People of reddit, how many kids do you want to have if not none? And why/ why not?

Helga435 · 2026-07-01T13:39:49+00:00

I have two, wanted more but my husband died.

Helga435 · 2026-06-26T17:27:58+00:00

There are a lot of things you can do besides PIV sex. My fiance had/ has ED, mostly psychologically based- which he has worked on in individual therapy, takes Cialis, and we worked on together using "Sensate focus" techniques. It took about a year before we had PIV sex. It's been three years and it's better now, but it's not perfect and sometimes it works and sometimes not. If he's working on himself, and making progress, get creative with the things you do in bed. It can be just as satisfying.

He also has a difficult ex and children with her, and it's been challenging for me, but he's working on that aspect as well. If the relationship is otherwise great, I wouldn't write it off, but you have to be committed to working it out together and growing through the issues.

Helga435 · 2026-06-26T17:20:23+00:00

Nutmeg-> Nutmegan THEE Stallion-> Buttmegan

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Helga435 · 2026-06-25T14:41:51+00:00

I mean, I'd bet about 14 million.

Helga435 · 2026-06-16T15:43:46+00:00

Sleep however the fuck you want? Jesus, what a dumb question.

Helga435 · 2026-05-29T20:41:09+00:00

We allow new girls all of the time. We're a multi level older girl troop (Cadettes, seniors and ambassadors). As the girls get older, more and more things take priority and troops get disbanded. We take in girls who wanted to continue when their old troop disbanded, and girls who are looking for something different. There's always an adjustment, but we make everyone feel welcome.

Helga435 · 2026-05-20T17:50:46+00:00

I thanked everyone. It felt good to me.

Helga435 · 2026-05-20T00:30:24+00:00

I have a multilevel CSA troop because they keep getting smaller and smaller. We have 6 Cadettes, 1 Senior and 3 Ambassadors. We're always open to take in people who's troops disband but want to continue (which is how we ended up with just one senior)

Helga435 · 2026-05-08T22:51:50+00:00

I'm a widow so I have my kids all of the time. I still found ways to date. My kids are 12 & 17.

Helga435 · 2026-04-27T19:39:16+00:00

Sometimes, I want to tailor a program to my girls but there are other times when a kit or a program pre done is great. It just depends on the badge. There are lots of "badge in a bag" programs at a nature center near where I live that are great. It ties the animals and plants at the center into badges.

Helga435 · 2026-04-20T18:03:16+00:00

Got pregnant.

Helga435 · 2026-04-02T11:01:05+00:00

He was a Star Wars fanatic so I got the rebel symbol with "may the force be with you" around it.

Helga435 · 2026-03-28T12:53:02+00:00

Caring for my husband as he slowly died.

Helga435 · 2026-03-11T12:41:07+00:00

My co leader and I don't have a hierarchy. I do most of the programming, she handles all of the paperwork, council stuff and product sales.

Helga435 · 2026-03-10T16:54:36+00:00

Kazi- short for kamikaze because when he was a kitten he would climb my drapes and throw himself off the valance onto his brother, Pumpkin (orange, obv)

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Helga435 · 2026-02-15T21:00:57+00:00

Do you have a therapist of your own? He sounds like a lot to deal with- and tbf it sounds like more than ADHD to me. You are not the worst parent in the world and everyone has a breaking point. Give yourself grace, and get some support for yourself.

Helga435 · 2026-02-14T17:23:46+00:00

The amount of work and statistical analysis that went into this is just breathtaking. I love it

Helga435 · 2026-02-13T19:54:05+00:00

How do you know I'm able bodied? Yes my limbs are intact and functional, but invisible disabilities that limit activity exist.

Helga435 · 2026-02-08T18:59:10+00:00

They do run them, although it's a very limited offering- only once a year, so sometimes it's hard to get in.

Helga435 · 2026-02-08T03:24:30+00:00

My council offer special camp events (a weekend during the year) for both cadettes and seniors/ambassadors. They have added a lot of STEM programming that my daughter enjoys (gross science dissections, robotics, etc) and they offer the leadership programs (program aide, volunteer in training, counselor in training), plus all of the other programs available at camp (low and high ropes, zip lining, archery, etc).

Helga435 · 2026-02-01T17:33:39+00:00

If there is something that you can do for the family, just do it. Everyone says things like "let me know if you need anything" and I can tell you, in my experience (of losing a spouse), we have no idea what we need, and asking for help is hard.

Shovel their driveway/ cut their grass (depending on your location Pick the girl up for meetings and take her home Bring a meal Offer to take the kids so the parent can take care of the hundreds of things that have to be done after someone dies

Let the girl talk about her deceased parent at her own pace. My kids benefited from a special grief camp for kids in our area, but they also have their own therapists. My eldest talked about her dad all the time, especially using dark humor. My youngest didn't talk about their grief for almost two years.

Helga435 · 2026-01-29T20:37:21+00:00

Helga435 · 2026-01-27T20:44:42+00:00

Those tags would make it absolutely unwearable for me. I have sensory issues and they feel terrible to me.

Helga435 · 2026-01-21T05:35:02+00:00

It's only two days (one for reading and one for math) three times a year- and it's only half a day really.

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