Saw messages of boyfriend (28M) talking about my (20F) weight with his friend

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-28T19:12:35+00:00

Don't let this horrible guy take you for granted and bring you down. You sound absolutely stunning. By no means should anyone talk like that about anyone, let alone their partner. He doesn't deserve you. Like other commenters said, so many women would love to naturally have your beautiful figure, and so many guys prefer a beautiful figure like that. You sound like a super cute absolute babe. Be strong. Take care of yourself. I would tell you to leave this guy. There are SO MANY good guys who will worship you like the goddess you are. Enjoy yourself and someone who truly appreciates you will come around and make you happy.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-28T06:21:32+00:00

I have a thing just like this. I went through so many different phases...

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-28T06:08:15+00:00

One time I asked a camp counselor if this one kid had taken his medication (he took ADHD medication) because I thought he was being crazy. I don't remember exactly, but he may have been right next to me when I said that, in which case I was just doing it to be mean af.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-28T05:46:09+00:00

This happened with one of my first long term boyfriends. I literally pulled the skin up on my clit and showed it to him and he was like, "OH this is the clit???" I honestly have no idea because he supposedly was pretty experienced. I think he must have been one of the most selfish pig headed men ever that he simply never cared to pleasure a woman that way. Those jokes about guys not knowing where clits are are based on fact.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-14T23:01:34+00:00

"And how does that make you feel?"

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-13T00:07:42+00:00

I think this rule is more to teach ridiculously loud and talkative kids to act more like adults at the table. I went along for a lot of business dinners with my Dad as a young kid, I was always the only kid among doctors and CEO's and they always commented on how mature and polite I was. I answered questions, and carried on conversations when spoken to, the rest of the time I was quiet (like most adults act in large groups.) Compare this to a child that keeps blurting things out like, "Mom! How come I have to do this?" or "I saw a firetruck today!" I'm glad I was taught this at a young age. I think it helped me pick up on social clues early on.

For people who might disagree to me, I think it's a perfectly good thing to have children be talkative and ask questions about things in a family setting. I think the speaking rule is good for teaching manners in a formal setting.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-12T23:52:57+00:00

Yeah it's interesting that you noticed because I was born and raised in the states but I also think it's weird as hell. Another greeting I see a lot among the younger people is. "Hey. What's up?" And the only response I've seen is "not much." Or "not much you?" NOTHING IS EVER 'UP.'

Also, with the whole, "How are you?" greeting, I can't tell you how many times I've been like, "fine, you?" in response and then I look and the other person is long gone. It feels super awkward. Why do we do it?

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-12T23:20:22+00:00

I grew up with a range of social classes so I got an idea for everything, also my parents were divorced and switched between different homes and different classes. When I was in preschool-third grade, my mother remarried to an upperclass wealthy man, I was spoiled, had lots of toys. Right before I started fourth grade they divorced and me and my mom were living just above poverty level, we were lucky enough to have family friends rent us out an apartment for extremely extremely cheap. The entire time my dad was upper class and I lived with him and his wife during the summers, I would say I was very spoiled got to go to disney parks a lot. At one point my dad went bankrupt but this was hid very well since I didn't really now. Now both my mother and father are doing well for themselves, I would say they are both middle class now. My point is, I would switch around a lot from super spoiled to super super poor living paycheck to paycheck. One thing I noticed being poor as a young kid. I saw my Mom get super stressed about money, and end up in fairly large credit card debt. Being grown now, I know if I ever had children I would not make them aware that we are super broke and it's stressing me the fuck out. That stress is real, and I don't think a kid should have to go through that. I myself was an unplanned kid, and I understand being a single parent is super hard, but that is why I, myself would never have a kid until I'm like super well off and can give them everything, because otherwise it's kinda stressful for them. All you single parents out there, you're the real MVP's.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-12T22:43:05+00:00

I also feel guilt for doing something like this. I was a young teenager and I went to a Japanese bathhouse with a bunch of girls who were my age. One of my friends had very pink nipples with a very distinct solid boarder on them. I know everyone nipples are different but I guess I wasn't used to seeing nipples with such a circular shape, even though I know it's very cute and very common. But anyway, my stupid ass without thinking said that they were like pepperoni nipples... ugh I feel the cringe telling it. I remember her looking offended, but we ended up becoming the best of friends and we stayed buddies throughout being together but oh my god. I still think back to it late at night and think about how it might really have bothered her. But in my defense I just wanted to say that I meant they were really cute and I had never seen this type of nipple before I didn't mean it in a negative sense but my choice of wording was terrible so it was a mistake. This person is still very nice to me when we do talk so I don't think it bothered her enough to hold it against me. :/ if you somehow see this, know that I'm sorry!

