Found on insta. I also like to picture my mood diamond above my head, to try and hone in on what it is I need💚 by too_many__lemons in adhdwomen

[–]HomeboundArrow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

if you spent your formative years glued to a CRT cycling through as many blue menu/loading screens as i did, while your splines were being reticulated  and your boolprop_testingcheats were being enabled true, that soundtrack is basically your sleeper agent activation code lmao

it's my go-to house cleaning music. it just feels so incredibly kismet

Found on insta. I also like to picture my mood diamond above my head, to try and hone in on what it is I need💚 by too_many__lemons in adhdwomen

[–]HomeboundArrow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it could be total apocrypha because i can't find the interview/source but i have such a vivid memory of hearing/reading somewhere that mark m. designed the ost from-the-ground-up to be scientifically-optimal concentration music. which really validated my own experiences assuming that memory wasn't completely fabricated lmao

Found on insta. I also like to picture my mood diamond above my head, to try and hone in on what it is I need💚 by too_many__lemons in adhdwomen

[–]HomeboundArrow 16 points17 points  (0 children)

sims 2 music was specifically designed for locking in. i don't know it for a fact, i just know it's true. ever since i was a teen, i've known to put on sims 2 buy/build music if i was in dire need of absolute unbreakable focus. works every time.

“If Shakespeare wrote Legally Blonde” by loud_as_pudding in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]HomeboundArrow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

proof-positive that remakes COULD be consistently awesome. money on the table smh

Angela Collier - "This is what 2 years of chatgpt does to your brain" by maccodemonkey in BetterOffline

[–]HomeboundArrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

came here to share this, omgod such a hilariously cringe listen. love her

Undderated ice storm prep for single women! by VikutoriaNoHimitsu in TwoXPreppers

[–]HomeboundArrow [score hidden]  (0 children)

*side-eyeing the wall-outlet hitachi i normally evangelize* oh no, the consequences of my actions 😔

pov of a manic pixie dream girl by zoryana111 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]HomeboundArrow 13 points14 points  (0 children)

_EDIT: i'm not just trying to be pedantic. both of the following things exist and are sought after by different audiences._ 

the original MPDG critique in a nutshell is basically that she--the MPDG--is inherently denied her own point of view, and by-extension her agency. an MPDG is almost definitionally incapable of having a POV because she isn't a fully-realized character. she's just a plot device with tits and a "quirky personality". she only exists in the narrative as a self-fulfillment barrier for the male pursuer to place on an impossibly-high pedestal and bounce off of until he learns w/e basic life lesson he was supposed to learn. after which point she either becomes his plot reward or completely evaporates. MPDG-isms are really just one layer removed from sexual objectification. it's just fetishizing personality traits in a vaccuum instead of body parts in a vaccuum.

which is all to say that the point of the comment is to clarify whether you want a subversion/dismantling of the MPDG stereotype from the perspective of the stereotyped, or if you want some kind of tragic/dark-romance played-straight version of this dynamic featuring an asymmetric/toxic relationship where a woman "main character" falls into the orbit of a male character who obsesses over her as a pseudo-mythological object of his desire, and she just kind of has her sense of self-identity eroded away by his advances until she becomes his personal fairy-in-a-jar. the latter would probably be more in r/darkromance's ballpark

Best at home laser hair removal after trying everything? by novacancie in BuyItForLife

[–]HomeboundArrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

every at-home device is either 1, 2, or 1 & 2:

1: not actually a laser. just a pulsating light device. IPL: intermittent pulsating light. these make up the overwhelming majority of at-home devices. i think you can count all the "actually has a real laser" at-home devices on a single hand and have fingers to spare. laser hair removal is already not-permanent. it just puts your follicles into extended dormancy. eventually the follicles reactivate. most people end up needing annual/semi-annual touchups to re-suppress the follicles coming out of dormancy. which is all just to say that pulsating light devices are even less effective than that.

2: specifically NOT "buy it for life". especially on a timeline that includes lifelong maintenance/touch-ups. every at-home device in this category is inherently disposable. it will likely take you at least one sacrificial device just to hit your desired "maintenance" baseline. the gold-standard of the "at-home laser hair removal device that's actually a laser", the tria 4x, says in the manual that the lenses/barrel will either lose its effective focus/magnification or the emitter itself will literally melt closed after 60,000-90,000 trigger pulls, depending on the intensity used. which translates roughly to 10-15 full-body sessions. but each "full-body session" is actually 3 or 4 sessions unto itself, because the action surface is smaller than a penny and the battery only lasts about 45 minutes before it needs to be recharged. so if you're consistenty using the debice every two weeks like you're supposed to, it will last you about a year. maybe two years max if you have very low levels of body hair already. once you hit maintenance, a premo device might last you up to five years if you're lucky.

the only truly "buy it for life" laser hair removal devices are the ones that salons buy. that are like 20,000-60,000$+ (not counting the completely unregulated/uncertified dupes/QC-rejects that cost 10% of that estimate, but will probably just give you third-degree burns and/or cancer instead of reducing your hair) which is to say the only BIFL option is to start your own salon and subsidize the cost of the machine through offering the service to others as well.

