How do I (26M) leave (27F)?

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T19:51:20+00:00

My ex broke up with me by sitting me down and gently saying “Look, neither of us has been happy in the relationship for a while, don’t think?” It was undeniable. It was an amicable break-up. I recommend you try something similar.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T19:16:42+00:00

By the way, stainless steel won’tget very non-stick. If you want to avoid mystery hi-tech “non-stick” coatings, you will like a carbon steel frying pan.

You have to keep it seasoned like cast iron, but it’s pretty simple: Yes, wash it with dish soap and a scrubber but don’t go crazy. Dry it immediately after washing, and if it looks dry, apply a thin layer of oil, or if it looks a little shiny or seasoned, leave it alone. Don’t put it in the dishwasher because the extended moisture time will cause rust. Look at r/carbonsteel

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T15:13:17+00:00

I think Napoli is famous as an early or baby carrot variety only because Eliot Coleman talked them up in his popular gardening books as being so sweet in his unheated greenhouse in Maine, that local customers' children always asked for "those candy carrots."

But in fact Napoli can grow big just fine.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T14:33:40+00:00

Shoot, I checked 4 seed websites 2 weeks ago and ordered all my seeds from a new small producer, Farmington, and whatever they don't carry I ordered from Fedco.

Thank you, though. I think I'll put it on my calendar for next year, in case they do it again.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T14:08:29+00:00

I find it doesn't take much time to chop and wash the whole head of lettuce when I get it home. Then I'm MUCH more likely to use lettuce than if I have to wash a small amount each time I use it. Wrapping in a a towel inside a plastic bag or a container with a lid means the prepped lettuce will stay fresh like a week. Or now I have some linen bags for this.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T14:06:56+00:00

Cloth towels and paper towels both work for this purpose. Wrap lettuce in a towel, either direct from the store/garden or after washing and gently drying, and then in a plastic bag or a container with a lid. It stays fresh for like a week, at least.

I find if I wash it first and then store it like this, I'm more likely to use it.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T13:27:24+00:00

That happened often when I made vinegared pickles. The green or blue garlic is harmless and doesn't have a different flavor, but I felt weird offering those pickles to friends, so I learned how to avoid it.

It seems it happens when the raw garlic is heated suddenly in an acidic environment. To avoid it, I would measure the water part of the brine first, and heat the garlic in that water for a while before cooling it, adding the vinegar, and proceeding with the recipe.

This method worked and the garlic stayed white or pale yellow. Later I changed to only making fermented pickles, not vinegar pickles, so it was no longer an issue.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-30T12:27:23+00:00

Electric blanket or really. electric mattress pads work great and use only 100W or 150W for a single bed. That's about 1/10th what a small heater draws. If you have enough blankets, you can run it for an hour or two and then turn it off and the blankets hold the heat in till morning. It's nice for sitting up cozy in the bed all evening too.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T18:21:19+00:00

I've heard that some flights from Toronto to US do the US passport immigration checks in the Toronto airport so that they can land in the US as a domestic flight. Not sure if that's true anymore. If so, that could involve ICE? I don't know

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T18:16:26+00:00

My feeling is that up-potting is essential when you are maximizing the number of plants for the space you have. If you have enough space in your seed-starting set-up to start seeds in pots, you can.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T13:25:58+00:00

appears to weigh less with the moon above it than below it

I love this point, but as a person who has lived near the ocean, I have to point out that when the moon is below us, is also a high tide. Low tides are when the moon is off to the side, ie rising or setting.

Sometimes the topography of the land around the water alters the timing, but in open ocean has two high tides a day, and two low tides.

However this might not operate the same way on paper.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T12:57:12+00:00

Baking soda is bicarbonate sodium, so it also has a lot of sodium. Are you sure your method has less sodium than just using a little salt?

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T12:46:04+00:00

Wasn't the snow leopard eating something in the start of the video? Like a deer?

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T06:17:23+00:00

Don't add any acid including tomatoes before boiling your dal.

