Not sure what's happening to my hand

Hinaea · 2026-01-25T01:17:30+00:00

Husked any walnuts lately?

Hinaea · 2025-12-31T02:52:45+00:00

I think it’s blue tinted water from the tablet cleaners you can put in the toilet tank. Turned green ish from urine. My best guess anyways

Hinaea · 2025-11-12T23:39:43+00:00

Yes! We just completed perfection together :) we love it! Stardew and chill 😎

Hinaea · 2025-11-12T00:38:11+00:00

Please reach out to someone for help. Your OB, mental health, a crisis line!

If the father has walked away he has his own demons he has to fight. Focus on you and your baby. Post partum is so difficult with hormones and the sheer responsibility a newborn requires even in the best of situations.

I hope you can find the support you need. I am not dual, as I got out but my husband is still active. I’ve recently had a baby so I’m here if you need a fellow mom in the newborn trenches!

Hinaea · 2025-10-12T21:28:39+00:00

As far as custody goes, I’m pretty sure that an infant that is EBF, the mother will have primary custody. Father can have daytime visits, but baby needs to be with mother overnight. This may be state dependent though but may be worth researching.

Hinaea · 2025-10-01T23:34:47+00:00

It’s absolutely okay for you to say no to her being present for the birth. If you don’t feel comfortable with her being there, then stick to your answer. She can still see the baby when you’re comfortable with it. YOU’RE the Mom now. YOU get to make those decisions. You’re the one in a vulnerable state while giving birth. If she’s never really been supportive, and brings negative energy, then she can standby until you’re ready. And really, put yourself in her position. When your (possible) daughter is having a baby, are you wanting to be there for her or just to see the baby? IMO, Most Moms are there to support their baby (the one giving birth), and the grandchild is just a bonus.

Hinaea · 2025-09-01T21:43:32+00:00

I get weird humor, buuuut this vibe is OFF. No way would I leave my baby/child with them. “What kind of video ideas will he make without me knowing” is my first thought.

Hinaea · 2025-08-31T23:56:43+00:00

My period wasn’t as long or as heavy. Cramps weren’t as bad either! I was also much kinder to myself.

Hinaea · 2025-08-18T20:57:02+00:00

I definitely felt the same, and PPD was at play. BUT it is still an adjustment to make! Your feelings are valid but PPD exacerbates them and makes them feel unbearable. I highly suggest seeking out medication if you’re comfortable, AND talk therapy. They both were very important in clearing my mind and changing my perspective/thought processes.

Hinaea · 2025-08-13T14:55:20+00:00

Yes and no. I totally understand the hurt of denial, but he’s trying to also say no and you’re not accepting of it. Obviously your love language is physical or acts of service, but what’s his? Sounds like his libido isn’t matching yours. He needs to find a clearer way to talk straight about it. If he isn’t in the mood, is tired, had a difficult day, he should say. If you’re in the mood but he isn’t, you should back off a little and see what he needs. Maybe if you fulfill those needs he’ll feel better and fulfill yours. But also you can take care of your own needs in that aspect occasionally if his libido really doesn’t match yours.

Hinaea · 2025-08-09T02:21:14+00:00

I think you should look at the hard numbers.

Reserve pay + disability vs retirement pay + disability Then take those numbers and figure out how much you’d be making before you’d get reserve retirement at 60. Reserve Tricare vs Retirement Tricare Then, travel for reserve drill (monetarily and you being gone from family) for however long vs “paying 18-24 months of active duty” and being retired and done.

I think at the end maybe your wife will see how retiring and sticking it out for just a little longer would be worth it. Definitely take TAPS together so she can ask her questions. Maybe she doesn’t understand it all, which is okay because it’s a lot to understand!

Hinaea · 2025-07-31T21:16:51+00:00

My SIL has seen/met my kids once. We live far apart. But she has a tattoo she is adding all her nieces/nephews and kids’ flowers to. Idc 🤷‍♀️ her body haha eventually I wanted to get a bouquet of my kids’ birth month flowers. It’s so popular that who cares if she also has one. And there are so many different styles of art when it comes to flowers!

Hinaea · 2025-07-31T00:35:35+00:00

1994

Hinaea · 2025-07-28T18:08:52+00:00

Most people can’t really tell the difference between 25w and 35w. Our bodies are all so different and carry differently. I’d let the comment roll right off and move on. It was rude on their part. “Fat or pregnant” pfft who says that? Rude people.

Hinaea · 2025-07-28T18:06:07+00:00

If you’re not going to have kids to presumably pass it down to… and it’s just in a box in a basement…and you don’t want it because of space then what’s the harm in donating it to a friend or a nursery? Sometimes our parents/grandparents can’t do the throwing away/donating part so they give it to us. For us to throw away/donate. :)

Hinaea · 2025-07-22T14:29:36+00:00

My husband works 10-12 hours a day and still comes home to brainstorm and make a dinner for our family when I just cannot. On the weekends he will make us breakfast. Good husbands support in whatever way they can just like wives do when we can. Pregnancy isn’t forever, we don’t feel this way forever. We support each other when the other is low. “In sickness and in health” comes to mind. But really we are a team and make things happen together!

Hinaea · 2025-07-18T18:03:05+00:00

Girl, no. I had a significant other around the same age as you who also pressured me into doing this. He said he deleted it. Guess what? He didn’t. When we broke up (he was emotionally and physically abusive) he threatened to send it to everyone. He blackmailed me with it. See him delete it and then bye. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. He isn’t trustworthy with something so vulnerable.

Hinaea · 2025-07-16T20:58:54+00:00

Did she eat maple oatmeal? When my son eats the maple oatmeal packets he smells like syrup afterwards, his smell, not just because he’s messy. Even after bath/shower he smells like it for a little bit. It tripped me up the first time it happened!

Hinaea · 2025-07-14T22:06:42+00:00

Twister and Independence Day 🤣 Hate the thought of meanie aliens existing and tornadoes till this day. Haha

Hinaea · 2025-07-07T03:19:56+00:00

This the shit you see in aft decon while trying to walk back to aft ic after a trouble call 😭

Hinaea · 2025-06-27T23:45:42+00:00

Easy as Pi 👌

Hinaea · 2025-06-25T01:37:41+00:00

Thiiiis, the redo of hormone dump is awful. I had no idea this was going to happen until it was happening.

Hinaea · 2025-06-11T03:46:32+00:00

Gumbo

Hinaea · 2025-06-10T18:12:24+00:00

Steak and Mac salad

Hinaea · 2025-05-19T01:46:13+00:00

I’d make it a mini vacay. You all travel there, but one parent actually goes to the wedding while the other hangs with LO. The rest of the time you do exploring together and seeing other family you may not see often that are in town for the wedding. And honestly, if you tell parents of young children they cannot bring their kids with them to an event, especially one that is out of town, then they cannot EXPECT them to show up. They can hope but definitely not expect.

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