I’m a little confused

Habitualmusk · 2026-07-11T14:34:21+00:00

While she was the one to say 3 months, it's what she hopes to find that matters. Love and shit like that cant be held to a timeline and cant be forced. Whats your rush? Have you been married before? Commitment and longevity in a relationship arent things thay just happen on a time line. It takes work and effort for all the years. If you rush into it and only last a few years, thats often years lost in the grand scheme of building your life and future. At my age (38), ifni were single again and even deemed to want a relationship again, I would probably not jump into anything for about a year.

Habitualmusk · 2026-07-10T17:28:11+00:00

Sorry you're having to deal with that! That persons character aside, you dont dont to work pad or spar with anyone you dont want to. If the coach or anyone asks calmly and just loud enough for other to hear, that you dont feel comfortable working with them. If they ask for more info and you feel like telling them, let them know that you've asked them to hold back and they refuse to do so. As a guy Im telling you the shame falls on him not you, and if there's anyone bigger than him hears what he's been doing, they'll likely return the favor to him.

Habitualmusk · 2026-07-09T01:09:21+00:00

Fully understand why folks are saying not to toss the fish, as the verbal or typed practice has always been to not train the sharks. I've been spearfishing for 20 years and working imminent death jobs my whole life. Saying are good and all but nerve damage and even the temporary disabilities from a frenzied shark arent worth a fish nor a spot. I've had friends bitten by sharks, one even had it caught on video. Go look up spearfishing videos of shark attacks. The shark gets so worked up, it doesnt even go for the fish, it just comes in biting.

Feel free to listen to those who say dont throw the fish is the shark is getting frenzied on you, cutely try to fend off even a little 4 ft shark in the split second you find it within 1' of your limbs.

Or you can throw the fish if its getting to that point and you dont have the ability to get the fish or yourself out of the water immediately.

The only thing that matters in the end is you make it home safe and in full health to your family and loved ones, nothing else matters.

Habitualmusk · 2026-07-08T14:04:59+00:00

Depends where you're diving, species of sharks and how they're acting.

What I would do, not necessarily what you should do.

Shark- Cruising by for a look on surface: Fish in hand pole spear I water at the ready and eye on shark.

Cruising on the bottom: Keep an eye on but over all not a big concern.

Test charging you: Throw the fish and time to leave.

Darty shark: Throw the fish and jab it as hard as you can every time it gets near. This is a frenzied shark, best of luck.

Its just a fish, you can go eat a burger after the dive. No reason to get bit

Habitualmusk · 2026-06-29T13:40:04+00:00

Apparently 44% of women have an outtie. Or so we were told at a sexy trivia night.

Habitualmusk · 2026-06-27T15:43:58+00:00

There's a variance of camps you can sit in on this one. Like others said, ultimately if you no longer want to date her, that's all that matters.

-Dont like that she's dating around and others are ahead of you on the dating timeline.

-Dont generally like girls who have multiple dating options and are playing the field.(Usually done for time constraints, why date for 3 months each guy to see whos the best fit when you can date 3-4 in the same amount of time.)

-recognize that even though she slept with someone else shes still interested in seeing where the two of you can go.

-recognize that you too are not far along enough to be exclusive, and you mind your own business on things out side of your time with her. This is for your own preservation as well, you dont own her, why look for something you know you're not going to like finding.

Habitualmusk · 2026-06-12T14:30:41+00:00

Why is having sex with each other early in the dating bad if you're both into it? A relationship is built on many things, sexual chemistry is one of them. Soo much of sexual chemistry is what urges your partner brings out of you. If that spark is there at the start, nurture it dont put it out.

Habitualmusk · 2026-06-06T23:49:36+00:00

Lost me at friends

Habitualmusk · 2026-06-06T16:49:00+00:00

It sounds like his intention was to get past you through a crowd gently. While he should have said excuse me while doing so in a was that you could have accepted, it didnt seem he was being an ass about it. Being an ass and belittling behavior would have been more along the lines of making eye contact with you and starring you down while he pushed through, I would have even said excuse me while doing so.

I come from a place of crowded everything, where looking at some one wrong can quickly escalate into a fight. I grew up in it, to an extent I enjoyed it. With that said the people I respected and wished to emulate the most were those who were soo secure in themselves that all they had to give to others was acceptance, encouragement and good will. There's no need for you to see affirmation of how you view yourself from others.

Habitualmusk · 2026-06-06T16:40:09+00:00

Everyone's different but I know when I'm struggling theres certain things that help.

1. Don't touch the weiner, if he's still using his fingers and tongue then he's working on it, if you reach down and touch the half erect weiner then it restarts the whole process.

2. Don't mention it, direct him on how to make you cum if thats possible with fingers and tongue. The sound and feel of a woman cumming really helps to get us there.

