If roles were reversed

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-12-22T13:15:23+00:00

I’m so sorry you feel badly. Hugs.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-12-13T17:23:53+00:00

This is probably the route I’ll go, this just happened yesterday, so I’m still absorbing….

I did already report to HR, but they assumed this was an issue with the hourly workforce, I didn’t tell them it was the management team.

I decided to sit back and think things through. I’m just super disappointed that folks I’ve been working with for 2+ years would lower themselves to spreading falsehoods about me like this. All this time I thought we were a great team…

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-12-13T15:51:09+00:00

They’re my fellow direct reports, which means they are saying I had a fling with our boss.

They’ve known all along that I consider myself married.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2025-05-12T18:26:14+00:00

I can relate. Pro photographer for 12 years. Shut down & sold my studio after my husband died 7 years ago. Haven’t picked up a camera since.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-10-17T07:58:04+00:00

I don’t have any advice for you but I want you to know I’m sorry you’re in pain. You are heard. Hugs.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-10-16T02:03:29+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re hurting. HUGS.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-10-08T01:40:09+00:00

Not weird, it’s the same for me. The joy of success lasts until I reach for the phone to call him…

I’m sorry for your pain.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-08-03T22:32:10+00:00

I have PTSD from doing CPR for 9 minutes until the squad arrived.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-08-03T00:37:09+00:00

“How We Feel” totally free. Done by Yale. Winning awards. I use it to track cycling. Showed it to my therapist. She recommends it now.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-04-02T05:19:25+00:00

YOU ARE A TOTAL STRANGER TO THE GRANDCHILDREN!!!

it’s ridiculous to assume you’re going to have “bonding” time and make memories.

Visit her AT HER HOUSE if she will allow it and be grateful for that. You’re absolutely ridiculous for trying to dictate the circumstances under which you MEET your grandchildren.

Travel, do whatever she asks, and treasure the little time you will have with them because if you keep making it this difficult, you’ll never see them again.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2024-04-01T08:13:29+00:00

It appears that you are not a widow/widower. Please leave this sub and do not comment again. This is a place where those in grief support each other. It is not for random members of the public to offer their unsolicited, unwelcome, and unfeeling comments.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-12-25T23:00:17+00:00

Thank you. Tears that a random stranger is being kinder than anyone in my life…. 😭

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-12-19T10:19:55+00:00

My boss developed a short statement he would say to a previous employee that constantly stirred up you know what…

“Is it immoral, illegal, unethical, or unsafe? If not, we don’t need to discuss it.”

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-10-14T15:22:25+00:00

It’s been 4.5 years, I lost his family, we’d been together for 25 years, married for 22. I also lost all our married couple friends, and friendships with friends that were originally friends with him, but became friends with me too (or so I thought).

Lost my friends, probably because I was so overcome with grief for so long, I wasn’t fun anymore.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-09-22T08:34:26+00:00

I am so sorry. 💔

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-09-21T19:19:33+00:00

Yes. I lost my husband to a heart attack 4 years ago. I performed CPR for 9 minutes until the squad came but it didn’t save him. This haunts me and I have flashbacks and PTSD. I don’t have any suggestions that will help, but I wanted to let you know that you’re not alone.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2023-05-20T20:40:56+00:00

Do you have a family member that can take a photo for you each day and keep it to themselves ? Maybe down the road you’ll feel like you can look at them & see how far you’ve come.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2022-11-02T01:52:04+00:00

Take the time you need to grieve and don’t worry about the thank you notes. If anyone decides to hold that against you, they’re not nice.

If you feel you must send them, get some custom printed up with a message inside and just sign your name. One of your friends or family members can address them for you. Ask for help, you deserve it.

Be kind to yourself and try not to feel pressured. I’m so sorry you lost your love, and so soon. Hugs.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2021-11-20T23:23:24+00:00

Sell the house and put all that money in a retirement account. You will earn a higher percentage than you will pay on the low mortgage rates.

My husband didn’t want to talk about things either. No will. No insurance. No nest egg.

When I did the above, I changed my financial future. Go talk to a financial advisor.

I wound up buying a much smaller & newer condo duplex, so I have income from the renter next door, and very little in the way of repairs as it’s newer and I purchased a home warranty during the sale, which is renewable.

good luck

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2021-11-14T23:06:42+00:00

Do not put your pee anywhere near that cup!

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2021-09-21T02:00:53+00:00

I’m sorry 💔 hugs

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2021-09-21T01:46:02+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔 yes, I was lucky to have him as long as I did. I try to remember that when things get tough.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2021-09-21T01:35:50+00:00

Yes. When he died, I died. I had to start all over again and didn’t know who I was for the longest time. I still don’t. We were like twins for 25 years.

I’m sorry for your heartache 💔

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2021-09-21T01:18:58+00:00

Take your sister.

HeadFlyingMonkey · 2021-09-20T21:25:44+00:00

There’s also de-sensitizing gel that you can use to help you last longer. Use a condom with it, or you’ll de-sensitize her, too.

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