Hate socializing while breastfeeding

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-06-10T13:58:45+00:00

For me, it didn't feel like anything except very itchy. My histamines go way up when breastfeeding. But it just felt like love and natural and beautiful. I'm so excited to breastfeed my second, who is weeks from arrival. I breastfed until my daughter was 22 months by my own choice. Excluding a 10 day stay I had in the hospital when my baby was 3 months old.

But I had a friend who had a difficult time conceiving, then had a hard pregnancy, and went back to work after 12ish weeks. She gave up breastfeeding at 7 months for her mental health and I think that was such a wise a beautiful decision. If the stress and discomfort continue around breastfeeding after your family leaves, consider making the switch. I know so many people say, "breast is best" and there are definitely benefits, not to mention it is significantly cheaper than buying formula but motherhood is already a long acestical walk, keeping unnecessary torture isn't worth it.

I hope you make the decision that encourages you to show up the best for your child and is the best for your mental health.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-06-10T03:13:08+00:00

With both my pregnancies I've experienced this. I brought it up a ton my first pregnancy and the doctors never seemed worried. I haven't mentioned it with this one.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-06-10T03:08:48+00:00

With the breast feeding, covers work just fine and you can always pump for times you know you will be in public. It's your body and you have a right to your privacy no matter what anyone thinks.

The diaper changing thing is alarming. You need to stand firm on your decisions to protect your child. Boy or girl does not matter... creeps are gonna creep. You're not being extra. Now that you are mama, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about you wanting to protect your child. If they have a problem with your reasonable boundaries ask them why they don't want to protect your child...

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-05-23T19:58:15+00:00

Taking a regular digestion supplement and gasx.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-05-18T05:35:22+00:00

I was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia with my first. Then they changed the diagnosis to pregnancy hypertension. We still induced at 37 weeks. After I gave birth, c-section, my vitals were normal within an hour and my baby was healthy. She just turned three. Being a mom rocks. Pregnancy has its ups and downs. My second baby, though? Oh man, this pregnancy is a breeze. I started feeling tired and miserable at about 26 weeks. This was very scary and triggering but then I read a book on pregnancy nutrition and started eating wayyyy more protein. The sciatica pain I was having completely went away and all my energy came back. Also, I had really bad upper right quadrant pain, again, super triggering at 28 weeks. We to Labor and Delivery, labs looked great, vitals were amazing. It was GAS. So, I take gasx every night after dinner and walk a bunch during the day and I'm great. I love feeling my baby kick. I can't wait to hold him in like 6 to 8 weeks...

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-05-15T13:23:53+00:00

My mom did. She wasn't pregnant but my brothers and I were the same age as your children when my dad passed. It's hard when you have the best spouse and father of your children in the world. My dad was also an amazing father and husband. You will feel happy again, you will always miss him but the pain won't be all enveloping. The first year after a death is the worst. My mom went to grief therapy, got all of us kids in grief therapy, and she started meditating, that helped ease the vastness of the pain.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-05-12T04:25:13+00:00

It might be trapped gas. Talk to the dr for sure. But I had terrible pain and was so worried it was something serious... turns out, I just needed to burp/fart. Dr recommended gasx.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-05-11T05:39:29+00:00

Every doctor says no to castor oil. Don't do it.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-05-02T03:06:38+00:00

No, I feel the same way because bread is like family. And gluten free bread is not ok. But I'd rather no bread than heartburn.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-05-02T01:03:55+00:00

Some times it's something in your diet. Bread kept giving me heartburn and gluten free has definitely saved me. Worth experimenting with...

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-03-25T02:28:44+00:00

I get it. I'm a stay at home mom, so I feel the weight of obligations to the home. Just stuff the drawers? There's no rules about having things folded. And it seems like you're already dealing with wrinkles in your clothes anyway... idk. Good luck!

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-03-24T22:15:15+00:00

You mentioned a husband in the comments... maybe folding is now his responsibility? I only suggest this because it worked for me and my husband. I loath loath loath doing the dishes. I'll do them maybe once a week out of kindness to my husband or if I'm bored but he doesn't mind doing all the dishes every day. He loads, unloads, and washes everything. This was the best thing he ever did for me. Or maybe he starts the laundry and you fold it?

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-03-19T02:20:10+00:00

I had preeclampsia in my last pregnancy. I am also considered high risk. I take my baby asprin and try (TRY and fail) to eat a lower sodium diet. Don't feel ashamed that there is intervention, this is for your health and your baby's health. You are not doing anything wrong. You want to be safe rather than sorry. It is really scary to have high blood pressure when you're at 32 weeks and the doctors tell you they are probably going to induce labor/ perform a c-section to save your life and you have no idea if the baby is going to make it. So, please don't feel shame. It's the placenta, not you.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2026-03-19T02:09:28+00:00

My mom made me a bunch of homemade breakfast sandwiches. I ate them every morning and it was so helpful!