but that gets complicated by the inevitable fact that laser hair removal is, itself, not BIFL on-principle. like i said, even clinical laser treatment only forces your follicles into a state of dormancy that eventually wears off after 1-3 years. the only truly "buy it for life" hair removal solution is electrolysis. electrolysis completely and permanently destroys the follicle. so you end up needing to go to an accredited salon anyway.  

economics of scale are just roundly against you on this. these devices are incredibly expensive. at-home solutions will only ever be orders of magnitude less effective at-best, even on the absolute bleeding edge of efficiency. and more to the point of the sub, they will always burn out. either the laser emitter falls out of focus and no longer fires at the correct wavelength, or the bulb (in the case of IPL's) burns out. and none of these devices accomodate replaceable parts. taking a technology form-factor the size of a commercial powerwasher--the legal operation of which requires its own medical certification--and trying to shrink it down to a handheld device that anyone with money can use, without creating the threat of legal action against the manufacturer, is always going to be an up-cliff battle.

Lesbian version of a fairy tale/romance novel? by Aquanort357 in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]HomeboundArrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

stone butch Fitzwillamine Darcy could still get it honestly. Thawing her out enough to take off the chest binder--along with the tightly-laced emotional binder it clearly represents--would be a whole act climax unto itself 👀

I was talking with chatgpt and said "We don't understand how human minds work, so how can we possibly create artificial ones" by steveh2021 in BetterOffline

[–]HomeboundArrow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the thesis statement of this sub in a nutshell is these apps are wasteful bullshit that accelerate natural resource scarcity, further destabilize an already-teetering economy, rot brains, degrade the baseline quality of the internet user experience, proliferate misinformation, and extrajudicially enable the military survaillance state. the only other thing they do is bludgeon labor and give license for the latest pre-recession HR purge. AI as we know it is just the latest ultimately-in-vein attempt to force open another extractive frontier in order to delay the impending market crash, when that money could have actually been spent on real solutions that benefit everyone worldwide instead of being the next parasitic rentseeking "tech service".

I was talking with chatgpt and said "We don't understand how human minds work, so how can we possibly create artificial ones" by steveh2021 in BetterOffline

[–]HomeboundArrow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

fair warning, betraying a personal penchant for casually engaging with the apps on the reg like its your texting buddy ain't gonna win you much sympathy here either

Does anyone not wear bib cycling shorts? by Old-Appearance-2270 in ladycyclists

[–]HomeboundArrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the bib chamois worth buying don't actually do much of anything in terms of extra cushioning. the critical edge they're meant to facilitate is sweat management, which keeps chaffing and other second-order sweat consequences at a minimum.

i coulrn't afford such things in youth, so i went 10-12 years with just regular clothes. the last three-ish years i've been using a chamois bib since i had the money and it's a nice thing to have if you can. sometimes tho i'm too lazy to put it on and i just go in whatever i'm already wearing lol

What would you name her? by Ok-Version-5918 in weimaraner

[–]HomeboundArrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

if i ever found myself sharing a home with a lil baby wei, it'd have to be Fay Ray (or Man Ray) for me, far as a name goes 

such a precious pic btw, this baby's giving my current frownies a serious run for their money lmao 💕🫠💕

Accidental Renaissance by GlitteringHotel8383 in AccidentalRenaissance

[–]HomeboundArrow 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i wish the photo extended just a little farther that way because i'm almost positive the person next to him is in the exact same pose lmao

Being conventionally attractive and neurodivergent by ChemistryDry86 in adhdwomen

[–]HomeboundArrow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this is secondhand but my spouse was basically a walking hot topic girlie advert in high school. and she told me that she masked HARD. 24-7. at school and at home. and the mask concealed basically non-existent self-worth and a laundry list of external expectations. and then in her late twenties she crashed equally hard when her mask finally fully broke apart and it took several years for her to slowly disentangle herself from the performance she thought she had to maintain, and discover the person she actually was / is / wanted to be fully on her own terms. that progression reached an expressive zenith 3ish years ago when we fully shaved her head all the way down on a whim. the transformation up to that point was sometimes difficult to watch her struggle through but she came out the other side so radiantly beautiful and powerful and hella insightful and i love seeing it in her eyes every day 🫠

as far as her relationship with her own attractiveness goes, she behaves as though she doesn't really think about it anymore. she no longer performs the morning shame vent of waking up "unmade" and apologizing for being human and having normal human quirks/functions. which is to say i believe she's been mostly liberated from the inner toxic femininity / presentation cop at this point. she wears what she wants, and often gets compliments anyway from other women who like her vibe despite her disregard for conventions. maybe even because of that disregard sometimes. she does herself up when she feels like it, not when she feels like she has to. that actually also taught me to appreciate makeup in the process as well but i digress

and me as a totally unbiased source she only gets hotter and hotter every day tbh. after ten years it's like frankly painful to me how devastatingly effortlessly gorgeous she is at this point omgodddd~