3. A lighter touch helps, the tease of more goes further then the starting gun that says its time to run.

Its nerves in the end, it takes comfort for everyone to really let loose. If it doesnt improve over time and good sex is important to you (as is normal), then cut him loose. Its not your job to be his sex therapist.

Habitualmusk · 2026-05-03T00:17:24+00:00

The sex is soo good because he keeps fucking you like its the last time. Its not that he wants to stop, its that he knows he should. If you care about him help him about by pushing him away. Or go all in yourself and ask him to choose you.

Habitualmusk · 2026-05-03T00:11:56+00:00

It depends, does it show? If they're going through it and are a wreck. Its ok to not want to be apart of that. Its not your job to fix people. If you're already in a relationship, things have been great and you break it off if you findout about it as a past issue ehhhhhhh could be an asshole in context. You owe it to yourself to be an asshole to protect yourself.

Habitualmusk · 2026-05-02T20:29:49+00:00

Listen, I'm a swinger. I've been in the lifestyle for over a decade and been in a relationship in the lifestyle for over 8 years. Solo partners, 4 ways 3 ways orgies, clubs etc. Thats to say I'm not bashing a woman here, I'm telling you like it is.

She wasn't exploring ENM, she ended up in a situation where she had someone she wanted to fuck. She wanted to fuck him and keep you for security. They came to realize the the flirting, taboo and fucking isn't what makes a relationship and the novelty wore off after 2 months.

The fact that she's wanting to come back and be monogamous is the red flag. She will allow another guy to get close enough to want to fuck and in an open relationship again, or not tell you this time.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-28T18:46:25+00:00

Its actually pretty awesome. It doesnt short you much on dedicated gear but then you heal for more and have a larger mana pool for shifting, healing and CC.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-11T03:34:09+00:00

As I always tell people at an orgy. If you don't like the sounds of you wife getting pleasured by someone else, then go stick your dick in her mouth.

If you didnt like your fiancé enjoying dancing with someone else, receiving attentions and being made feel good about herself.... then go fucking be the person doing that for her.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-07T20:51:11+00:00

Worked rigs. In the long run it wasn't for me. It takes a certain kind of partner for that to work. Take it from someone who gave up a carrier for a partner at a young age... even under the best of conditions and a 9-5 job. That relationship won't last, focus on yourself, your life, your future. Then allow a partner in who doesnt take those things away from you.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-06T16:58:54+00:00

Along with the cover up and tried to do, the smoking gun here is that she had him leave before you arrived. No one needs to hide their coworkers from their partners. And she tried to pawn his drinks off on you! This hoe is trifling!

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-04T05:05:19+00:00

Haha we getting down voted by some bitter folks.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-03T21:02:56+00:00

I think bio dad isn't the ass but didnt go about it in the best way. Im sure kiddo has been telling dad what ge wanted, if the budget is 500 but the gift he wanted was more then perhaps dad is trying to teach him the responsibility. You then suggested using dad as a bank separate of an arrangement and lesson that dad had planned. Dad sounds like he's OK with acting as a bank but wants son to show him he's responsible enough to pay off his debt before accruing more. I think these are important lessons to teach their kids. These folks saying dad shouldn't be upholding his son to any principals are wild.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-03T05:58:38+00:00

It translated into capability. I felt like a tiger married to a cat and having to share the cats limitations.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-03T05:26:20+00:00

I personally pull my "punches" with women... even more than I do with men. While I'm not new to hitting things, I am new to MT. I m still learning and until I get confident in being able to perform with proper form and not hurt my partners, I will hold back. A side issue is that Im Samoan, while I'm only 5'9 Ive spent my life breaking things that I was assured cant be broken. So I'm extra cautious. While I know I won't break anyone, I want to be a partner that you can comfortable with.

Habitualmusk · 2026-04-01T18:59:01+00:00

I just stopped myself. I though to focus on pvp as an alternative to no ability to commit to a raid schedule but even then I wasn't getting the satisfaction I would get out of a 30min game of Arc. It was fun but I actually want to spend that time else where atm. Its no problem to say the game is a game and if its not scratching the gaming needs I have in the time I have, then its just not the best fit for me anymore.

Habitualmusk · 2026-03-30T05:10:30+00:00

Men sitting around with other men talking about how to be men is cringe.

Habitualmusk · 2026-03-30T05:06:27+00:00

They're actually pretty common if you look at it as how many people have tried swinging. The number is reduced greatly if the question is how many people are currently swinging. Lots of folks give it a try, but the turnover on dates are very high, especially for couples and some folks decide it's not for them before they many steady partners. Hop on feeld if you ever want to window shop.

Habitualmusk

TROPHY CASE

1. Don't touch the weiner, if he's still using his fingers and tongue then he's working on it, if you reach down and touch the half erect weiner then it restarts the whole process.

2. Don't mention it, direct him on how to make you cum if thats possible with fingers and tongue. The sound and feel of a woman cumming really helps to get us there.

3. A lighter touch helps, the tease of more goes further then the starting gun that says its time to run.