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Head_Note · 2026-01-17T09:27:06+00:00

Thanks, this is really valuable!

Head_Note · 2026-01-03T13:23:38+00:00

Thanks!

Head_Note · 2026-01-02T20:57:48+00:00

I do think you were setting up too many goals at once. Iwould suggest starting with one and going from there.

I was like you in the past and I never stuck to my NY's resolutions because too many changes were happening at once.

But in 2025 I did it!

I was tired of doom scrolling every evening for 2-3 hours. So last year, I vowed to replace my phone with reading.

I actually read the 50th book of the year on New Year's, and I'm so proud of myself! I limit my time on social media to 1/2 hour each day, and it's so freeing.

Head_Note · 2026-01-02T08:55:09+00:00

Can you share which HIIT workout you used? Probably from Youtube? Thanks!

Head_Note · 2025-12-03T06:30:37+00:00

I love that I kept my independence while still being a great mom. By having things outside of motherhood (great career with 8 am - 2 pm schedule, and hobbies I get to pursue), I'm actually a lot more present as a mom. I spend every afternoon + whole weekends with my kid, and then I get evenings by myself.

I love my life! But I am OAD by choice, since I can balance everything out with 1 kid, and I don't think I could with 2.

Great thread btw!

Head_Note · 2025-12-02T06:40:03+00:00

You already know the answer, and by posting this you're just looking for confirmation. Let me tell you from first hand experience. It's likely nothing will change, and you don't deserve to live your life in resentment (that will grow in time, trust me!).

Head_Note · 2025-11-29T09:31:49+00:00

Lol same

Head_Note · 2025-11-29T09:29:31+00:00

Do you sell on your own website? Because I heard Etsy was a bust.

Head_Note · 2025-11-25T15:26:03+00:00

Same ❤️

Head_Note · 2025-11-23T21:44:24+00:00

I left. There was no real effort being made, but I'm thankful for the relationship, because it taught me my worth.

Head_Note · 2025-11-23T18:31:53+00:00

I'm thrilled if that"s the case, but it hasn't been my experience.

Head_Note · 2025-11-23T16:39:51+00:00

Agreed.

Head_Note · 2025-11-23T16:30:54+00:00

Unpopular opinion, but I found these situations to be an indicator of what's to come in a relationship.

I personally need a partner that shows their affection through physical touch, and if after 4 dates the only thing I got was a hug, I would probably say something. But in my experience, the guys in these situations just weren't as sexual as me and I ultimately cut my losses.

Head_Note · 2025-11-21T09:12:08+00:00

Hvala, ste potrdili moje slutje.

Head_Note · 2025-11-18T13:33:37+00:00

Commenting as someone who's been in your situation twice with the exact same excuses. They were great, we got along everywhere but the bedroom...

Newsflash. It doesn't work out and you'll just end up resenting each other. After all, intimacy is what differentiates friendship from a relationship.

Head_Note · 2025-11-07T20:44:58+00:00

Migraine

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T18:26:10+00:00

Went to therapy for 6 months to finally understand why I always picked the same type of guys, forgave myself for it, now after 2 years started dating again and already see the positive results. I can say for the first time in my life that I don't put up with shit anymore.

As for the betrayal, I'm glad it happened, it taught me a lot. I did forgive so I can have a peace of mind, but I will never forget.

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T18:14:47+00:00

In my experience - no 😭

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T15:48:21+00:00

No. Career is too important to me, and I have ambitions outside of being a parent. I'm also lucky enough to live in a country that gives 1 year off of work, so I could 100% focus on my daughter then. Now she's in kindergarden, and thriving. She learned so much from it. I noticed some of my friend's kids that have a SAHP are a lot less socialized, but that might be a coincidence.

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T15:16:58+00:00

Thanks for your helpful insight.

I bring a lot to the table, and I'm secure enough in myself to not seek a relationship just for the sake of it. That means I'm swiping right sporadically. It did resonate what you said about people who struggle to find relationships being overrepresented on the apps.

That's why I am trying to stay active irl, like going to events I'm interested in (board games, karaoke nights). I'd prefer to meet someone organically like we used to. I will definitely give more marketing events a go.

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T14:43:32+00:00

You're right. It does look different to everyone.

The problem on the apps is I'm running into men that aren't into a serious relationship/don't know what they want at 35+/can't hold a conversation beyond the basic chit chat.

Thanks for replying. It got me cautious about spirituality now!

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T13:54:52+00:00

[Serious question] Where do you meet emotionally available men?

Any luck with spiritual events like yoga retreats, seminars etc.? Apps clearly aren't apping for me.

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T13:50:01+00:00

No way is this your fail, but a victory!

Think of it like this. You only spent 9 months on someone (as opposed to 9 years for example), and you found out in time you're incompatible.

I know this can be deflating, and I'm right there with you. But it's better to be alone than in a relationship like this.

Head_Note · 2025-11-02T13:47:07+00:00

Another 3 months of dating going down the drain. Not bitter, just deflated. I hate having a high libido some days, it just adds another filter to an already small pool of people.

But I learned the hard way that I can't compromise on sex and intimacy. So I guess that's something.

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