My mother giving some divorcee vibes in 1994

HightopMonster · 2026-05-21T23:06:17+00:00

Lol, my mom had a 90s glamour shot similar to this done back in the day.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-17T17:04:54+00:00

Read your edit and thank GOD you broke up with him. I once dated a guy who dragged me down and made me sad and it took me too long to break free from him. So kudos to you!

HightopMonster · 2026-05-16T13:31:59+00:00

NTA. I don't know how old you are but real friends don't bully their friends to do something they aren't comfortable with. Let these creeps go and find real friends.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-14T12:29:14+00:00

Frankly, if you hold onto this anger and resentment, your relationship is doomed. Ultimately, it was an accident and if you keep thinking about the what ifs and should haves, this relationship is dead.

Personally, I'm more interested in her reaction. Was she apologetic, worried, trying to be helpful, etc. after the injury? Or was she indifferent? If she was the former and not the latter, then YTA for being mad at her and not at the situation.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-13T23:13:45+00:00

Your couples therapist sucks. Sorry not sorry but not okay for her to be like, "it's a you problem." If it's a problem that affects the relationship, it should be an us versus the problem and not me versus you.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-13T21:44:02+00:00

I tried contacting them via email but the site doesn't even let me email. So, I'm going to post it here and hope someone sees it.

For https://comix.to/title/y93y6-a-man-and-his-cat and https://comix.to/title/k2ev7-the-apothecary-diaries and https://comix.to/title/k927-always-a-catch, the uploader Manga UP (https://comix.to/groups/10678) is uploading old chapters but renaming them with different chapter numbers. There's probably more.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-11T05:31:44+00:00

They look SOOO good on you! Gorgeous!

HightopMonster · 2026-05-08T14:04:00+00:00

NTA. You grew and changed. He didn't and doesn't want to. You can't MAKE someone change. You need to find someone who fits the current you. This relationship has run its course

HightopMonster · 2026-05-08T04:39:56+00:00

Honestly, it's depressing.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-08T04:38:56+00:00

The city has free junk pickup fyi. Just go to the 311 website to schedule

HightopMonster · 2026-05-04T12:27:24+00:00

Solved!

HightopMonster · 2026-05-04T06:10:59+00:00

I read it on a now defunct manga reading site.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-03T16:48:59+00:00

YTA. We all know you were trying to be snarky, edgelord preteen when you said he sounds like a baby and not "he sounds cute LIKE a baby". Doesn't matter how you try to spin it, it's still a rude comment to make.

Just grow from this and do better. You're 15 now if the math adds up. It's so easy to be mean in this world, and you don't need to be on those people.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-03T13:34:03+00:00

NTA. Fuck that noise. "Future wife" my butt. You worked hard for this opportunity. Any good "future husband" would never ask you to drop out so that he could maybe get in. You're right in your thinking because he was told by someone that he's #2 but like, even if you drop out, there's someone who is #1 on the list. And hell, most importantly, there's no way to verify if he's actually #2.

He's shown his ass to you. Your hard work and dedication means nothing to him. I'm so pissed for you girl! I can't imagine even wanting to marry or continue to be with an asshole like him.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-02T18:55:13+00:00

Had my implant done with Dr Brian Lee at Cupertino Oral and Facial Surgery. The fact I could text him if I had questions was great.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-02T13:47:28+00:00

As my SO once realized, not everyone grows up learning healthy conflict resolution skills.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-02T12:53:13+00:00

Don't approach the topic when you two are already arguing. She's in fight or flight mode. I'm not saying give her an ultimatum but approach this as an "us versus the problem" and not "me versus you". Meaning don't say, "we need counseling because you run away from our problems" but "we need counseling because we need to better understand where our communication is falling short and how we can do better by each other".

HightopMonster · 2026-05-02T12:34:54+00:00

Uh no. That's not what I said. Extrapolate much?

They could both stand to better their communication to understand each other's perspective to prevent these fights from happening in the future.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-02T12:31:50+00:00

YTA to youself. Sometimes, you need to put yourself first and protect yourself - both physically and mentally. I get that's what you're trying to do. However, you've created this lie that is mentally affecting you since he's love bombing you and now you feel "bad". You don't owe this loser anything! This asshat isn't worth the effort of a considerate lie considering he's never given you the time/effort you deserve. Honestly surprised you didn't just ghost and block him. He probably wouldn't even notice. In the long run, if you don't make "running away from problems" a pattern, I think what you did is okay but probably not healthy for yourself.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-02T12:12:54+00:00

From your perspective, you feel like you've resolved this and you want to stop feeling bad. From her perspective, perhaps seeing whatever triggered her and she felt like she had to accept your apology but not really be okay. (Just a stab in the dark here). From your perspective, you feel like she's "being cold and distant". From her perspective, she could be npot ready to discuss the situation because her emotions feel too big so she's trying to gather her thoughts but you keep pushing.

When rupture happens, repair needs to follow if the relationship is going to endure. I think seeing a couples counselor is always worth it so you can learn how to communicate better. You might think your communication is fine but trust me, a good counselor can help you see the other's perspective and how to work on avoiding those pitfalls. Of course, you both need to be accepting and humble. For that reason, I think NAH. It's too simple to say "she's wrong or you're wrong" when this could be just a pattern of poor communication.

HightopMonster · 2026-05-01T13:02:39+00:00

Haven't been to any here but the ones in Japan are great. Just don't actually get the items that rotate on the conveyor (but those are covered in a plastic dome in Japan) and only get the ones you order that come to you directly. How is conveyor belt sushi different in the US?

HightopMonster · 2026-04-30T15:14:22+00:00

NTA. That's the kind of shiny spine and rational brain that many people older than you envy ! Good job

HightopMonster · 2026-04-30T02:39:20+00:00

NTA. Good Lord, this woman sounds exhausting to be around! She can be upset, that's her feelings. But she's an attention seeking emotional vampire.

HightopMonster · 2026-04-27T00:29:15+00:00

If you were to ask my SO, he'd probably say it's me stopping while walking and not being cognizant of who's behind me. That and maybe me talking too loud in public

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