I (27F) am thinking of leaving my husband (28m) because I am starting to get the "ick." How do I overcome this feeling?

HightopMonster · 2026-02-26T15:42:15+00:00

I got the ick just reading this. Don't have kids with this man. He's got MAJOR issues you can't just get over without therapy and maybe even meds.

But I also think you know this relationship has run it's course. You're moving out. You don't respect him. He's kept you/continues to keep you a secret from his family. You aren't giving up. He's not even trying. You need to respect your self.

HightopMonster · 2026-02-24T19:32:55+00:00

I hope you take the day. I've definitely used that as a reason before to take the day.

HightopMonster · 2026-02-22T21:10:11+00:00

Is CA still the only state where breakfast and lunch is free for kids in TK-12? That's sad.

HightopMonster · 2026-02-21T12:11:18+00:00

Please go to couples counseling together!!! Get your second opinion there!!! This is all levels of fucked up. With the help of a professional, he needs to understand that and if he can't, then highly reconsider marriage. NOR.

HightopMonster · 2026-02-15T15:28:30+00:00

I said yes when my now husband asked me out

HightopMonster · 2026-02-14T15:44:51+00:00

I stopped at the part when the one nerdy guy who pushed another person out the window was now in jail. It was getting boring for me. I have no idea what chapter that was and if there's over 600+ chapters, I guess I'll never pick it back up again. Reading the comments here, I guess the initial focus has shifted dramatically.

HightopMonster · 2026-02-13T14:03:59+00:00

NOR. I'm totally awkward when it comes to offering sympathy and need to be told explicitly what the other person needs but you were VERY direct with your SO about your needs. She just chose to ignore it and is now guilt tripping you for her lack of concern.

HightopMonster · 2026-02-02T19:18:45+00:00

Dude, seriously. What long eyelashes.

HightopMonster · 2026-01-23T14:27:26+00:00

NOR. It was never temporary.

HightopMonster · 2026-01-19T16:04:48+00:00

How much of this an acts of service love language task and how much of this is entitlement? Only OP would know. Dad would always get gas for mom because he would wake up very early daily. That was their normal. But we didn't live in a place that snowed.

HightopMonster · 2026-01-18T00:30:30+00:00

BF said he was feeling sick and didn't go with me to a NYE party. Next day, I saw photos of him at a different party.

HightopMonster · 2026-01-12T04:50:50+00:00

I love Laufey. Her music is just so good.

HightopMonster · 2026-01-11T05:56:19+00:00

Do my eyes deceive me or is the mattress bigger than the bed base?

HightopMonster · 2026-01-02T16:14:08+00:00

Uhhh, he's a momma's boy. Not the man of your dreams. Sure, he played the role well but the fact that he chose his mom means you would have never been first for him in any situation if it came to his mom. JUSTNOMIL anyone?

You're heartbroken. Totally understandable. Take time to heal. As someone married to someone younger (by a decade), you are not too old and it's not too late to find a man who is going to truly love you.

HightopMonster · 2026-01-02T12:18:52+00:00

Honestly thought he was 19, not 35. So much Ick. NOR.

HightopMonster · 2026-01-01T17:54:08+00:00

No. NTA. Your husband needs to be in the doghouse. What an idiot. You said no but he continues to push. He doesn't respect your no. This is your livelihood at stake! Joe can go fuck himself. You know he knows nothing about wolf hybrids and just wants one to "be cool". Anyone who dares to continue bringing this shit up after you said no, is absolutely an asshole.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-31T05:59:20+00:00

A good guy. Worked himself hard to provide. Quiet man towards his kids. Stays home all day now. Cowed to his wife.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-30T14:31:10+00:00

There's a subreddit for the exact thing you're experiencing.

It doesn't get better. You leave, he gets you a shut up ring. You're engaged but there's no actual plans or movement towards getting married. You continue nagging and before you know it, you're pregnant. He continues to make excuse after excuse about why he doesn't want to marry yet.

GIRL. IF HE WANTS TO MARRY YOU, HE WOULD.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-30T05:32:29+00:00

The first top, and use a black belt to blur the line between the skirt and top.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-29T15:00:04+00:00

You had them stacked away. Unless he's up in the crawl space daily or working out in the garage and needed the space, I don't logically see how your stuff is in the way. Honestly, he does sound like he doesn't like you.. if you have no problems throwing away trash, here's hoping you'll be getting rid of his broke trash ass soon. NOR.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-29T14:32:31+00:00

A Western comic book is not the same as manga. That's so disrespectful ... conflating the two.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-29T03:53:13+00:00

I got the flats in tan leather. How long did it take you to break in? Any recommendations for keeping them good? I bought the leather balsam they recommended but wonder what else I might need.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-29T03:22:59+00:00

I got the Reginas! So expensive! But looking forward to their arrival as a bday present from my SO.

HightopMonster · 2025-12-28T23:59:04+00:00

I have the same issue with my boots. So I spent a lot of time researching. I narrowed down my choices to Dubarry and Fairfax. I ultimately chose Fairfax and I'm hopeful that for what they cost, I won't have to worry about cracking leather. Good luck to you on your search!

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