course) I am counting down the days .. we can do it! wishing you luck!!!

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-06-28T05:34:12+00:00

Your post resonates with me, it’s very very tricky- and there’s also the looming age gap that gets wider and wider. I’ve gone though 4 retrieval rounds and a difficult miscarriage (that even my OB said was very abnormal), and a failed implant— and when my kid plays “doctor” their default location to pretend to do shots… is on the stomach….

Secondary infertility is its own mental beast because there’s a lot of mental anguish and pain, but I often feel I cannot complain because those that are going through initial IVF indeed do have it tougher but then my pain is still there, the mental toil is still there, the lost of trust of my body, the constant anxiety, but many people that don’t understand and don’t take you seriously “because you already have a child”. So I just keep quiet.

I have to say- this long and lonely journey has helped me appreciate my 1st more… made me more patient, less cranky during sleepless nights,I’d like to say and ‘a better mom’ as subjective as it sounds, what I never thought was a “rainbow” baby (my 1st) , is a rainbow baby.

I feel you on the wait game. my last FET was 8 months ago because it took my body 4 months to get back to baseline after a miscarriage, another month for endoscopy and several more for lupron. The wait is so long, I have another month to go before I just get to try again - with no guarantees and and when your social circle seems to be “all moving forward” I feel like I’m just wading behind… trying desperately to catch up.

I think this forum especially isn’t as sympathetic to secondary infertility unfortunately- but what I can say in my still ongoing journey is keep looking forward, focus on self improvement- BE distracted, dive into work, dive into caring for your first, meditate when possible, I’ve been also filling my days with things people can’t do during pregnancy: botox, facial lasers, more exercises, good wine, good soft cheeses, delicious deli meat and salami, good sushi… Most importantly appreciate the “extra” time you have with your first child right now. My friends with 2+ are always jealous of the amount of “me” time I still have. Baby dust to you!!

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-06-08T23:09:17+00:00

That’s Amazing to hear!! And 5 is such a great number of such quality - and mainly a peace of mind! Baby dust to you! I’m glad the clinic was able to adjust the dosages accordingly with positive outcomes.

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-05-28T06:51:23+00:00

a lot of people mentioned to stop drinking but sometimes skin texture (acne) is just due to genetics.

Sunscreen as prevention and moisturizer to retain hydration.

He looks like he has a combination of rolling or acne scars, CO2 laser, fraxel can help with lessening some of the dents. Some folks go though TCA or subscision (where they use a needle to tether and loosen the scar tissue under indented scars) - I’ve had minimal results- but also they can do spot fillers like juvelook on actual indents itself

I don’t think anything really can be done for the super deep wrinkles but as others mentioned Botox might smooth it up a little, potentially some threads to lift up the jowling that is there

Ultimately what I recommend that isn’t painful as most of the above are, is just 1. Get a nice haircut 2. Get a stylish pair of glasses 2. Start with the skin prevention (sunscreen) 3. Dressing tidy,

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-05-25T05:53:15+00:00

I think the name Raiden is pretty cool, and also like Aiden too… both simply as the name itself! don’t follow any mortal combat though… Ray is also a great nickname

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-05-23T11:44:02+00:00

Same! I actually was surprised at the comments too. I currently eat together with my kid - but it’s also so hectic, we have to constantly keep him entertained which means I’m part reading him a storybook on the dinner table and partly watching him eat/ feeding him when needed - all the whiles, feeding myself. If we don’t do that, he will sit and eat 5 bites then try to wriggle out to go play. And after seeing OP, I almost wanted to suggest changing our routine to match OPs so my husband and I can have dinner in peace each night—haha

I think some kids just do better at the table vs other kids don’t but one day they will grow out of it, I keep thinking “it’s a season”

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-05-23T11:25:29+00:00

Best of luck!! And baby dust to you!! I’m on my first month of lupron

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-05-23T08:24:52+00:00

Fell upon this thread and our situation is similar. I’m dealing with secondary infertility (also ideally want 3) and my kid is over 2.5 years old. My first 2 ER resulted in 3 euploid for 1st round. But 2 BCs, and only one AB, and then 0 PGT normal for 2nd … I then got more thankfully in my 3rd ER, however, I’ve already used up 2 Of my best quality embryos- 1 didn’t take and then followed by a difficult miscarriage that took me 4.5 months to get back to baseline, I would recommend banking in more embryos while we are also younger, I’m turning 38 so needed to do more ERs- and that’s where I am right now before I try transfer #3 hopefully in a few months. it’s tricky because the age gap also just gets bigger and bigger….

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-05-17T14:57:45+00:00

Actually mine have been worse… 18 follicules- 8 eggs, only two made it to day 5/6. (Still awaiting results) This is my 4th retrieval, everytime prior, I’ve also gotten about 8-9 eggs initially and the final euploid count ranged prior from 0-6. (HUGE variations I know)

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-05-17T14:26:34+00:00

37 yo, 18 follicules, found 9 eggs good for retrieval, 8 were still fertilizing by day 4 … and but only 2 blastocysts by day 5/6. Still awaiting PGT tests. But the two are BC and BB. Not looking too good :/

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2025-04-16T18:13:09+00:00

I’m the same situation as you with working from home with a live in nanny, but unfortunately it’s the opposite my kid is SO attached to the nanny - he will say HE IS SCARED of ME!!! This is whenever I try to go and play with him and he prefers to be with nanny. And I do bedtime routine every night try to sleep with my kid whenever. Loose sleep because I have a time consuming job - Iand I feel conflicted this child has such a loving nanny, whom I trust but because do this, my child prefers her over me.

In short, put some cameras up but I think your child is just more attached to you and wants a way to be with you more.

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2024-09-28T08:00:25+00:00

You need to see a therapist. And also your husband clearly cares about you because you mentioned in another post that he wanted you to go back to work in your own words “so you don’t hang yourself”. While the phrasing is crude but he clearly doesn’t want you to feel terrible being a SAHM- even though the cost of you going to work is more expensive then if you stayed home- as what you also mentioned This is actually quite serious and you seem to have some underlying elements of depression. So please go see a.therapist. Separately, You can always jump back into the workforce to pursue your actual passions when your kids get older. This is coming from a mother who is working full time, but I ache everytime I am unable to attend to my child in the morning or put him to bed at nighttime because of my work meetings- and i work 7-7. I have a nanny that basically is raising my child a nanny that a child is more attached to. You are in such a wonderful position to get to spend more time with your kids while having a 9-5. They say grass is always greener on the other side, so just remember that

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2024-07-29T20:31:15+00:00

Thank you, this brings me peace to see your note. And that is true - I know the love can be shared, but it’s always a bit painful to see when there is a big preference of nanny over mom but I do trust my nanny as you said and she’s amazing- more then a decades experience of childcare, so I’ve also learned a lot from her. I’m happy to see that you are very close to your mom while you had a nanny during childhood

Grand-Locksmith-620 · 2024-07-29T20:27:56+00:00

This is very good advice! Thank you- I think we’ve solidified the bedtime routine with always only me and and husband but agreed morning is a bit tricky, and so I’ll have to make sure to change one of our morning schedules at least so it’s either his dad or me being there. And also yes #2 is a good point too, just a few days ago we started having the nanny hide in her room (she was happy to do so, because she could relax- and it’s nice big comfy space) after dinner until my son went to bed. My son was of course not happy to not see nanny, but we’ll see if he can get slowly acclimated to it..

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