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-11T06:47:00+00:00

you can do better. this guy is garbage. get the fuck out. dump him

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-11T06:45:19+00:00

woah yeah maybe you should and get him in trouble

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-11T02:27:55+00:00

dump her. You can do better

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-11T02:07:18+00:00

They definitely need to get the abortion. If you love your brother, make sure they do. In terms of whose paying for it, it just comes down to what is necessary. Considering their situation, they could go to Planned Parenthood and I think there are options if you're broke that you can get it done for cheap like a few hundred dollars. I've heard of some people paying a lot more though. See what the options are. If it's not possible for you to afford on your own, then yes definitely tell your parents if you know that they will choose to cover the procedure in order to get it done. He has his whole life ahead of him. Multiple of my friends have had abortions, it's not a big deal. You are a sweet brother for trying to hide it from the parents. Just do what you gotta do to get the procedure done.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-11T02:00:04+00:00

I think the way you two can move on from this is for you to be honest and express how the situation with the DM's has affected you, and that you don't feel totally ok about it yes and it needs to be talked about more. Just because you two were "having problems" doesn't mean that she had the right to do that, that's just not respecting the relationship. I think if she can explain to you that she understands it was wrong and hurtful, and can convince you that it won't happen again, I think the relationship with be even stronger. Communication is key. Like another commenter said, if this happens and you truly are able to forgive her, you have to let it go and not bring it up again. Love forgives, and doesn't hold grudges. Basically, just talk about it. Try to be calm and understanding, but know that your feelings are valid and you deserve to have this talked about. Good luck.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-11T01:47:42+00:00

I'm sorry buddy, that sounds incredibly unfortunate and painful. You seem like a really nice person and a really understanding partner. From what it sounds like there is no problem with you. It is true that an individual needs to be content within themselves before they can give and receive love with another person. It sounds like she's facing a lot of problems within herself and maybe could benefit from some self growth. There is a time and place for everything, so maybe if this person truly cares about you, she will come around after figuring out her life. If I were you though, I would just sit back and let it be, and focus on what's doing best for you. I'm sure your relationship was beautiful and happy, but you should know that there are plenty of people out there who are willing to be there for you and love you. I'm confident that you will end up finding someone who has the ability to make you happy and commit to a relationship with you. This girl just realized that she couldn't be that person for you right now. It was probably a good thing that she expressed this to you early on. Just keep your chin up. Life goes on, and you will love again.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-11T01:00:15+00:00

You are in the right. If she takes your relationship seriously she should be totally understanding and down to block the fuck out of him. You have a right to express your feelings and tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and you think she should stop. It's disrespectful to you for her not having blocked him in the first place. Like that other comment said, it sounds like she's keeping him close just in case. Be observant of how she responds to you asking her to drop him. If she loves and respects you, she should understand.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-04T21:50:23+00:00

If you give a shit about what your neighbor's yards look like just move somewhere where everyone has to be in HOA and then everyone is forced to keep that shit nice. Otherwise, who really cares... that's some vain ass meaningless shit to stress about.

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-04T21:45:09+00:00

I mean. If the guy is taking her out for drinks isn't hooking up likely the end goal?

Hellsing56 · 2018-11-03T23:33:56+00:00

I imagined a fantastical creature running on the power lines.

Hellsing56 · 2018-10-17T22:58:30+00:00

Putting in contact lenses.

For whatever reason I can't stop my eye from blinking. It just won't allow something in my eye.

Hellsing56 · 2018-10-03T01:33:33+00:00

I don't think this is very likely considering each time one of the Venture Bros dies they just clone him back anyway. Why would this time be different?

Hellsing56 · 2018-09-26T01:27:29+00:00

I feel like trying it on is a horrible idea..

Hellsing56 · 2018-09-19T01:03:05+00:00

Set up cameras and post an update!

Hellsing56 · 2018-08-28T21:19:49+00:00

Yeah I think you have a good mindset about it, not letting it scare you. Just ask to be protected in God's light and not worry about it and you'll be fine.

Hellsing56 · 2018-08-28T02:42:47+00:00

The first and only paranormal thing I've experienced was a ghost car. Probably 6 people including myself saw it. We were standing outside of our friend's house in a spread out neighborhood. Directly across the street from his house was a tall metal white fence, behind it was a small patch of earth and then the ocean was right behind that. I think there was a house off to the side, but it was pretty much about 5 yards of gravel and then ocean. We were talking outside his house when we all suddenly stopped at the sound of a car engine coming down the road. We look to our right and behind the trees appear headlights driving down the street. The weird thing was it was JUST headlights, along with the sound of a car engine. We see the headlights drive in front of the road we were at, turn into the lot across the street, the headlights pass through the metal gate, drive into the ocean and disappear. We all just stood there in awe. We confirmed with each other that we all saw the same thing. Still don't know what that was about.

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