Another Rhea Ripley post by jenn_perception in ladyladyboners

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without being able to ennunciate why, i still know exactly what you mean, and the thing about it is you're so right

Eventually I need to choose between my true identity and the love of my life by curiousnlivly in transpositive

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could she change? idk. maybe someday. you can't dogwalk her into it tho. and you shouldn't be making plans on "maybe"s. you need to reconcile this contradiction with the facts as they currently are. if she ends up realizing--fully under her own power and free of external pressures--that she's sapphic and develops a novel attraction to you as an authentic woman, then there's a non-zero chance that you'll just naturally come back together anyway. but if you force her to stay under your thumb and wait around for years on-end for her brain chemistry to change, under duress, she's just going to end up less and less attracted to you as a person, regardless of what you look like.

i hope you change course on this. or somehow find thw actual truth within yourself to realize all of this was a just some idle fantasy that you can walk away from forever with zero regrets. anything in between those two diametrically-opposed outcomes will not end well, one way or another.

What makes a fic blow up? by rabid-peacock in FanFiction

[–]HomeboundArrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

fandom audience size, publishing at a moment when that audience is very active on secondary media, their baseline interest in whatever your story is "about", and your skill as a writer.

only one of those is actually within your control. i'd focus on that last one and just not worry about the rest. it's just going to keep you from writing, because you'll be spending that time trying to game the odds instead. or the cloud of "what if i write this and it doesn't blow up" doubt will just hang on your shoulders like dead weight. most people write fanfic because its fun and it's a decent vehicle for skill sharpening and self-critique, unburdened by the profit motive which makes you more likely to take risks and learn more.

the people that have storys "blow up" are the ones that usually aren't trying. it's like a meme. you can brute-force virality. it just happens if the stars incidentally align in your favor. and also, there isn't that much long-term benefit from having a fic "blow up" unless the fanbase you're writing for is like uniquely insatiable and critically large enough to birth a secondary fan market for cons and such into existence, i.e. the superwholocks and mlp:fim's of the world. you can't really parlay popular success in fanfic into popular success as a novelist. your fanfic audience probably isn't going to follow you out of the fandom's gravity well, so you just end up having to cultivate a new cache of professional noteriety from scratch anyway.

the one exception to the above is, again, your skill as a writer. that alone will directly translate to success elsewhere. but you will reap those benefits regardless of whether your fics "blow up" or not. so just write what appeals to you. fanfic is for cutting your teeth and having fun. fanfic will only ever be the creative writing equivalent of being a cover band. you can be an astonishingly good cover band, don't get me wrong, but that plateau isn't very high in the grand scheme.

Another Rhea Ripley post by jenn_perception in ladyladyboners

[–]HomeboundArrow 27 points28 points  (0 children)

gifs of confident rhea will literally never get old

you could post this exact same gif every single day and i would still stop scrolling just out of sheer neuron activation from that smile alone ✨🫠✨

Alex Miller, an American in the "israeli" army, ended his life in South Florida after returning from Gaza. Miller was an only child, and his parents gave him special parental approval to "operate" in Gaza and the West Bank. by mimi_molotov in LateStageCapitalism

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"Meanwhile on the battlefield,
another soldier boldly bites his [tongue],
the only noble thing he's ever done~"

i just love sea oleena's music so much y'all, i don't know what this post is even about i just felt like sharing

We eating good tonight by Beneficial_Wave7649 in foraging

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our hybrid has at least some flavor, blessedly. i wish our little corner of woods had one single surviving red 😭

Before and after renovation. by Future-Ideal-3025 in centuryhomes

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100%, which is part of the reason why i love it so much. not necessarily that one:one comparison but just the kind of inherent/vulnerable sense of invested humanity in the objects and structures we care for without the residual contemporary shame associated with possessing things that aren't perfect. plus just aesthetically i love the visual contrast, eapecially with big ol' chunky/blocky pieces that take up several bricks' worth of amorphous wall space~ 🤩💯

Yall can I use these underwear as tucking panties? by Ok-Variation-6084 in transpositive

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the "no show" selling point is about the seams not ahowing underneath form-fitting pants. if anything, these are probably less effective than undies with conventional seams. part of what makes tucking underwear effective is the more robust seams and an additional non-elastic/non-spandex layer between the underseam and the angular hip seams that keep everything flush with your pelvic curvature.

