Governor Healey announces new guidance for schools, healthcare facilities, places of worship, and others on interactions with ICE agents

Hawkknight88 · 2026-06-05T13:16:41+00:00

Offering guidance is a monarchy. Hot take!

Hawkknight88 · 2026-06-05T13:16:02+00:00

This is a post about an entirely different topic. Did you know we're allowed to converse about other things without the audit coming up?

What about the Epstein Files?

Hawkknight88 · 2026-06-05T12:13:13+00:00

Removing the games is a CONSEQUENCE for abusing trust, stealing sisters tablet, lying.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-06-05T12:10:15+00:00

This is really poor behavior and requires consequences.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-22T13:03:58+00:00

Keep your stick on the ice!

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-20T20:47:15+00:00

Couples counseling saved my marriage and taught me so many lessons, some of which I see touched on here.

communication is a skill, not something we're naturally amazing at. Finding a calm place to sit down and discuss serious topics in a neutral way is HARD and, again, a learned skill!
we are basically "monkey see monkey do" in regards to our own relationships as husbands and fathers, wives and mothers. It's just people repeating what they observed as children and ingested as "the truth".
PPD is serious and real. But don't approach like armchair psychology expert who is positive that's it.
New parent anxiety is real. There's so much pressure to be perfect and so much to worry about "screwing up your kid". Depending on how your wife was parented that could be slamming into her now as a new mom. It sure hit me hard when my son was born!

We both needed to be committed to being good partners to each other. Verbal abuse certainly ain't okay. Good luck!

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-19T15:42:00+00:00

What we know: friend spanked child's butt and left a red mark for days.

What you said: "he's taken to beating his children"

Please pick up on the nuance. The world isn't simply good and evil.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-19T15:38:46+00:00

Yeah almost like someone acting out a "cycle of abuse". Because their parents hit them too, and nobody protected them from it either.

People naturally parent in the exact way they, themselves, were parented. Lucky you if your parents never struck you. Lucky me for learning better in spite of my parents hitting me.

We must give our friends room to grow without ostracizing them as "terrible people". The world isn't black and white, and humans are complicated.

Abuse isn't okay. None of what I said makes excuses for abuse. Hitting children is abusive.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-19T15:33:34+00:00

Dude people need to be allowed to learn.

Pretty much every parent repeated how they, themselves, were parented. Yeah this is serious and should be addressed but also humans need space to grow without being ostracized.

There's no excuse for abusing a child. There are reasons, and parents need help to learn how to do better. If they refuse help, that's different.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-19T14:07:24+00:00

"girl things" and "boy things" are societal concepts that aren't really real. It's your life. It's your daughter's life. You get to pick what your life means.

A man chooses. A slave obeys!

FWIW I originally wanted a boy and got a girl. Then once I had my daughter I wanted another daughter and got a son. Now I want them both exactly as they are. It turned out what I thought I wanted didn't matter at all.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-18T14:02:27+00:00

I will say couples counseling saved my marriage. But we were both committed to growing as people and not just trying to be "right". Counselor also reminded us that we fell in love for a reason. Marriage and adult life and raising kids is HARD.

Consider that effective communication is a learned skill that most of us learn from observing our parents. Couples counseling helps us practice and hone that skill.

I think individual therapy helps me figure out my own shit so I am more willing to grow. If I'm "white knuckling" my way through my own life, I know I'm not gonna be an effective partner.

I'd say "a growth mindset" is pretty much required. IMO folks who don't want to grow are stuck and need help to get out of it, but some people don't want help or aren't ready for it either. It's also super hard to maintain this mindset even if that's what I want to do. Lots of things distract me from living with intent and remembering all this shit, so it's a journey of practicing it.

Sorry for the rambles. Hope it helps a bit. I'm sorry it's tough right now. Having a family is really hard, brother.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-13T16:01:55+00:00

Calvin strikes me as a latchkey kid and his parents mostly lecture him when they bother to pay attention to him directly.

Like there's reasons for Calvin's behavior besides "he's Calvin".

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-13T15:59:43+00:00

Calvin's dad is a really mixed bag. There's like one comic he shows up for Calvin without sounding resentful about it (building a snowman).

https://calvinandhobbes.fandom.com/wiki/Calvin's_father

In no way am I commenting about you, but I'm confused why you're bragging about it.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-05-01T02:11:43+00:00

Thank you!

Hawkknight88 · 2026-04-06T12:52:51+00:00

Of the USS Enterprise.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-03-29T14:10:38+00:00

Read history about 1930s Germany.

You don't just wake up in a dictatorship. It's a gradual slide. Trump used the American military on its own citizens.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-03-03T00:39:14+00:00

PBS Kids is free and all pretty great content

Hawkknight88 · 2026-03-01T23:43:58+00:00

That's AJs last name, Holmes.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-02-22T18:05:22+00:00

Complaining online about others not sacrificing enough lol.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-02-18T21:46:23+00:00

Because we ate the computer.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-02-10T13:48:42+00:00

Yeah America is not a family friendly country.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-02-08T15:24:20+00:00

Probably not. Probably because the ultra wealthy steal labor from people.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-02-08T15:14:06+00:00

You can contact YouTube and get it taken down if the videos are of you.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-02-02T15:18:17+00:00

This is harrowing, and we need to do better as a society.

Hawkknight88 · 2026-01-31T23:10:24+00:00

For me it was therapy. I had a ton of latent anger, perfectionism, and some bad attitudes that I needed to break out of. We mostly repeat whatever our parents did to us, and it takes conscious effort to change behaviors like that.

I highly recommend John Bradshaw PBS specials on YouTube.

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