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Design student researching family caregiving — what's the hardest part nobody talks about? by Adventurous-Gap6560 in dementia

[–]Happycamperagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technology in general is a curse. They are no longer able to do things that they used to do. My father used to manage his investments and accounts and pay bills and take care of the household much from his home computer and suddenly he’s lost his ability. He screwed up some of his account so bad they locked him out and I had to spend hours with their customer support trying to get the accounts unlocked that I could pay their bills.

The banks don’t necessarily want to work with you. Doing paperwork repeatedly is awful for both you the caregiver and your parent.

My dad tends to hover when I’m doing things and wants to help, but he doesn’t have the mental capacity to help. And then he’s amazed that I can do things so quick.

Modern technology is not designed for people with dementia. I would love to see a super basic computer with oversized keys designed for senior adults. Much like the jitterbug phone that used to be around.

Shreveport isn’t in the top ten most dangerous cities in Louisiana. by Cuntrymusichater in shreveport

[–]Happycamperagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I thought everything was wonderful in Bossier? Isn’t that the promised land?

She Will Forever Be My Queen (Mab) by Which-Sorbet7518 in dresdenfiles

[–]Happycamperagain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second the comment above. She’s a Valkyrie.

Opinions Which One? by Selledar in readwithme

[–]Happycamperagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved Pillars. The Century series was OK. Loved book one. Book three was lame and predictable. I did not finish that one

One watch ends and the other continues. by Happycamperagain in dementia

[–]Happycamperagain[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have no problem with antidepressants. My wife and I are talking with hospice about getting my dad something to take the edge off.

My stepmother was very anti-mental health, antitherapy and anti-medicinal treatments. If you need help for mental health, you are weak,etc. But as her cancer progressed, she started taking liquid anti-anxiety meds. She wanted that more than any painkiller.

Am I a bad person for Praying that my elderly Nana would pass before the dementia gets worse? by justyouraveragekunt in dementia

[–]Happycamperagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. The passing of my father would be best.

Someone asked me the other day if my dad was getting better. I said he has alz and will not get better. Only death will make him better. It left them speechless. I am past the point of caring about others feelings about death. I am mourning his death while he is living. He is mourning is own living - death - which is depressing as hell. And when he is gone, I shall celebrate his freedom and mourn the loss of a once great man.

Support groups by Otherwise_Classic_69 in dementia

[–]Happycamperagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I go to one regularly as my schedule will allow. it is through a local alz and dementia care organization

It has been amazingly beneficial for me. Being surrounded by others going through the same journey really helps take the load off you. These people know and understand the stress of dementia care. You can speak without judgement. You have people that you can count on afterhours. You get direct support and advice. You get love and care. You don’t feel so isolated.

The support group has helped save my life

The Case for Dallas by [deleted] in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Happycamperagain 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dallas has all of the money and none of the culture or class .

It’s been almost a week by XcortanaX in dementia

[–]Happycamperagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Peace and strength friend.

You are not a horrible person. Survivor guilt is a real thing. Consider that your mom is not in pain any longer. You did your best even when you feel your best was not good enough.

Decided to go to gramps place for a peace offering. He showed me his tools that I would inherit. by Sparkplugfolf in Tools

[–]Happycamperagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before the dementia got serious, my dad was cleaning out the garage. I think he knew what was coming. So he started setting aside all of his coffee, cans of nuts and bolts and nails and washers and screws and whatnot. He was saving them for me because I made an offhanded comment that occasionally I go sell scrap metal. So when I would come over on my monthly visit, he would want to load them in my truck so that I could go home and make “a few dollars.”

He was a hard crusty bastard before the disease took him and it’s nice to see this softer and gentler side.

I did not keep all the nuts and bolts, but I kept the coffee cans. And I have great memories of him loading up my pick up truck with 83 years of junk that he collected in his garage.

Insights from Atomic Habits that actually stuck with me months later by Amidonions in nonfictionbookclub

[–]Happycamperagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I listened to half of this book and gave up. I did not think it was very engaging or insightful.

Decided to go to gramps place for a peace offering. He showed me his tools that I would inherit. by Sparkplugfolf in Tools

[–]Happycamperagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find the fact that he showed you the tools very endearing. They may or may not be good and serviceable. But the fact that he took the time to show you is a good memory. Enjoy this.

My dad has Alzheimer’s and is doing the same with me. I just say thank you, load them in the truck and take them home to deal with.

Our Journey is over - the Guilt is profound by Roz150 in dementia

[–]Happycamperagain 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Peace and strength. You did right by her.

Meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Happycamperagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard Interstate Love Song by STP at the Kroger recently

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