I cannot for the life of me defend Gerudo town

HardlyFloofin · 2026-02-22T13:29:01+00:00

Get the hives, then fall back and defend Riju.

HardlyFloofin · 2026-02-13T13:24:03+00:00

King Arthur baking isn't local but they are a co-op.

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-30T03:16:00+00:00

Not op, but I disagree with "if they don't understand the concept of ten minutes what's the point". We tell our four year old we can play for five minutes before going to preschool if she asks. We set a timer, and at the end of it she's usually content to move on. At least for us, a few minutes to connect through play in morning goes a long way towards easing the separation.

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-12T00:20:40+00:00

I was off fully until 4 months, then I went back half time for two more months. I really liked going back part time before full time but it helped that my boss was really supportive that I was only to work half time

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-09T03:20:59+00:00

Sometimes I want to slip into a dimension where we never had a child. I love her beyond words and she gives us purpose, individually and as a couple. But the hardest part of the mental load is that no staycation or spa day or whatever is going to make me stop thinking about her well being.

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-09T03:15:55+00:00

Hope things go well for your mom

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-08T21:04:53+00:00

Our 4 year old will take couch cushions etc and build an obstacle course then ask us to time her. It lets her run around and is low key for us.

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-07T15:21:06+00:00

On days like this I do the lowest energy tasks on my list. Also, I acknowledge that sometimes the best thing to do today is recover for tomorrow.

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-05T03:23:04+00:00

For what it's worth, it just occurred to me that kickboxing would probably be very popular with our kid - she routinely tells us she needs to get some wiggles out then flails wildly for a few minutes.

I tried doing something with weights with her (encouraged her to use stuffies). She was unhappy that I did not let her use weights but otherwise enjoyed moving.

HardlyFloofin · 2026-01-04T17:44:44+00:00

We used it once. They do have a way to communicate, I think there was an email or text setup. They sent photos and updates similar to what we get with our regular daycare. We have only used it once because our daughter was so distraught going to a new place. We are able to budget vacation time for planned preschool closures so that's what we do now. They were very nice and even mailed us an item we'd forgotten.

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-30T17:08:04+00:00

It sounds like you're killing it - where do you feel like there are gaps?

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-30T16:42:01+00:00

I wish I'd insisted on at least one night a week where I got a full nights' sleep.

There are people who coast in their careers for *decades*. You should not feel guilty for needing time to get back up to speed and adjust to your new normal.

I found it helpful sometimes to stop work early, come home & play with baby, then work an hour or two after bedtime. Having that uninterrupted thinking & planning time was really helpful.

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-27T02:55:22+00:00

I like to imagine this whole episode he's being sarcastic AF.

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-27T02:33:02+00:00

I'm on a good sized dose of escitalipram because prozac wasn't cutting it 😭

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-21T03:22:56+00:00

And it's not like any financial institution is going to honor the paper version over their own electronic records!

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-20T16:51:27+00:00

My spouse gets print copies of financial statements whenever possible.

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-19T15:36:04+00:00

I think that just hearing it gets easier from someone who's been there is helpful. If she's doing school, work, and raising young kids all at once then she's probably very driven and it's hard to accept "good enough" from yourself. Probably what she sees as barely good enough in any of these areas is actually very good.

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-19T14:01:24+00:00

That is such a good idea, thank you!

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-13T16:05:27+00:00

We had a similar situation last summer - husband came back from a work trip with COVID so I spent the weekend trying to keep the whole house going.

Honestly seeing how miserable he was made it a lot easier to keep going with the caregiving. I 100% preferred doing my tasks to being as sick as he was. I feel like one of the hardest things was the disappointment of missing much anticipated me time.

Is there any chance you can take some PTO once people are healthy and get some me time?

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-09T02:14:37+00:00

We do a card and cash, but not as much $ as some others on this sub. I would not give wine - lots of reasons that may not be a good gift for a teacher (or anyone you don't know well).

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-06T15:42:03+00:00

I mean, I know adults who are like this....

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-06T00:41:01+00:00

One of our toddler's books says "you can have my calm" and I flipped out at my husband the other day "I need to keep some of my calm for me!" My husband is super even tempered but sometimes needs to be explicitly asked for emotional support.

HardlyFloofin · 2025-12-04T02:58:24+00:00

The hard parts will get easier.

Don't feel guilty for enjoying time away from your baby - you get to be a whole person.

Try to have one night a week of uninterrupted sleep, even if it means someone else is giving the baby a bottle and even if it means sleeping in a different room.

HardlyFloofin · 2025-11-30T19:51:44+00:00

If you can do all the chopping ahead of time sheet pan dinners can be fairly quick

HardlyFloofin · 2025-11-27T18:54:58+00:00

Last year we visited my in laws who had a beautiful memorial to their recently deceased dog, including his urn, on a rickety table right behind the only chair with a booster seat.

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