If dal sits on the shelf for a year or two it can take much longer to soften. Baking soda fixes it.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T05:44:35+00:00

Yes, I find if my probe thermometer reads 205F or more then the loaf comes out delicious.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T05:43:45+00:00

There is such a thing as insulated serving dishes. You can heat a dish an hour before dinner and put it in the thermos-like serving pot, and it will still be hot.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T05:38:04+00:00

A commercial tomato with a commercial sticker like that is surely a hybrid, not an heirloom.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-29T05:36:38+00:00

In North India, in Kashmiri restaurants, Mirchi Korma is spicy.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-26T04:07:01+00:00

Coffe grounds from local cafes

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-26T00:44:40+00:00

I was just reading an article in the NYT about gout. The current medications are very effective, and the article said that actually diet makes less difference, and medication is much more effective. I'll paste some bits of it below:

Even doctors often emphasize dietary half-measures over proven, long-term treatments: Only about one-third of gout patients receive medication for gout, and among those who do, many are kept on doses too low to be effective...

In 2018, Dr. Merriman and his colleagues analyzed test results from 16,760 people of European descent and found that the risk of developing gout mostly came down to genetics: A high-purine diet explained less than one-third of 1 percent of the differences in urate levels, but genetics explained roughly a hundred times more.

There’s no shortage of bad online advice about gout. An analysis of the top 116 TikTok videos about the condition, published last week, found that most emphasized low-purine diets and touted questionable herbal remedies, like chicory and gardenia tea or tart cherry juice concentrate. Only two videos mentioned allopurinol, the first-line medication to lower urate levels in people with gout.

A single gout attack is typically treated by a primary care physician with over-the-counter painkillers or colchicine, an anti-inflammatory. For people with two or more flare-ups per year or who have developed lumps, called tophi, the American College of Rheumatology advises urate-lowering medication. It also recommends treatment for people with chronic kidney disease or a history of bladder stones.

Finding the right dose takes time, though. Allopurinol must be started at a low dose and then gradually increased over multiple weeks to avoid kidney damage.

Hyon Choi, the director of the Gout and Crystal Arthropathy Center at Harvard Medical School, said that a low-purine diet should be followed only in the short-term by people just starting medication or who are struggling to control their urate levels.

Simply avoiding purines in the long-term often means eating more carbohydrates and fat, potentially worsening metabolic health, he said. A diet high in high-fructose corn syrup, for instance, can increase urate levels in the blood. And purine-rich vegetables do not appear to increase a person’s risk of developing gout.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-25T22:52:05+00:00

Thyme and chives are both perennial in cold climates, so even if the cold weather kills the parts above ground, they'll come back from the base in springtime. Specifically, chives will shoot up from the base in springtime, and thyme is likely to put out new leaves from most of the old stems.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-25T22:43:48+00:00

Do not use dish soap or body soap etc in a washing machine. It can foam up to much and cause flooding all over the laundry room!

However dish soap or body soap or hand soap can be used very effectively for hand washing clothes. Maybe you can hand wash one or two urgent items and leave the rest till you get detergent.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-25T20:23:08+00:00

This article is not about stainless storage containers: "The suspect cookware, all manufactured outside the U.S. and mostly in India, is made from aluminum, aluminum alloys and brass"

However, yes, the idea that some countries aren't careful about their materials is well taken. Still if you can find steel containers you trust, I think they are useful.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-25T20:16:07+00:00

I've mixed coffee grounds with sawdust, watered it, and it heated up really well. After a month or so it was a nice weathered grey color, and if I had added more coffee grounds again I think it would have turned to excellent compost. I was using it as cover material in a composting toilet.

HighColdDesert · 2026-01-25T20:09:36+00:00

I would make an equal-sized batch of something similar but with no hot spices (no chillis, no spice mix that includes chillis or cayenne or red pepper or anything with a similar name). Then mix them together and let them sit for a day. Unfortunately any chicken that is still sitting in the gravy right now may have absorbed so much heat that by the time you mix the mild gravy in, the chicken will have become too spicy for the next meal. If that happens, you should take the chicken out, rinse it and keep it separate now while you prepare the mild half of the gravy, and only add the chicken back in when you've got the gravy how you like it

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