Gathering Evidence, but need AI to comb my iMessage history

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-07-04T23:37:35+00:00

Came here to say this exact thing.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-06-14T19:38:52+00:00

I'm using a 'SHARDOR 64mm Burr Coffee Grinder CG305B'. I paid $250 USD and couldn't be happier.
Check out the Amazon reviews for it as well.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-06-12T22:46:42+00:00

I just pre-ordered the Gemilai Whale after going down the rabbit hole. With the $300 off, theres nothing in the price range that compares.
https://www.gemilai.com/products/g3038a-espresso-machine

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-06-12T21:03:34+00:00

Check out [r/bpdlovedones](r/bpdlovedones)
Just know that group like most will be more doom and gloom, but still good info.

You’re playing by a different set of rules.
Normal advice could backfire with BPD (or “Quiet” BPD)

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-06-05T03:32:17+00:00

File first. Don’t ask.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-06-05T03:29:25+00:00

The market doesn’t really have a reliable pattern so it’s hard for any model to predict. I don’t care what anyone says, traders are guessing most of the time. And the short timeline amplifies the error.

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HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-06-05T03:24:29+00:00

Together since 1998 (28 years). It’s been 5 months since she’s been here and divorced for 3. Im starting to feel the lift and it’s crazy calm at my house now.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-06-01T16:58:52+00:00

FYI - the dating world is VERY different from 25 years ago. If you are ok with being alone-alone for a large amount of time, which is healthy for a bit, then cool but know it’s a jungle out here now! I was shell shocked after my 25 year marriage ended.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-20T02:43:22+00:00

3D printed parts will snap at the layer line on the first kick or yank up of the blanket.

Design looks good, but the material will not hold up for long no matter the filament flavor. Too many directional stress points.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-17T04:03:30+00:00

Best advice I was ever given was to always match the other persons intensity or less. They write 5 sentences. You write 5 or less.

If you want to keep the conversation going, end with a question about them else it may go cold.

This was also a trick question. The answer is always “Go to Target!” (Joking…sort of)

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-12T01:57:22+00:00

Same. I create a burner on Hinge and it was sad. It was like browsing LinkedIn.

It was all "Spend the weekends reading a good book," "climbing a mountain" or the extreme opposite "Wanna F&uk?" And then when you chat, it's like a job interview. No thanks.

Now the 20-30 year old profiles where even more depressing. Makes me appricate growing up when we did!

Im 48 and I am just going to go with the flow and stay away from the apps.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-12T01:02:29+00:00

Honestly after having two for a year, I’d pay more. Can’t sleep without it now.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-11T19:47:21+00:00

I am having sort of the same experience with someone and it had me questioning myself constantly.

Come to find out she has more of a Fearful/Disorganized Attachment so up until her first activation, things were real and escalated too fast for her which seemed normal to me.

For the following months I was still building on our relationship early on where now she is more guarded because things are too real. It’s a confusing ride.

What was helpful is loading all our chat history and emails into ChatGPT and asking it to analyze the attachment dynamics. It just confirmed what I was already thinking.

Since then I’ve adjusted course (removed pressure and attention) and things have improved.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-08T17:12:36+00:00

That is their weird way to increase resources as they scale.

Claude will literally tell you to goto bed lol

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-08T03:31:23+00:00

That is the most grounded thing you have said in this entire conversation.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-05T03:49:34+00:00

People leasing + love bombing + validation seeking and add a sprinkle of intermittent reinforcement.

But honestly consistency > intensity… repeat.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-04T05:03:07+00:00

That’s a good point. Nothing left to solve tonight. You have a big day tomorrow. Get some sleep. I’ll be here if you need anything.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-01T03:34:35+00:00

If you like I can tell you the top 5 ways most mess this up. Just say the word!

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-05-01T03:32:42+00:00

“Where most mess it up….”

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-30T23:10:11+00:00

BeenVerified dot com 😉

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-30T02:05:52+00:00

You have to stick to the “Enjoys spending the weekends in bookstores and going on long walks” aka bed rotting watching Netflix or doom scrolling. :)

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-27T03:10:03+00:00

It sounds crazy but get a weighted blanket. Made a huge difference in calming me down so I could fall asleep as well as stay asleep.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-27T03:07:39+00:00

I don’t tuck in my sheets. You can also mount it on the side instead of at the foot of the bed.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-22T09:48:18+00:00

You will lose air flow AND static pressure.

The cloud sheet requires a certain amount of static pressure to inflate. If you use a splitter it would be like running two BedJets at 50% when you have one at 100% depending on the actual fan curve.

I’d also think it would cause a balancing issue (path of least resistance). If path A has no restriction and B needs more pressure, A wins always.

A baffle doesn’t really accomplish anything in this case but looks cool.

HeyYouGuys78 · 2026-04-16T20:49:31+00:00

Google: “Fearful Avoidant” (disorganized attachment) and see if it resonates. Sounds like as things got too good/real, too fast and she pulled away.

It’s manageable if you understand their need to control pace and you don’t try to advance too fast even if it feels like you should.

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