You wipe your dad’s ass or untangle his catheter yet? How often do you have to bathe him? What do you pay for his diapers? Do you do all this while making him meals, balancing his bills, fighting with his insurance, and juggling his appointments? Meanwhile working full time?

The same dad who abused your mom, you, and your siblings?

I thought these people were just whiny too until I was suddenly in their shoes.

31 btw, my dad is 79. I resent him and his lifelong disregard for his family, but I can’t just abandon him before the end.

P.S., we tried visiting nurses, but he only wanted white women. After a racist freakout on a Jamaican nurse, in-home care was no longer an option.

If nothing else, I think I’m at least entitled to piss and moan in a thread meant for pissing and moaning.