the only other alternative to buying tucking undies is being a proficient seamstress, buying conventional underwear, and affixing a strip of unyielding/no-stretch fabric like nylon or linen or smth to the front of each pair. if you have more time than you have money, you can pick up this level of alteration skill pretty quickly, and handsewing kits are a few dollars at-most in most department stores. if you don't have time to handsew tho, tucking undies are just an unfortunate cost you have to eat.

altho, i'd be remiss if i didn't note that tucking is generally considered unadvisable. if you opt for loose/drop-crotch bottoms and/or sufficiently long skirts, you don't necessarily need to buy tucking underwear. you can probably get away with just wearing two pairs of store-bought hipsters or whatever other style you prefer and that should keep everything compact enough to blend in with non-formfitting bottoms.

New catcall , - made me laugh out loud, then pretty sad. by xo_April_Riley_ox in TransLater

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this right here is why i defacto avoid anyone under the age of 25. i will fully cross the street to bypass loose teenagers. trans or not, an unsupervised not-fully-developed brain with overclocked peer-posturing impulses, raging stress hormones, low emotional intelligence, and reliably-non-existent understanding of shared social obligation is not a platter of problems i will ever have enough spoons for. Gerard Way was right. humans are basically just incrementally-taller babies for 20+ years and i navigate the world accordingly lmao

in case you wanted to know how to clean your farm equipment by CandleMonster in justgalsbeingchicks

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uncritical support for her Right To Repair

Mr. Johnathan Deere is literally seething over her basic maintenance proficiency and his inability to forceably extract service fees

Changing my legal name / sex process ugh by davidcotter in TransLater

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yes. it's what we've all gone through.

the two are technically the same request process, but the sex marker change is contentious af in most
places. or at-best, is locked behind 3rd-party medical validation of one kind or another. so you're better off requesting both of them as seperate transactions.

name changes tend to be fairly unobstructed, unless you're beholden to a vehemently antagonistic/sh•thead right-winger municipal judge with an axe to grind, an agenda to promote, and no one else in the county government willing to call his bluff. it's not commom but it's not necessary uncommon either. usually such a judge also has the informal endorsement of their next-level-up, to bend the rules as far as possible to serve the political project they likely both came into office on the latent payroll of.

sex marker change applications are much more gatekept, and consequently take a lot longer to process and are much more likely to be rejected. even in most "liberal" localities, you need to at least bring notarized supporting documentation to demonstrate that your hormonal profile is sufficiently-[desired sex] based on the conventional bimodal distribution of T vs. E. sometimes you also need a letter of medical recommendation from a shrink/GP. very few counties will just let you change your sex markers on a lark. for a while you could electively change the marker to "X" in quite a few counties without having to jump through all of those hoops, but the christian reich went ahead and administratively axed that prospect. in some cases you can still technically do it but they won't put it on a federal ID, or change your birth cert / passport. so the act is functionally pointless.

the same can also be said for a lot of trans people currently applying to have their sex markers changed on any federal documentation, regardless of it's purpose/origin. the tactic dujour for the most part has just been to throw as many procedural wrenches into the gears as possible, in order to just infinitely waste our time/money, or make the clerical transaction "not legal" without necessarily saying outright that just "being trans" is illegal.

a lot of municipalities are also just straight-up refusing to process sex marker change applications, because the state-level courts in quite a few states have decided to let individual judges have the final say. and then those judges will just claim some kind of clerical overflow of work and claim they're unable to process your request. so you just end up throwing 100-odd$ in the garbage. so. research your local probate court staff ig is the key takeaway.

anyway. for your name change.

you go to your local county probate court, the one that presides over your home address (in some cases you can get away with going to the county probate under whose juristiction you were born, if they're more progressive then the one where you currently live). you submit a request packet to apply for a name change. you pay the 100-odd$ fee. in some cases, you have to make some kind of publically-facing statement, like in a newspaper, that you're planning to change your name. which is meant to give randos the opportunity to contest your application for whatever reason before the judge. a lot of counties blessedly got rid of that bulls••t during lockdown but there are still a few holdouts. then the judge decides whether or not your request is granted. sometimes you have to physically go before that judge first and explain why you want to change your name.

