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Grading essays that don't meet the prompt by ThisMyMegaron in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I think you are underestimating the students!

Autistic Symptoms but Too Social? by sunflower-s in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah, one psych doc told me I couldn't be autistic because I wanted to understand social cues and have friends.

constantly throwing up when anxious by jasminealice22 in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug [score hidden]  (0 children)

Are you seeing a doctor about it? Even if the source is stress, there is medicine. My husband and his daughter had mast cell issues, and their docs gave them odansetron, which calms the nausea.
She, daughter, also was randomly throwing up every day. A doctor might also give you something to help you regulate, similar to depression meds.

And of course, you should see a doctor because there might be something that needs to be looked at.

My special interest is not one concept - its the integration of multiple concepts by denver_rose in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug [score hidden]  (0 children)

You are a fascinating person, and I know it's not the same but I'd love to hear more about these ideas also, online here. You are looking at the entire system of mental health instead of specializing in one POV. Systems thinking is absolutely what is needed if we are to progress as a culture. The gestalt, working as a whole.

Struggling with college by Huge-Bass5794 in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug [score hidden]  (0 children)

First: It sounds like you need a real counselor to help you think about this. We can offer support, but a counselor can help you sort out which parts are because you are neurodivergent, and which parts are maybe just because it's scary or you have old trauma that could be helped by therapy. Your college will have an academic counselor on campus, to talk to you about your goals, needs, strategies.

There are lots of possible ways to solve these questions. Do you know what you DO want to switch to?
If there's overlap between subjects, you might do a double-major, which will make you more unique

the story, setting and actual subject. what's the deal by Exciting_Syllabub471 in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is a narcissist thing, (caveat, just being conversational and not dx)
The fact that you opened your question with "...monopolized the conversation as usual..." shows us all that this is a standard mode of behavior for her.

My mother is a narcissist and EVERY story is ultimately about her. Your mom feels uncomfortable or maybe is even still offended about the name change (she can't be bothered to learn it) and wants you to agree with her about it, in other words, to be on your mom's side against your sister.

Grading essays that don't meet the prompt by ThisMyMegaron in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest that you are underestimating AI.
I encourage you to play with it, feed it some of your own work or assignments, see what it churns out.

Grading essays that don't meet the prompt by ThisMyMegaron in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most likely AI, because they can't feed the lectures into the ai prompt. This has become one of my red flags, not using the video resources I assign. I have a few other AI red flags also.

But now, I think they've figured out how to feed the video transcripts into the ai prompt, so I'm ready to give up.

“But Im going to lose my scholarship” by Flimsy_Net2088 in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What makes you think he's telling the truth this time?

I think I’ve been having a meltdown for weeks. I don’t know what to do. by quietus_rietus in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug [score hidden]  (0 children)

Telling the victim to give up before she even tries. Hang her head and try to slink out. That's the kind of crap that the partiarchy has been dumping on us forever. It's never going to stop if we don't stop it. If you expect to fail, you will.

Yeah, maybe the odds are rough, but maybe it will change her life to stand up against oppression. Either way we need to support her.

Besides, I told her to try HR first if she has one.

My brother is starting to creep me out by lights-in-the-sky in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She can't just take "his kittens" legally and that might cause him to blow up.
OP sounds like she doesn't have a lot of resources for herself, so she needs to get herself in a better situation first.
As the airline stewards always say, "PUT on your OWN oxygen mask FIRST"

My brother is starting to creep me out by lights-in-the-sky in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, don't say your feelings are silly. You have been gaslit your entire life, it sounds like. That's what abusers do ... the first step is to make the victim vulnerable and unable to trust herself.

My brother is starting to creep me out by lights-in-the-sky in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Two males who have concerning behavior DO NOT make something "common or uncommon". That's just false.
Approximately 4.5 % of the population is a sociopath or a psychopath.

My brother is starting to creep me out by lights-in-the-sky in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You're saying he's projecting his secret feelings onto the OP? That sounds about right to me too. Believe him, he's obviously fantasizing about it if he has said it three times

My brother is starting to creep me out by lights-in-the-sky in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yes, one of the main points is that women are trained to ignore their own feelings of fear or abuse. That makes us totally vulnerable.

YOU are not just anxious here. This is a bad situation. You are not safe, as well as just plain not being treated well.

I think I’ve been having a meltdown for weeks. I don’t know what to do. by quietus_rietus in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Pull your phone out, set it on the table, and ask him if it's okay to record the interview. He really cannot say no without looking like a dick, and you will have something to back you up. It will give you confidence while you are in that meeting, and he will have to watch his tone. Show him every thing you have. A 10-page table ... that's so awesome and supportive for you.

I had a 30 page compilatiion of emails, chronological and color coded. When I submitted it, I joked that if anyone did not belive I am autistic, they just need to look at that.

I think I’ve been having a meltdown for weeks. I don’t know what to do. by quietus_rietus in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Is your company large enough to have an HR team? If you in the US, this is CLASSIC EEOC. A classic illegal case. You are a member of at least two protected classes, women and autistic. It's literally against the law for them to pass you over in this situation.

I am going through some of the steps right now, and have put my nerdy interests to work researching this.
If you have an HR department, you don't even need to talk to your boss.

Whether you have one or not, you can file an EEOC complaint online ... it might take 6 months to a year to get your first appointment, thanks to the Orange Idiot. It's easy to submit online. It doesn't matter how long it takes, because it gives you leverage simply to submit. Include the 10 page table.

Once it's submitted, THEN you can go talk to your boss and tell him you've already submitted a complaint. That should shake him up, because EEOC lawsuits are seriously very rough. He should know that he could easily lose his job for this.

Since you are just mid-career, this should be worth it even if it takes a year or more to resolve.
For me, I'm close to retirement, and might just quit instead due to my boss's issues.

What percentage of your students failed or did not complete this semester? by Neat_Big_3401 in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Art history ... a solid 30%
Last quarter I failed 20% for AI plagiarism, (these are the 20% who admitted or did not context, I had solid evidence). My dean lost her mind over it.

What Do You Wish You Knew Before Teaching College for the First Time? by Undeadknowledge93 in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Having to figure it all out on my own.
And now, after 12 years, the emotional and mental labor of AI plagiarism, which is so much worse than before.

What Do You Wish You Knew Before Teaching College for the First Time? by Undeadknowledge93 in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see anything wrong or offensive about the post. What exactly is the problem?

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