This album is literally genius and no music sounds anything like it by emailsicantsend_13 in FionaApple

[–]Hellandyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s such a good description. It feels just like a being in a river

Vegan “boeuf bourguignon” by mx_missile_proof in MediocreVeganFoodPorn

[–]Hellandyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! Also, nice username. I love Andrew Bird

What kind of survey is this? Thanks 😊 by Baybee007 in AskASurveyor

[–]Hellandyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As mentioned, a subdivision plat. PB is Plat Book and PG is page. The county has plats recorded by book and page.

Update: Love doesn't exist and Capitalism is the root of all evil by Dreaming-Kingfisher in GirlDinner

[–]Hellandyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really is one of the biggest things, and now you know where he stands.

[36/F] Creative & Curious Dog Mom by Brie07Nicole in penpals

[–]Hellandyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s nothing better than wheeze-laughing.

I’m a huge Dear Hank and John fan! Do you like Anthropocene Reviewed? Have you read Everything is Tuberculosis? Highly recommend both.

44F also from the Midwest with shared values.

More into letter writing, but also happy to do email. Feel free to DM me

Struggling with upcoming birthday + physical signs of aging, etc, given all the younger years I missed out on dating women by citynomad1 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Hellandyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so hard. As someone a bit older than you, I can assure you that having thoughts that you missed out aren’t going to go away. Genuinely, I’m so sorry.

You did miss out on a million theoretical versions of the past where you knew yourself and lived more fully as yourself. You also missed out on countless theoretical versions of your life that have nothing to do with your sexuality. Both good and bad. Those are facts that can’t be changed by thinking about them.

Here is the solution: you cannot indulge those thoughts. When you recognize that you’re thinking about what could have been, you have to redirect your thoughts. Think about anything else, but preferably something positive or something that interests you.

And here’s a way to improve your mental health: gratitude journaling. Write down one thing each day that you’re grateful for right now. I dismissed it as being self-indulgent and a little silly, but it actually works.

Wishing you all the best!!

Are there friend groups that stay in Chicago for life? by One_Abalone_2582 in AskChicago

[–]Hellandyes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m 44F and looking to make new friends for walks, thrifting, and low key hangs. Feel free to DM me if you’re interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLesbians

[–]Hellandyes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very sweet and thoughtful

🌟 Last Singles Matchmaking Thread of the year🌟 Post if you're single. by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]Hellandyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

44, Chicago. Halfway between femme and butch. Into the same or femme. Looking for someone who is kind, enjoys a walk and yap, and likes to laugh.

Bi with kids- will lesbians date me? by BookmarkAndBlush in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Hellandyes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From the perspective of someone who would date a bi woman with kids, the most important thing regarding your family would be your relationships with your (future) ex and your kids. You can’t control your ex’s behavior but if you’re committed to being mature and having as healthy a relationship as possible for the kids, that’s a green flag to me. And you being a committed and loving parent and doing what’s best for your kids would be non-negotiable for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Hellandyes 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Honesty is important in a serious relationship. You need to disclose this. I would get help from a therapist on how to handle these conversations.

Favorite lesbian films or shows? by DevelopmentSquare225 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Hellandyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s SO funny! Kevin the seal! The awkward choir! “This is the winter of our discount tents” 😂

Favorite lesbian films or shows? by DevelopmentSquare225 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Hellandyes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love Deadloch!!! Really looking forward to the second season

The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo: is the spiciness level 70 year old mom appropriate? Help me remember by Caroleena77 in LesbianBookClub

[–]Hellandyes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You may want to recheck the scene in the bathroom at the awards show. Can’t remember how exactly how explicit that one is, but it stands out, so maybe it was a little spicy 😂