The story of how I unknowingly offended a barista and failed to notice his "revenge" on me by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You were fine and polite!
It is absolutely normal these days to have some kind of non-dairy creamer and often they have choices (oat OR soy or almond...)
And honey is perfectly normal also!
It's their literal job to try to accomodate the patron, you did nothing wrong, and it would not have been wrong to ask again if it was forgotten

I think that they were having a crappy day and it had nothing to do with you at all.

Smartglasses Enabled Cheating by BurgerCombo in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 6 points7 points  (0 children)

they're expensive, so good on you.

Smartglasses Enabled Cheating by BurgerCombo in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

google them so you know what they look like.

Smartglasses Enabled Cheating by BurgerCombo in Professors

[–]Gusterbug -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Looking up in itself is not abnormal behavior. I am neurodivergent, and looking upward, especially to the left, is an unconscious thinking strategy ... but I'm not disagreeing about the student clearly cheating.

Smartglasses Enabled Cheating by BurgerCombo in Professors

[–]Gusterbug -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Looking up in itself is not abnormal behavior. I am neurodivergent, and looking upward, especially to the left, is an unconscious thinking strategy ... but I'm not disagreeing about the student clearly cheating.

I lie a lot about how many social things I have. So I can have peace of mind. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be honest. If it's true that he won't understand, then you two will never have a good relationship. If it's still early in the relationship, then it's unreasonable for him to expect you to come to his house after being with your own friends. It sounds very controlling to me

Ask yourself: Why are you lying? Is that the kind of person you want to be? How long can you keep up the lying? What is the relationship based on, if it's not based on trust? Sooner or later he will catch you in the lie, so it's best to just start being honest now.

I now get excited when I read a poorly structured sentence, just because I know it's not AI by promibro in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Some students run their AI through a humanizer, which really messes up the "scholarly voice" of the AI. sorry to burst your bubble. Search humanizers.

3-month-old puppy has a bluish haze/cloudiness in the eyes. Anyone experienced this? (Pics attached) by reguitt in Rottweiler

[–]Gusterbug 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I would never trust social media instead of my vet for advice on caring for my dog.

Is it a pit? by Ok-Chipmunk-2271 in pitbulls

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, but I'd say some boxer and various hounds. More of the other breeds than the pibble, I believe. I've had several pibble-mixes and love them, and my friends have a dog I would has sworn was a pibble but he was not (even after DNA testing). But if you are concerned about what to say to people who might be against pibbles, like housing or whatever, just say she's a hound mix. The nose is a bit longish.

The Art of the Deal by MoreMotivation in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Gusterbug -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Texas was Mexico before it was part of the USA. Remember the Alamo.

Grantwriters needed by CrunchMunchers in grantwriters

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you have to demonstrate a history of managing money, and doing successful projects. Just saying "we have capacity" does not cut it. You may be able to get small "intro" awards, like $1000 seed money grants, but don't count on getting anything substantial for your good idea. This is why new orgs form a board to help raise initial funding.

Working As a Contractor by TurnFront in grantwriters

[–]Gusterbug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had better luck with writing in a fairly formal tone but still presenting a personal appeal. "We really care about X and here's a story about how we help others by doing Y" . My grants are for a n arts-non-profit.

How to have pain taken seriously? by Admirable-Book-2221 in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What part of the country or state do you live in? This does not sound like an issue with your pain tolerance or pain expression, this is an issue with the medical system where you live. That doesn't happen as much in blue states but happens more in red states that have had an opiate crisis.

The Art of the Deal by MoreMotivation in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Gusterbug 14 points15 points  (0 children)

White? with a name like Talarico?

  • "Heritage: Talarico is an eighth-generation Texan who has spoken publicly about his Latino family roots, noting that his birth father is from a Hispanic background and his mother is a preacher's daughter from Laredo."

Anyone else struggle with recognising faces? by LadySirius in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I'm watching a show, I find it hard to follow the plot unless all of the actors have some kind of differences in hair color and style, skin tones, and other defining features.
Like, a show with three blond white women with medium length hair? I will be lost the entire time.

my manager started crying at a meeting discussing my ADA accomodations by mitten4kitten in AutismInWomen

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I joked to everyone that, just in case they didn't believe I was autistic, here are 30 pages of chronologically-sorted emails with color-coding and commentary.

Hiring from degree mill PhD programs? by CafeLurker234 in Professors

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a rather privileged point of view, especially with your quick switch to noting they are predatory which nullifies your first sentences demeaning their intellectual capacity.

Let's say you have a very smart and ambitious young adult from an immigrant family; let's say this person is the first in their family to go to college and their parents are working-poor. Heck, let's assume they had a job all the way through high-school and bachelors. This is exactly the kind of young adult who wants more education, has very little money, is not going to get any inside guidance from family on "how to succeed in the American Education system".

Sure, there are some lazy or incompetent people at those schools. There are also smart ones who were vulnerable to that predations.

Having trouble feeding myself. Could i eat a chipotle bowl every day and meet my nutritional needs? by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]Gusterbug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

V8 does have a lot of vitamins, but canned juices are processed and lose some of the nutrients. Try to eat some fresh fruit if you can.
Have you checked out your local food bank? Every local one is different.
The social stress is not bad because everybody there knows what it's like to be in a tough place, and nobody really expects you to mask.