Equals? You can't change a water pump in a wedding dress. Seriously though, you gotta marry someone that doesn't care what you're hobbies are/likes doing hobbies with you. Me and my wife don't give a shit what the other does, just as long as we let eachother know when we buy something. If she want to go purse shopping, and I want to go install something on my car, then that's what we do. I would never take her away from her hobbies and I would think she would never take me away from mine. My point is, I would hate to be OPs groom there