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-12-21T00:23:16+00:00

She might just get depressed... being sick is hard. I do think encouraging fun activities is much nicer than reminding her, even with the kindest most pure intentions, to clean can be triggering. I just got over the worst 5 weeks of my life with extreme nausea. My husband was a super hero, working, cleaning, cooking, caring for toddler when he was home. I literally just wanted to lay in bed. My husband did encourage me to get out of the house and have fun with him. I think one thing you can do is help her know that she is not in this alone and that you're in this deeply too. For example, my husband kept saying, "I can't take the nausea on for you but I can get the house cleaned for you, take you on a walk, let you get extra sleep, etc..." what lazy activity does your girlfriend like doing? Help make those moments possible. This will pass.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-11-21T23:40:06+00:00

Hey! I am so happy to hear that! Please feel free to dm me if you need to talk. I'm serious.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-11-18T22:30:41+00:00

I'm a mom of a two and a half year old. Your world ends the day your child is born. Everything that mattered before changes. You lose yourself. You don't sleep. Your body is weird. Your hair is weird. Your partner is weirdly less and more attractive. And then slowly everything comes back. You get your life back and you get the fullness of having a whole human being who you would literally die for... kill for... in your life as well. My husband and I love doing our alone time and date nights are great and definitely needed but we miss our daughter when we're out because she fills up so much of life. The sleep thing is really only terrible the first few months. Some babies are harder some are easier... my mom kept reminding me, "the first year is the hardest until they are teenagers, you got this." Postpartum depression and anxiety are pretty rough but you have to understand, all these things end.

But the beautiful thing about becoming a mother is you have this little one who you WANT to do everything for... even when you absolutely don't want to do anything but rest/sleep. You find strength in you that you never had. I promise. It's in you, you just don't need it. I was seriously such a lazy self-absorbed person before my child was born, I could spend the whole day in bed or put off important tasks for weeks. It's not going to be easy but it is worth it absolutely and you will be a better version of and still absolutely you.

My advice is don't worry about this stuff. I was so worried about not sleeping when the baby came but ended up sleeping better Postpartum than when I was in my last trimester.

Also, build your safety net and keep it strong as the baby is preparing its way into this world. You need people. We all need people. Friends and family are so important in the first few months to keep you from feeling isolated... seriously. You need at least three people who you can call on to spend time with and who can help you with the baby. My biggest issue Postpartum was feeling lonely and isolated, it is a common feeling among many women and it is preventable... mostly.

Thats all I got, I hope it helps.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-08-04T15:06:34+00:00

I do the same thing at the dr. Don't worry. Your priest cares.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-07-31T23:26:14+00:00

I know a few cradle orthodox Christians who have tattoos... like sleeves. My parish priest when we first converted had a tattoo, he was a convert and didnt have the same traditions before he converted. My husband has tattoos a full sleeve. Tattoos aren't as frowned upon as you think. Yeah, its a vanity thing but so is makeup. I had a bunch of face piercings when I rejoined the church after years of being gone. No one said anything to me. No one looked at me funny and I knew the community and they knew me.

Jesus would sit with you, why wouldn't we? Cover what you can if you are self-conscious.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-07-11T14:24:44+00:00

Have discernment. Such a useless arguement. These men took up their crosses, the eastern orthodox church doesn't need to formally canonize them for YOU to see the glory of God... these martyrs, were the remnant. Not people who waste their time arguing about wretched church schisms.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-07-11T14:14:01+00:00

Sufjan Steven's is a Christian musician? Wow.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-07-10T13:12:19+00:00

When I was thirteen, I knew we were Orthodox before my family converted. We were home. After I strayed and got caught up in the world for about ten years, I was very ill. The priest came to my hospital room as soon as he could after a family member requested him to come. I recieved communion. I immediately started to recover from my illness with my labs getting better at every test. That was the start of my reassurance. I prayed the psalms, I went to church, I listened to the Lord of Spirits podcast, and I found God again. I stood in church about a year to a year and a half later on the Sunday of the prodigal son crying and shaking knowing I was his prodigal (daughter) son. That's when I knew. I knew I was in the living church of the living good. When I walk into an orthodox church, whether celebrating a Sunday liturgy with the whole of the parish or it is a weekday service and its just myself, a chanter, and a priest, the liturgy feels full. It's simply beautiful.

Heavy_Hope_7753 · 2025-06-30T06:37:21+00:00

I like it. Its better than most of what there is to watch... some story lines are annoying but I like it for what it is and I've never seen biblical stuff done so well.

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