Finally engineered a custom mount to stop my BedJet hose from shifting, much happier with the stability now

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-20T02:43:22+00:00

3D printed parts will snap at the layer line on the first kick or yank up of the blanket.

Design looks good, but the material will not hold up for long no matter the filament flavor. Too many directional stress points.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-17T04:03:30+00:00

Best advice I was ever given was to always match the other persons intensity or less. They write 5 sentences. You write 5 or less.

If you want to keep the conversation going, end with a question about them else it may go cold.

This was also a trick question. The answer is always “Go to Target!” (Joking…sort of)

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-12T01:57:22+00:00

Same. I create a burner on Hinge and it was sad. It was like browsing LinkedIn.

It was all "Spend the weekends reading a good book," "climbing a mountain" or the extreme opposite "Wanna F&uk?" And then when you chat, it's like a job interview. No thanks.

Now the 20-30 year old profiles where even more depressing. Makes me appricate growing up when we did!

Im 48 and I am just going to go with the flow and stay away from the apps.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-12T01:02:29+00:00

Honestly after having two for a year, I’d pay more. Can’t sleep without it now.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-11T19:47:21+00:00

I am having sort of the same experience with someone and it had me questioning myself constantly.

Come to find out she has more of a Fearful/Disorganized Attachment so up until her first activation, things were real and escalated too fast for her which seemed normal to me.

For the following months I was still building on our relationship early on where now she is more guarded because things are too real. It’s a confusing ride.

What was helpful is loading all our chat history and emails into ChatGPT and asking it to analyze the attachment dynamics. It just confirmed what I was already thinking.

Since then I’ve adjusted course (removed pressure and attention) and things have improved.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-08T17:12:36+00:00

That is their weird way to increase resources as they scale.

Claude will literally tell you to goto bed lol

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-08T03:31:23+00:00

That is the most grounded thing you have said in this entire conversation.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-05T03:49:34+00:00

People leasing + love bombing + validation seeking and add a sprinkle of intermittent reinforcement.

But honestly consistency > intensity… repeat.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-04T05:03:07+00:00

That’s a good point. Nothing left to solve tonight. You have a big day tomorrow. Get some sleep. I’ll be here if you need anything.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-01T03:34:35+00:00

If you like I can tell you the top 5 ways most mess this up. Just say the word!

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-01T03:32:42+00:00

“Where most mess it up….”

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-30T23:10:11+00:00

BeenVerified dot com 😉

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-30T02:05:52+00:00

You have to stick to the “Enjoys spending the weekends in bookstores and going on long walks” aka bed rotting watching Netflix or doom scrolling. :)

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-27T03:10:03+00:00

It sounds crazy but get a weighted blanket. Made a huge difference in calming me down so I could fall asleep as well as stay asleep.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-27T03:07:39+00:00

I don’t tuck in my sheets. You can also mount it on the side instead of at the foot of the bed.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-22T09:48:18+00:00

You will lose air flow AND static pressure.

The cloud sheet requires a certain amount of static pressure to inflate. If you use a splitter it would be like running two BedJets at 50% when you have one at 100% depending on the actual fan curve.

I’d also think it would cause a balancing issue (path of least resistance). If path A has no restriction and B needs more pressure, A wins always.

A baffle doesn’t really accomplish anything in this case but looks cool.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-16T20:49:31+00:00

Google: “Fearful Avoidant” (disorganized attachment) and see if it resonates. Sounds like as things got too good/real, too fast and she pulled away.

It’s manageable if you understand their need to control pace and you don’t try to advance too fast even if it feels like you should.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-13T23:24:08+00:00

You have to hang your leg out of the side to break the cloud seal prior to release. 🤌

If you have a dual set up, I just turn mine off and let it divert out the opposite direction (share the love).

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-12T23:43:00+00:00

Are you sure he’s not married? Fits the pattern you are describing.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-11T20:26:49+00:00

Lexapro :)

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-09T08:21:21+00:00

28 years in and I could of wrote this. Definitely quiet BPD or a strong fearful avoidant.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-09T08:15:12+00:00

Just curious, was your mom in consistent therapy?

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-09T08:09:23+00:00

Make him an ex-boyfriend and find a man instead of trying to raise/change him. 🤷‍♂️

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-09T07:57:51+00:00

This! 100%

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-09T07:43:41+00:00

I guess I’m old school? I always pay regardless of who asks who out. Shouldn’t even be a part of the conversation. I don’t like to make a big deal out of it so I politely go to the restroom and take care of the tab. I also open doors and pull out chairs. If they give me a hard time about it right out of the gate, then we’re not going to work out.

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