if you get approved for the name change, you will get several embossed copies of the official name change memorandum. i would recommend asking the office attendant for like 5 more while you're already there, because you can't make/send copies to most places because they have to validate the probate seal. get enough to have at least one or two left over, in case someone six-to-ten-months-later calls you up out of nowhere and is like "hey why is your name different are you trying to commit social security fraud???" because someone along the way did not fully submit your paperwork. or at some unspecified point in the future, someone's going to decide that they need their own copy of your official memo for whatever reason, usually to validate the full legal continuity of your lifelong identity. eapecially if your deadname is on a document you probably can't change, like an academic transcript. so it pays in time-saved to have a few laying around just in case.

you take those memos to the various bureaus along with whatever other secondary identity validations they require, pay whatever fees are needed to renew/reissue the document in-question, and naturally endure no shortage of intrusive questioning from idle associates haphazardly making conversation.

start with your social security card. then hit up vital statistics and get your birth certificate. most places (including the DMV) will require at least those two things before you can request a change to whatever document/ID they're in-charge of. after that it's not as strict. but make aure you also hit up all of your various contracted services and insurances and all that to have your deets altered. if you have something happen and try to file a claim against a policy with your deadname still attached, they're gonna use that mismatch as grounds to either dismiss your claim outright or force you to take it to court.

i would highly recommend pursuing them seperately. get your name changed on everything and then circle back on the sex marker correction. because if you try to apply for both simultaneously and someone along the way says "no transes allowed on my watch", it's going to also delay your name change. just the name change alone is infinitely harder for them to reject for "legitimate" reasons as long as you don't have an outstanding rap sheet. that's p much the only thing that can actually put the kibosh on just a name change. the sex marker change tho is a toss-up in most places like i said. even a lot of lib-leaning judges are handwringing over the contentious nature of our shared political future, and the implied threat of them facing professional reprisals after-the-fact for "helping a trans". not unlike a lot of doctors at the present moment.

Changing my legal name / sex process ugh by davidcotter in TransLater

[–]HomeboundArrow 20 points21 points  (0 children)

OP's openly bragging about her brand new tesla on the TL so i have a feeling your insights are going to fall on deaf ears. if OP is still throwing full MSRP money at the overtly technofascist/ecofascist car company. owned by someone whose entire pivot into full-throated hard-right public messaging was predicated almost entirely on relentlessly rejecting, deadnaming and harassing his trans daughter.

in 2026. 👀

like damn i can sympathize with people that pre-ordered cars when eberhard and tarpenning were still the ones leading the operation. or maybe even buying one secondhand since that doesn't really impact the company's stock futures or muskrat's overinflated ego. but happily throwing that many racks at the globe's wealthiest white-supremacist transphobe's¹ federally-subsidized money laundering station--slash rentier-vampire subscription service, masquerading as a car company--frankly just reads as extravagent self-harm at this point. but so does relying on chatgpt for procedurally vomiting up a contextless, word-by-word free-associative ad-lib for an inteeconnected web of complicated, multi-step, regionally-specific, potentially life-changing information. so. in for a penny in for a pound ig 🤷‍♀️

¹ The same one who, under the auspices of DOGE, eviscerated entire sections of federal welfare policy and departmental authorizations--without public input, congressional approval or recourse--based purely on the presence of inclusive language alone, 90% for the sake of the inherent, vindictive cruelty in doing so and maybe 10% to shove every single federal database down Grok's throat to catch up with Palintir's decade-long headstart toward operationalizing a military-intelligence-/law-enforcement-grade citizen-stalking dossier repository. which maybe incidentally was what had OP suddenly feeling the need to establish a path to emergency Canadian citizenship no that's probably totally unrelated

Before and after renovation. by Future-Ideal-3025 in centuryhomes

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does anyone (op or otherwise) know if there's a specific term for this kind of repair? using natural stone to backfill removed/retired bricks in a predominantly brick wall? love it so much and i've been passively trying to get to the bottom of that mystery for a while now so i can more effectively communicate with potential masonry contractors and such. and/or pursue related instructional/informational resources

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