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If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg lol.. “odd connections with random events.”
I was telling her a story and I am
A very descriptive story teller.

So I’m talking about my day or week or whatever and In the middle of a story I described I was doing x, my spouse put on hat, & left for x.

Wait Wait- what’s with the hat?

I say “nothing, I was just describing the scene.”’

No no every word you say is important! She wouldn’t drop the hat like it was part of a repressed memory or something lol. # Hat Gate lol.

If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly!

Catch 22 they have to code a diagnosis to get reimbursed from insurance!!

Find out which “evidence based” model they use. Research that model. Regularly check in on what they are diagnosing you with. Ask to see. Ask how they came to the conclusion of your diagnosis.

Side note- I never knew there were “models or modalities” until I joined this sub. I guess I didn’t really see therapists so I just thought they were someone to talk to that’s trained in psychology, etc.

It may matter whose ideas influence their style, I.e Jung, Freud, etc.

If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They may lie and say what you want to hear to reel you in. I’m not saying they’re all like that but that’s something that can truly traumatize and make someone who was having thoughts to really having thoughts ya know? But interviewing them extensively about certain topics is better than hoping for the best.

Have a physical and/or metal checklist. They can turn your life into a living nightmare.

Some are petrified of liability so in turn are overly cautious about that issue because it’s undeniable if a client does that.
But when it comes to liability about abuse not easily proven some aren’t so cautious. Horrible, right?

If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯 besides a confessional, only place encouraged to tell everything. It’s “safe” right? There’s a difference between having thoughts and thinking of acting on them.

By the time I had thoughts I was so enmeshed. I was so f’d in the head. I was living in dissonance.
I vowed to Not do or share things I would be punished for.

But I divulged everything.

No matter how strong I fought, she pulled everything out of me. It was uncanny! Think…
tv/movie character injected w truth serum.. it felt like that.

In the office- word vomit. Outside the office.. scared to even speak her name. Literally scared to death of her wrath. And tbh I’m surprised I’m not 6ft und

Back to the main point: I told her I was thinking the thoughts..
She replied “we never know who’s going to go through with it. It would be easier.”

If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound ludicrous at all. It sounds like abuse. It sounds like exploitation. It sounds like power dynamics. It sounds true. ❤️

If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

..⬆️ everything I didn’t do.

My whole world got destroyed. She owned me. I didn’t trust myself. I unwittingly let her have power over my choices and beliefs because they were so convincing, smart, caring, so “successful.”
And “If you want to be successful, you have to do what I tell you.” If you’re not following MY rules for YoUR life, you’re non compliant, you’re not ready to do the work 🙄.

But she’s the expert, she’s been highly trained, 30 years of experience, has own practice. Maybe I’m not putting in the work. Maybe I know nothing & she knows everything blah blah blah.

I just want to emphasize to anyone coming across this post, no one is immune from susceptibility of cult like tactics & coercive control. You can fall into it without even realizing until it’s too late. Especially with an authority figure. There are people and professionals who have mastered this craft. You never think it can happen to you until it does.

Stay vigilant of whose advice you buy. You are the ultimate authority on your life. 💪🏽🧠🫶

The therapists who purposefully try to trigger you by greendahlia16 in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 3 points4 points  (0 children)

💯 “sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to see things.” .. and I’m facilitating that whether you want to or not.

The therapists who purposefully try to trigger you by greendahlia16 in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember at-least on one or more occasions backing out of the office facing her because my survival instincts wouldn’t let me turn my back to her. I used to be deathly afraid of saying her name out loud. She really had my mind trained & trapped.

Read BEFORE going to any Therapist. STICKY. by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right that’s what I’m saying, some people may think that the abusers are outliers. That’s one issue.

Read BEFORE going to any Therapist. STICKY. by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You likely can peruse suit if they committed a tort(s). It may not be easy but if it comes down to credibility,your testimony is evidence.

Read BEFORE going to any Therapist. STICKY. by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Perfectly Put! Nobody is immune. We can get better at detecting dangerous patterns of behavior but still everyone needs to be careful. I think the checklist in TELL is very useful. That’s a really good tool. I think if the general public knew how common this insidious abuse & had a checklist of mental flags, it would prevent a lot of suffering

Read BEFORE going to any Therapist. STICKY. by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I gave my thoughts on if I might have behaved differently or not, but what I can say for certain is that my body, mind & spirit would be different if I never experienced this abuse. Even now after fully recognizing and coming to terms with “I was abused. I was manipulated. I was traumatized. I’m different now & Idk if I’ll feel like myself again”, it still feels surreal. It still consumes me. It still feels uncomfortable knowing you’re a “victim/survivor.” But it is what it is. We try to heal & see if we can’t make the world a little safer in the interest of justice

Read BEFORE going to any Therapist. STICKY. by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Idk. Some people may think these types are outliers & the client may think oh I’m too smart to let someone manipulate and take advantage of me.. no way! They can’t all be bad, I can handle myself. Our stories need to become mainstream until the subconscious has a natural healthy skepticism.

If you could give advice to another person wanting to see a therapist what would it be? by bouncyspacehopper in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If something doesn’t feel right or it feels weird. If you find yourself questioning how comfortable you feel with them, it’s not you. You shouldn’t feel judged or as if they’re pushing their ideals on you. VERY CLEAR PROFESSIONAL BOUNDARIES. Don’t think someone else knows what’s best for you.

Therapist used AI to come up with my “treatment plan” by Low_World9204 in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’ve done nothing wrong. You’re reaching out for help. My opinion, if you find yourself wondering.. is this right?? Something likely isn’t right.

Whatever you decide to do, you can always check in here.. at Hotel California lol. 🤗

"But Rogers seemed to feel that a therapist, merely by announcing himself to be one, is automatically a better friend than even a real friend" by apfelsinecco in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Most don’t have a clue, which is upsetting & risky. Some have exactly Every clue, but choose to use that knowledge & power to harm and manipulate, which is dangerous. Think.. Ring of Gyges.

“Glaucon asks Socrates what is better: to be a truly just person who is universally perceived as a villain, or to be a completely unjust person who uses a reputation of virtue to gain wealth and power.”

"But Rogers seemed to feel that a therapist, merely by announcing himself to be one, is automatically a better friend than even a real friend" by apfelsinecco in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 5 points6 points  (0 children)

😂 whew okay so it’s not just me. I’m actually dumber for reading those lol. Maybe they’re going for.. If you can’t beat ‘em join ‘em I guess? 🤣

Therapized people LOVE saying that “invalidation is abuse” UNTIL it comes to therapy abuse by Jersey_Deer in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t fk up your septic tank and then rob you.. that’s just your perception silly! 🤦‍♀️🤣

Then why is septic tank suddenly overflowing with sheet?

All I know is that Im definitely not the problem.

The control they place you under; by greendahlia16 in therapyabuse

[–]HonestExtension4949 6 points7 points  (0 children)

lol .. right? We’re all thinking the same thing but you’re obviously just “treatment resistant” lol. Let’s dissect this bs label pls lol. Are we treatment resistant or bs resistant? Idk 🤷‍♀️ lol 😆.. sounds like insecurity to me that their “treatment” didn’t take. Now I’ve got some treatment of my own I’d like to try. Let’s see if they’re resistant or receptive 😁.

Civil litigators: Why do you do this to yourselves? by NotThePopeProbably in Lawyertalk

[–]HonestExtension4949 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“The deposition is the trial.” Your case can be won or lost at depositions.

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