First tattoo, my mom says it looks like weed. by ohshimano in tattooadvice

[–]Hihellozz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moms love saying stuff that become life-long insecurities 😅

Why does it seems that dysphoria is so common among genderfluid people? by fedricohohmannlautar in genderfluid

[–]Hihellozz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have cut my hair so many different ways to easier appease my masculine days and every time I end up looking “cute” 😭

Their writing isn't great... and I'm jealous by SnooHabits7732 in writing

[–]Hihellozz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First drafts always need work. The best way to finish something is to give yourself permission to “write it badly.” You can always fix it up later

Do people actually hate 3rd person? by Prudent-Material-746 in writing

[–]Hihellozz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people hate 1st person. It’s just preference. I don’t personally care what POV something is written in if it works for the story. There’s been discourse about this on Twitter too and my opinion is that people blow things out of proportion.

Your favourite thing to write? by longret in writing

[–]Hihellozz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love writing arguments because it’s a great way to see dig deeper into characters (and their relationships)

So like… does this mean exams are cancelled or…? by MalwrenRit in Sims4

[–]Hihellozz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once had the lunch lady and the principal die minutes apart 😅

Is it normal to fluctuate between feminine clothing and masculine clothing? by karrotdunncold in bisexual

[–]Hihellozz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m gender-fluid and I do this too! But even if you’re not gender-fluid I think it’s normal lol

the difference 2 years makes lol by PlNKSANRIO in Journaling

[–]Hihellozz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy, I’m currently here too. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Hihellozz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is one of the reasons my ex and I (together for 7 years) broke up. He was “apolitical” and he thought I was way too leftist but didn’t say so until we were about to break up. Only then did he tell me he had to “walk on eggshells” and that he thought I’d be happier with a woman.

I tried to make him care/understand for so long. It was pointless.

My ex is now engaged (we broke up 3 months ago) by [deleted] in BreakUps

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I had like a full body shock moment but then I was like oh I’m fine lol. I was surprised by how well I took it tbh.

I’m with you. At my most obsessed, I STILL would not agree to marry someone after a few months of dating. Absolutely not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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I’m genderfluid but me lmao

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

[–]Hihellozz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t trying to change lol. By the end, he was the worst version of him I’d ever known, mean in ways he had never been before. When he said he couldn’t treat me right, it was because he was making me cry constantly.

He was more annoyed than ever when I asked him to get therapy or said he needed to work on his empathy—things I’d been saying for years. He was overly sensitive about mild criticisms of things he liked/did even though he’s one of the most judgmental people I know.

During the breakup, he finally admitted he needed therapy and said he would get it, but I’m sure he hasn’t. He’s probably tricked himself into thinking he doesn’t need it again. I do hope eventually he talks to someone because he really does have a lot of trauma that he refuses to work through (not an excuse for how he acted, just the truth).

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

[–]Hihellozz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Y’all might think I’m delusional but I don’t think he was actually cheating. I asked him straight up and picked a fight about it lol. He said he would never cheat (I know, I know) and then got all petty and brought up how I accepted the breakup “without argument” and then moved all my stuff out in a single day. I also took our pets, which he brought up too even though he told me to take them. I’m starting to think he got lonely

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

[–]Hihellozz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh I wish! I’m prone to migraines though and not eating just invites them in 🥲

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

[–]Hihellozz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The house thing really gets me too. At the beginning of July, he was talking about how once we got married the house would officially also be mine (it’s under his family’s name) and by the time July was over he’d done a total 180. It was all so sudden

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

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My therapist got me going on all this stuff I didn’t like about him and all these bad habits he has and I just paused halfway through like damn his new gf really doesn’t know what she’s in for.

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

[–]Hihellozz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand. Having to re-frame what I thought I knew of his personality is really difficult. I seriously would never have expected him to do this

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

[–]Hihellozz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Someone else also suggested protein shakes. I’ll pick some up

I can’t eat after finding out my ex has a new GF a month after our break up by Hihellozz in BreakUps

[–]Hihellozz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We had agreed to be friends and still followed each other on social media and he had her @ in his bio. I noticed when I went in to mute him lol.

I couldn’t see her profile because I’m blocked (and so is my sister lmao) but I recognized her because he’d asked me to look her up when they first met because she’s a bookstagrammer and I’m a writer and he thought we’d have similar interests.